Do you get your sexual needs met?

[DoctorDoctor 1,391]

Just curious if members are getting their physical sexual needs met or still desire more? (I am talking with a partner, not meeting them 'yourself').

Meaning, if you have a partner, with that partner.

Or, if you are single, then with non-longterm partners.

 

[Sophie 24,398]

My husband and I make love on average 3-4 times a week and I am a very satisfied woman. I do masturbate occasionally but that's because I enjoy it, not because I desire more. Sex with my husband is always amazing, very pleasurable, very loving. Different times, different places. We like to mix it up and keep it fresh. Not "Oh it's 9pm on a Wednesday, want to fuck?"

I don't have a single complaint!

[Kupar 13,338]

Yes. These days I do. My need for sexual pleasure has diminished a little with advancing years and I get enough. I'm with @Sophie (not physically of course!) on this one, inasmuch as any solo pleasure is fun, not replacing or making up for lack of sex with K. Our sex life is as better now than ever, but that's not just about frequency.

[MidoriLemonade85 2,366]

No, not really. Sex doesn’t seem to be a priority unless I make it one in my marriage. Many things get in the way or take priority such as family life, hobbies, energy levels, health conditions, lack of privacy, work, etc. It is a hard thing to fit in unless it’s a quickie in the shower when the kids are in bed or sleepy morning sex. I mean, they’re fine but a bit mechanical. 

I wish there was more planning as well as sponteneity. More passion. More mindful appreciation for my body. More fantasy. More romance. More effort. 

I have planned intricate Date Nights but he hasn’t really …or if so they involve video games, dinner or movies. That’s not sex. That is making sex an afterthought. 

Also my orgasms are not prioritised. Those are taken care of by me by myself. 

I’d like to try new things…sex toys, role play, etc. I’d love to involve other people but he has told me that is not his thing. 

I have tried pushing for a few things over the last year or so …pee play, a new vibrator, new sexy underwear for him and regular Date Nights but nothing really helps keep it on track. It is just not on our list of things to invest our time in with a lot of other things happening in life.

So no, I am not that satisfied and some days it makes me a bit upset that my passion and what I can offer in bed goes to waste.

 The positives are that I had some lovely sexy times in my 20s and I cherish those memories. And now I have PeeFans to help me activate fantasies in my head that I can’t do in real life. That makes me happy. 
 

[LovesToWet 3,800]

Basically no, not for a long time now. When we find the time, it's usually same stuff, same positions etc etc. She's not that experimental but I love her

[likesToLick 10,216]

No.  Now that I am old and worn,  I am not considered to be a desirable partner.

I think it is the intimacy that I miss more than anything.

 

[MidoriLemonade85 2,366]

9 minutes ago, likesToLick said:

No.  Now that I am old and worn,  I am not considered to be a desirable partner.

I think it is the intimacy that I miss more than anything.

 

Awwww, sending hugs, lovely. Intimacy is the best part of the human experience. Merging into someone else’s body and soul. 💖 At least you have us…thru the screen anyway. 😘

[Bacardi 10,131]

As an asexual person I'm comfortable saying I don't have any sexual needs that need to be met so I spend the majority of my time trying to meet my husband's. Having kids and school and a physically demanding job (for him) means there's not much time for sex, but we do what we can when we can. 

Would I rather be on the receiving end of a golden shower on the water in Venice Italy with a handsome Italian telling me: "Prendi tutta la mia pipì, cattiva ragazza." You bet lol. But this is my husband of nearly ten years we're talking about. It would cause too much distress to all of us if i left and we have goals we want to reach as a family. Having a dull sex life won't get in the way of that; that's how I feel and that's what he has told me. 

[hibillymayshear 551]

No, I rarely get to have sex and it’s even rarer to experience my pee fetish with someone else. As I get older I’m starting to lose interest but I’m hoping some day I can meet a  girl one day who I can have full sexual experiences with that include my pee fetish. For me pee is a natural part of sex and want to be with a girl who is the same. I have tried to keep my pee fetish to myself and engage in just vanilla sex in the past but it doesn’t do much for me. I really want to be with someone I can do pee stuff with so I achieve better orgasms. 

[on the porch 709]

Ruth here , Until I,met Wayne I never knew that sex could be so rewarding and pleasurable. I had none when I,was not with him . Now I will do anything he asks of me . We are having such a a good time in life .It's truly amazing ...

