Do you get your sexual needs met?

[DoctorDoctor 1,074]

Just curious if members are getting their physical sexual needs met or still desire more? (I am talking with a partner, not meeting them 'yourself').

Meaning, if you have a partner, with that partner.

Or, if you are single, then with non-longterm partners.

 

[Sophie 23,117]

My husband and I make love on average 3-4 times a week and I am a very satisfied woman. I do masturbate occasionally but that's because I enjoy it, not because I desire more. Sex with my husband is always amazing, very pleasurable, very loving. Different times, different places. We like to mix it up and keep it fresh. Not "Oh it's 9pm on a Wednesday, want to fuck?"

I don't have a single complaint!

[Kupar 12,500]

Yes. These days I do. My need for sexual pleasure has diminished a little with advancing years and I get enough. I'm with @Sophie (not physically of course!) on this one, inasmuch as any solo pleasure is fun, not replacing or making up for lack of sex with K. Our sex life is as better now than ever, but that's not just about frequency.

[MidoriLemonade85 1,946]

No, not really. Sex doesn’t seem to be a priority unless I make it one in my marriage. Many things get in the way or take priority such as family life, hobbies, energy levels, health conditions, lack of privacy, work, etc. It is a hard thing to fit in unless it’s a quickie in the shower when the kids are in bed or sleepy morning sex. I mean, they’re fine but a bit mechanical. 

I wish there was more planning as well as sponteneity. More passion. More mindful appreciation for my body. More fantasy. More romance. More effort. 

I have planned intricate Date Nights but he hasn’t really …or if so they involve video games, dinner or movies. That’s not sex. That is making sex an afterthought. 

Also my orgasms are not prioritised. Those are taken care of by me by myself. 

I’d like to try new things…sex toys, role play, etc. I’d love to involve other people but he has told me that is not his thing. 

I have tried pushing for a few things over the last year or so …pee play, a new vibrator, new sexy underwear for him and regular Date Nights but nothing really helps keep it on track. It is just not on our list of things to invest our time in with a lot of other things happening in life.

So no, I am not that satisfied and some days it makes me a bit upset that my passion and what I can offer in bed goes to waste.

 The positives are that I had some lovely sexy times in my 20s and I cherish those memories. And now I have PeeFans to help me activate fantasies in my head that I can’t do in real life. That makes me happy. 
 

[LovesToWet 3,438]

Basically no, not for a long time now. When we find the time, it's usually same stuff, same positions etc etc. She's not that experimental but I love her

[likesToLick 9,846]

No.  Now that I am old and worn,  I am not considered to be a desirable partner.

I think it is the intimacy that I miss more than anything.

 

[MidoriLemonade85 1,946]

9 minutes ago, likesToLick said:

No.  Now that I am old and worn,  I am not considered to be a desirable partner.

I think it is the intimacy that I miss more than anything.

 

Awwww, sending hugs, lovely. Intimacy is the best part of the human experience. Merging into someone else’s body and soul. 💖 At least you have us…thru the screen anyway. 😘

[Bacardi 9,194]

As an asexual person I'm comfortable saying I don't have any sexual needs that need to be met so I spend the majority of my time trying to meet my husband's. Having kids and school and a physically demanding job (for him) means there's not much time for sex, but we do what we can when we can. 

Would I rather be on the receiving end of a golden shower on the water in Venice Italy with a handsome Italian telling me: "Prendi tutta la mia pipì, cattiva ragazza." You bet lol. But this is my husband of nearly ten years we're talking about. It would cause too much distress to all of us if i left and we have goals we want to reach as a family. Having a dull sex life won't get in the way of that; that's how I feel and that's what he has told me. 

[hibillymayshear 439]

No, I rarely get to have sex and it’s even rarer to experience my pee fetish with someone else. As I get older I’m starting to lose interest but I’m hoping some day I can meet a  girl one day who I can have full sexual experiences with that include my pee fetish. For me pee is a natural part of sex and want to be with a girl who is the same. I have tried to keep my pee fetish to myself and engage in just vanilla sex in the past but it doesn’t do much for me. I really want to be with someone I can do pee stuff with so I achieve better orgasms. 

[on the porch 333]

Ruth here , Until I,met Wayne I never knew that sex could be so rewarding and pleasurable. I had none when I,was not with him . Now I will do anything he asks of me . We are having such a a good time in life .It's truly amazing ...

[GenericUsername 1,042]

Not at all. I’m a 26 year old virgin. Had a lot of extreme social anxiety as a teenager and then Covid happened and I’ve been stuck with parents for several years and finally starting to get things together. Not sure how I want to approach dating but hoping some fun can happen soon.

[MidoriLemonade85 1,946]

1 hour ago, GenericUsername said:

Not at all. I’m a 26 year old virgin. Had a lot of extreme social anxiety as a teenager and then Covid happened and I’ve been stuck with parents for several years and finally starting to get things together. Not sure how I want to approach dating but hoping some fun can happen soon.

You’ll be right, mate. One day you will meet someone who stands out from the crowd and it will all happen naturally. Just be yourself, smile, have fun and talk. The right person will show up. 💚

[BGSB86 810]

Definitely not, I’m single and haven’t had a partner in a while. 

[Carb0nBased 527]

Definitely not, I am like GenericUsername in that I've had little experience with women, and my only relationship was between one and two months, and that was in 2019. Though in reality most of the time I'm more interested in a relationship than sex. Like, that woman I was in the relationship with, we never got as far as actually having sex. Though she actually asked for it a few times after we broke up. It didn't feel right to me though--not because I'm opposed to sex outside a relationship on principle but because I didn't feel it was healthy for us to do that at the time. But nearly all the women who have been interested in me were very unattractive in some way, and it feels like there's some sort of wall keeping me away from people I'd actually be interested in sex OR a relationship with.
 

[Kirby23 781]

Excellent question @DoctorDoctor, very provocative!

For me the answer is yes, and no. I am a middle-aged male, married for 15 years to a woman who I still adore. We have sex once a week, usually on Sunday nights. It's very routine, but also very comfortable. The sex itself is almost always the same, but still satisfying for both of us.

It begins with me massaging her for between 15-30 minutes. It usually focuses on her neck and back, and eventually moves down to her butt and privates.

Sometimes she stays lying on her stomach and begins rubbing herself, and sometimes she turns onto her back and I go down on her.

Usually she cums before I insert, but sometimes if she's 80% - 90% of the way there, I'll insert and we cum together. Once in a while (maybe 1/5 times) she's not able to cum.

We do about 50/50 missionary vs. doggie. That's about it.

My biggest sexual desire is that we could incorporate more pee play. We do some - she doesn't mind me peeing in and on her, which is relatively new. I've written about it a lot here recently. One of my favorite new things is that she lets me pee on her butthole, clit, and vaginal opening while she or I (or both) play. She won't admit that she likes it, but somewhere deep down, I think she might.

But she's never been willing to pee as part of the sex act. That's definitely one way I would feel more fulfilled.

But all in all I feel fulfilled and satisfied.

Edited Tuesday at 04:52 PM by Kirby23

[Moore007 208]

Yes and no. My partner since 10 years is not very interested in sex. She prioritizes sleep, work, family life, pets, cleaning, insta, FB, basically everything before sex 😂 We have Sex maybe once a month and it’s routine. She pees on me sometimes but I have to ask for it which usually feels pretty awkward so I usually don’t ask. She knows about my fetish and we have an arrangement where I can play with others as long as there is no emotional bond that would lead to divorce.