Questions for older members

[Brutus 2,206]

I've always valued input and wisdom from elders. 

I have two questions for anyone past their mid-thirties, particularly those who are into their 50's and beyond (such as @steve25805, or @Dr.P for example.)

1. What do you regret doing or not doing in your youth?

2. What do you currently see young people in their 20's doing or not doing that you now know from life experience is a terrible waste of precious time?

Thanks in advance to all who weigh in.

[steve25805 126,021]

I regret being utterly hedonistic, caring more about getting drunk and stoned than about progressing in life. I recognise that much as I enjoyed it, cannabis held me back much more than I realised at the time, sapping my energy and destroying my social self confidence.

I regret living too much in the day and not thinking enough about the future. I would be far better off today if I had done more of the latter.

It is great to have fun, and having fun is something young people especially very much need. We will never talk them out of doing what we did if that is what they want to do. We will never talk them out of getting drunk or stoned for fun if that is their pleasure. But we should strongly advise against them letting such things become the only things that matter in life, and dominating their lives too much. And advise them that the future is much less further away than it seems, that time will pass more quickly than they currently know, and that they must think of the future as well as the present. Have fun in it's place, always and often. Just don't allow it to be the only thing that matters in the present in the interests of security and happiness in the future.

[F.W 5,734]

A few things i would say to younger people are,dont ever get a credit card,or at least reduce the limit to no more than £1000.Dont go through life trying to amass a huge score of sexual partners,but try to find one person and treasure them.Establish many friendships,and work at them.Try have friends that dont think getting crippled by drink is the way to spend your lives.

Theres no such thing as being a nerd,visit galleries,and museums,try get some culture.Dont be told by the media how to think,or what you should believe.Form your own opinions.Be good to people,but in your OWN way,dont let others tell you whats good or bad.

Put aside at least some money every month.Dont spend your income down to the last penny.

[Cuckoo42 1,274]

Wise words indeed.

[spywareonya 37,961]

I'm not that age, yet… I'm 29

But sometimes, when I look back at my abused childhood… I feel old

Almost exhausted

 

If I could say what I regret of my life, is that until I met Alex and started Occult training, I had Always been led by hatred alone.

Hatred against a world that forced me to chose between being killed by my family the next time they beated me senseless, or have them arrested.

 

Hatred, hatred for people, for the future, for my body, for the food I ate, for the air I breathed… a deep, black grudge against existence and its structures.

But later, I learnt how the universe works. Evil comes from abused free will, it's not "the world" 's fault.

I could have suspected it before. I could have chose to be more positive and blame my parents for their choices, instead of considering all the universe a hell created by an indifferent creator (which is NOT, now I know).

I also regret to try to kill myself for the fact that I Always could hear voices in my heads telling me other people's toughts. I tought I was mad (and my parents… talking to them like mommy and daddy? They would have killed me as a demonic freak). I never tought it could be all real until I partecipated in those Freemasons/Military esperiments and was told I'm just one like many, a new step in human evolution, and Governments want to understand and control us to avoid the world become unstable.

I should have trusted my heart instead of the image of a mentally-ill person I crafted inspiring to what I tought society would have said of me, if they knew of my powers.

 

I also regret all the hatred I expressed at those that did not deserve it, driven by the fact I was blinded by it.

I do not regret my outlawed vigilante life, but I regret losing contacts with all the girls I used to fuck back in those times, when I cleared everything in a only-partially-rational need to detach from that life after the Coven disbanded (just after we almost got all killed by mobsters)

 

I also regret that I did not underwent University because I was too poor, with my IQ and my capability to work 12 hours per day I could have faced many things, now my life has its lines and every new promotion and study curriculum implementation will be all infra-work, I'll never restart University blankspot… but I regret it

I also regret not having had the chance to be a teenager, Always with my family and its horrors on my back. First time my mom tried to kill me was when she discovered I tried lesbian sex with a friend of mine back in very early age… and from that on, I hated my body until Alex and Witchcraft saved me from myself

I never got drunk, hanged out with friends… sometimes yes, but I can remember a dozen of scenes alongside my Whole life

 

I regret never been happy or serene. Never ever since I was born. My lullabies were my parents throwing dishes (or the few toys my grandparents gave me) at each other.

I regret all my fucking, disgusting life.

And I regret the fact I needed eight years to start seeing the light, and two more to be completely out of it (and still I find unconscious stuff)

 

 

 

For what I consider clumsy in youngsters, I think the Social Medias created a mental habit where all people are afraid to be backstabbed by a pic took by somebody or modified to look different from reality, I read somewhere on the web that a couple of teenagers broke up because a jelous girl posted a photoshopped pic made to look like he was kissing another girl

This attitude of constant bullying people "for what they did", this "pic-tyranny", this "OMG all will know this!!!", I think make them anxious and aggressive, much more than a simple web problem

I consider it 95% of their big troubles

My advice would be to stop this kind of life, stop masturbating 4 hours a day over porn and than call "slut" a schoolmate on her Facebook page just because she sucked her boyfriend's cock after 3 months of stable relationship, this is mentally-ill levels of dualism and uncoherence.