[GenericUsername 1,108]

Not at all. I’m a 26 year old virgin. Had a lot of extreme social anxiety as a teenager and then Covid happened and I’ve been stuck with parents for several years and finally starting to get things together. Not sure how I want to approach dating but hoping some fun can happen soon.

[MidoriLemonade85 2,366]

1 hour ago, GenericUsername said:

Not at all. I’m a 26 year old virgin. Had a lot of extreme social anxiety as a teenager and then Covid happened and I’ve been stuck with parents for several years and finally starting to get things together. Not sure how I want to approach dating but hoping some fun can happen soon.

You’ll be right, mate. One day you will meet someone who stands out from the crowd and it will all happen naturally. Just be yourself, smile, have fun and talk. The right person will show up. 💚

[BGSB86 847]

Definitely not, I’m single and haven’t had a partner in a while. 

[Carb0nBased 647]

Definitely not, I am like GenericUsername in that I've had little experience with women, and my only relationship was between one and two months, and that was in 2019. Though in reality most of the time I'm more interested in a relationship than sex. Like, that woman I was in the relationship with, we never got as far as actually having sex. Though she actually asked for it a few times after we broke up. It didn't feel right to me though--not because I'm opposed to sex outside a relationship on principle but because I didn't feel it was healthy for us to do that at the time. But nearly all the women who have been interested in me were very unattractive in some way, and it feels like there's some sort of wall keeping me away from people I'd actually be interested in sex OR a relationship with.
 

[Kirby23 954]

Excellent question @DoctorDoctor, very provocative!

For me the answer is yes, and no. I am a middle-aged male, married for 15 years to a woman who I still adore. We have sex once a week, usually on Sunday nights. It's very routine, but also very comfortable. The sex itself is almost always the same, but still satisfying for both of us.

It begins with me massaging her for between 15-30 minutes. It usually focuses on her neck and back, and eventually moves down to her butt and privates.

Sometimes she stays lying on her stomach and begins rubbing herself, and sometimes she turns onto her back and I go down on her.

Usually she cums before I insert, but sometimes if she's 80% - 90% of the way there, I'll insert and we cum together. Once in a while (maybe 1/5 times) she's not able to cum.

We do about 50/50 missionary vs. doggie. That's about it.

My biggest sexual desire is that we could incorporate more pee play. We do some - she doesn't mind me peeing in and on her, which is relatively new. I've written about it a lot here recently. One of my favorite new things is that she lets me pee on her butthole, clit, and vaginal opening while she or I (or both) play. She won't admit that she likes it, but somewhere deep down, I think she might.

But she's never been willing to pee as part of the sex act. That's definitely one way I would feel more fulfilled.

But all in all I feel fulfilled and satisfied.

Edited April 30 by Kirby23

[Moore007 454]

Yes and no. My partner since 10 years is not very interested in sex. She prioritizes sleep, work, family life, pets, cleaning, insta, FB, basically everything before sex 😂 We have Sex maybe once a month and it’s routine. She pees on me sometimes but I have to ask for it which usually feels pretty awkward so I usually don’t ask. She knows about my fetish and we have an arrangement where I can play with others as long as there is no emotional bond that would lead to divorce.

[DoctorDoctor 1,391]

I realized that I started this thread, but didn't post about myself.

My long-term GF is not into pee stuff at all. She views peeing as utilitarian and she is private about it, not sexual. She knows (a little) that I am into it and lets me do my own thing.

Our sex needs are very unmatched. We only have sexual contact together about once a month, but I really want some sort of sexual relief 3-4 times a week. If not, I am nearly sporting an erection at every attractive woman I see.

Trust me, if you want to get a man a gift, give him a BJ, no need for messing with shopping or picking the right size.

[Carb0nBased 647]

9 hours ago, DoctorDoctor said:

I realized that I started this thread, but didn't post about myself.

My long-term GF is not into pee stuff at all. She views peeing as utilitarian and she is private about it, not sexual. She knows (a little) that I am into it and lets me do my own thing.

Our sex needs are very unmatched. We only have sexual contact together about once a month, but I really want some sort of sexual relief 3-4 times a week. If not, I am nearly sporting an erection at every attractive woman I see.

Trust me, if you want to get a man a gift, give him a BJ, no need for messing with shopping or picking the right size.

I must be one of a rare breed of guys who doesn't think blow jobs are a big deal. Like, if I just want to get off I can do that myself. I'd much rather touch and explore a woman's body, in ways I can only do with a woman I'm close to, than lie there with my dick in her mouth.

[Kirby23 954]

On 5/8/2024 at 5:13 PM, DoctorDoctor said:

...Trust me, if you want to get a man a gift, give him a BJ, no need for messing with shopping or picking the right size.

I didn't mention in my post above, but my wife IS NOT into BJs. She thinks it's disgusting, and it triggers her gag reflex. So, unfortunately, I haven't had one in 15+ years 😪.

I definitely miss it.

[DoctorDoctor 1,391]

7 hours ago, Kirby23 said:

I didn't mention in my post above, but my wife IS NOT into BJs. She thinks it's disgusting, and it triggers her gag reflex. So, unfortunately, I haven't had one in 15+ years 😪.

I definitely miss it.

I feel with you! I have trouble remembering my last one, even though I routinely go down on her. (Mmmmm! I really enjoy pleasuring a woman though oral stimulation).

Sure, I enjoy sex more than BJs, but I rarely get sex either.

[on the porch 709]

If it was any better we couldn't stand it , Ruth is amazing .any time any place, all she wants is to please me , she is all the winning lotteries wrapped up in one sweet delicious package .

[jessica1994 71]

On 4/25/2024 at 4:59 AM, DoctorDoctor said:

Just curious if members are getting their physical sexual needs met or still desire more?
(I am talking with a partner, not meeting them 'yourself').
Meaning, if you have a partner, with that partner.

Or, if you are single, then with non-longterm partners.

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I’ve come to accept my wife and I are not super sexually compatible. (She’s still coming to grips with it). That being said we find fulfillment in many other ways from each other. We’re also not 20 somethings anymore. A healthy sex life is like a good dessert. A healthy marriage is like a Michelin quality dinner. It’s so much more complex and wonderful than just a milkshake.

[CharlieS_00 12]

Nope, it's been about a decade since I did anything with anyone. So I've forgotten what sex even feels like. I had a couple of not great relationships in my teens/20s (and the sex was pretty terrible in those anyway), then haven't met anyone since who was both compatible and wanted a long term relationship (I'm not into random hookups). And these days I think it's too late to realistically find anyone that I could build a life with. Most men my age are already taken and/or have done everything with another woman, and they aren't that interested in a repeat of the 'wife, kids, house, pets' thing.

So now I make games as an outlet, as I can put characters in certain situations that I'd find a turn on in real life. Plus other people get a kick out of it too. I'm lucky that technology can fill that gap in my life at least a bit, and it seems to be getting more realistic as time goes on. So hopefully by the time I'm an OAP I can plug myself into the matrix and re-live my life with a partner. Until then, I'll continue making games with other kinky people! 😄

Edited September 7 by CharlieS_00

[DoctorDoctor 1,391]

I am just revisiting this thread to read any new responses.

Nothing has improved in my sex life (or getting my needs met.) I am lucky to get any contact once per month. So my options are to move on from my present long-term GF or have a GF on the side. Neither are good options.

(And, being shorter than average, far from large cities, and not great looking sure isn't good for online dating).

Open to any suggestions from those of you who seem to have figured this out.

[JDG 870]

Yes and no. Yes, because my girlfriend and me both want about 3-4 times sex per week. We both like the same things, we know each others bodies well and we know how to make each other cum. We like the same positions, we both like giving and receiving oral, we both get off massively because of the fact she's a squirter.. All in all, no complaints! 

No, because the last time we had sex is more than half a year ago. In that period she has jerked me off 3 or 4 times, but I haven't touched her at all in any way. But we got a baby in March. Her breasts are leaking a lot of milk which isn't exactly a turn on for her, her breasts often hurt when they're refilling themselves with milk, her nipples hurt because of how the baby attaches herself for breastfeeding, the baby herself obviously needs a lot of attention and my gf's hormones are still raging off and on (she for instance still hasn't had a period yet even though the baby is already 6 months old). All of that makes that she has absolutely no sexual desire anymore, but there's a saying that you're 9 months pregnant and then need another 9 months to get "unpregnant" again so I'm 100% confident we'll go back to the situation I described under "yes"!