Stop this web-tyranny and focus more on moral values like hard work and friendship.

 

 

Hope I helped...

[Guest UnabashedUser]

Regrets? I've had a few -- but then again, too few to mention. --Frank Sinatra

Advice: 

• Never play cards with a man named "Doc" 
• Never sit with your back to the door
• Never draw to an inside straight
• In a card game there's always a sucker. Try to determine who the sucker is before you sit down. If  you can't figure out who the sucker is, it's YOU.
• Don't touch hot peppers and then play with yourself.
• Never piss into the wind
• Choose the Air Force over all other branches
• Never argue with a cop.
• Don't answer questions without a lawyer.
• If you're on Facebook, get the hell off ASAP
• If you go armed, keep it hidden.  Don't flash it. 
• Never accept a "No" from a person who does not have the authority to say "Yes" . 
• Once a woman sees your cock, it's almost irresistible to her. Deploy it early during makeouts.
• Don't ask for anal unless you're willing to take something up the butt yourself.

Edited August 23, 2019 by UnabashedUser

[Peefreak99 3,722]

Im not that old but my mind is. What do i regret? Well doing bad things to people who did not deserve it and being driven by anger at society and that i never was lisstned to. And i also regret that i let some people get away with what they did and i let then use me as a shield. I also regret not letting the light in when it tried to reach me but these things are in the past i rather not be reminded of them. For the younger i say DON'T LISSTNEN TO BULLSHIT MAINSTREAM MEDIA DON'T LISSTNEN TO EVERY INFLUENCER DON'T WORSHIP CELEBS LIKE THEY WERE GODS. DON'T BE SO FUCKING BLINDED TRY TO OPEN YOUR EYES AND SEE THE WORLD AS IT REALLY IS. 

[speedy3471 10,655]

42 minutes ago, Peefreak99 said:

 DON'T LISSTNEN TO BULLSHIT MAINSTREAM MEDIA DON'T LISSTNEN TO EVERY INFLUENCER DON'T WORSHIP CELEBS LIKE THEY WERE GODS. DON'T BE SO FUCKING BLINDED TRY TO OPEN YOUR EYES AND SEE THE WORLD AS IT REALLY IS. 

Well said.  Iam 36 so still a young man lol. Experiance is the best teacher so take advice people who have "been there, done that and have the tshirt" lol. 

Ask questions, don't belive everything you hear

[steve25805 126,021]

20 hours ago, spywareonya said:

 

I also regret that I did not underwent University because I was too poor, with my IQ and my capability to work 12 hours per day I could have faced many things

It is indeed a shame that your earlier life made university impossible. You are one of the most intelligent and hard working people I know and would have been tremendously successful there.

But even without uni you have learned to become fluent in many languages. That in itself is a notable achievement

But in the longer term the Black dragon and it's ice face teaches us that none of this matters in the bigger scheme of things. All that matters - all that you can take with you when this life ends - is the progression of your soul, and in that you have made more progress than Einstein or most of the other intellectual greats.

You are a giant amongst us when it comes to spiritual advancement. And no amount of uni could ever have taught you that.

[Cuckoo42 1,274]

On 8/23/2019 at 5:37 PM, UnabashedUser said:

Regrets? I've had a few -- but then again, too few to mention. --Frank Sinatra

Advice: 

• Never play cards with a man named "Doc" 
• Never sit with your back to the door
• Never draw to an inside straight
• In a card game there's always a sucker. Try to determine who the sucker is before you sit down. If  you can't figure out who the sucker is, it's YOU.
• Don't touch hot peppers and then play with yourself.
• Never piss into the wind
• Choose the Air Force over all other branches
• Never argue with a cop.
• Don't answer questions without a lawyer.
• If you're on Facebook, get the hell off ASAP
• If you go armed, keep it hidden.  Don't flash it. 
• Never accept a "No" from a person who does not have the authority to say "Yes" . 
• Once a woman sees your cock, it's almost irresistible to her. Deploy it early during makeouts.
• Don't ask for anal unless you're willing to take something up the butt yourself.

Your list tells me a few things i didnt need to know, especially the reference to chillis, the lawyer, and anal.😁

[Brutus 2,206]

Thanks again to all who have spoken. I didn't expect this many replies and really do appreciate it.

@spywareonya, thank you for sharing such personal details about your unpleasant childhood. And as a side note, I don't expect to change your mind about university regrets but I can tell you from personal experience it's mostly full of morons. Many of my professors were dumb ideologues, and most of the classes were a painful waste of time, useless for my major. Add in mostly immature overgrown children, insane tuition costs that land you in a lifetime of debt, and then the true picture emerges. If I could rewind time and choose to avoid uni, I would.   

[Cuckoo42 1,274]

1 hour ago, Brutus said:

Thanks again to all who have spoken. I didn't expect this many replies and really do appreciate it.

@spywareonya, thank you for sharing such personal details about your unpleasant childhood. And as a side note, I don't expect to change your mind about university regrets but I can tell you from personal experience it's mostly full of morons. Many of my professors were dumb ideologues, and most of the classes were a painful waste of time, useless for my major. Add in mostly immature overgrown children, insane tuition costs that land you in a lifetime of debt, and then the true picture emerges. If I could rewind time and choose to avoid uni, I would.   

I would totally agree with you now, especially in the UK, a leftie ideology has saturated the education sector for years, and its filtered down to the students now and todays courses and attitudes perfectly reflect the damage its done. I now find myself wishing i had just gone straight from school into an apprenticeship and learnt a trade. I'd be much, much better off than i am today.

[spywareonya 37,961]

On ‎8‎/‎24‎/‎2019 at 1:12 PM, steve25805 said:

But in the longer term the Black dragon and it's ice face teaches us that none of this matters in the bigger scheme of things. All that matters - all that you can take with you when this life ends - is the progression of your soul, and in that you have made more progress than Einstein or most of the other intellectual greats.

You are a giant amongst us when it comes to spiritual advancement. And no amount of uni could ever have taught you that.

 

12 hours ago, Brutus said:

Thanks again to all who have spoken. I didn't expect this many replies and really do appreciate it.

@spywareonya, thank you for sharing such personal details about your unpleasant childhood. And as a side note, I don't expect to change your mind about university regrets but I can tell you from personal experience it's mostly full of morons. Many of my professors were dumb ideologues, and most of the classes were a painful waste of time, useless for my major. Add in mostly immature overgrown children, insane tuition costs that land you in a lifetime of debt, and then the true picture emerges. If I could rewind time and choose to avoid uni, I would.   

I need to thank you both because your words intermingled to reach my soul along a very heart-touching subject

And indeed, you both covinced me

It's both romantic and embarassing to change in real-time as I read your posts… but it's also lovely. THANK YOU

 

 

 

On ‎8‎/‎23‎/‎2019 at 11:53 PM, Peefreak99 said:

Im not that old but my mind is. What do i regret? Well doing bad things to people who did not deserve it and being driven by anger at society and that i never was lisstned to. And i also regret that i let some people get away with what they did and i let then use me as a shield. I also regret not letting the light in when it tried to reach me but these things are in the past i rather not be reminded of them. For the younger i say DON'T LISSTNEN TO BULLSHIT MAINSTREAM MEDIA DON'T LISSTNEN TO EVERY INFLUENCER DON'T WORSHIP CELEBS LIKE THEY WERE GODS. DON'T BE SO FUCKING BLINDED TRY TO OPEN YOUR EYES AND SEE THE WORLD AS IT REALLY IS. 

Thank you my friend for this intense confession. I love you so, and I am sure you will heal all that doesn't fit, both inside and outside...

[Paulypeeps 5,287]

Do something that makes money. By the time I started earning enough money to live on it was too late to travel and have fun and make the most of an independent existence. I thought that using my electronics and IT skills to their fullest would get me on in the future - it didn't, I should have done something mundane like fixing telephone lines!

[gldenwetgoose 21,487]

First of all, can we just clarify that being old is an entirely different thing to having experience of life.  I think I qualify in the having experienced a few decades of post-puberty life, and my date of birth tells me I'm a certain age, but that doesn't mean I have to act it.

Advice would be

- Be bold (not brash, not over confident - just have sufficient confidence in yourself).  If there's someone on their don't be scared to talk to them - not to hit on them - just to chat. Anything further can develop from there. You don't have to be the loudest, richest, most outgoing in your peer group - just don't be locked inside your self by a lack of confidence to act.

- Particularly in the UK at the moment all young people are funnelled into higher education to get bette qualified - but as @Paulypeeps has alluded, if academia is not your thing then step out of line and find a trade.  It's just been exam results time here - lots of young people considering their options. Remember that the qualification that counts is only the last one - so if you've got the grades to go to college, once you've got  A levels / HND / HNC / ONC or whatever it isn't going to matter if you got an A or a C in Geography at school.  Similarly in a job, your gained skills whilst working make you incredibly marketable.

- Take your eyes off your phone and see what's happening in the world around you. Ignore that teenage tuber and look after the people around you. If you visit somewhere new drink it in. Get a basic simplest understanding of finance.

- On a related note, celebrity is one of the nastiest, tackiest things of the last couple of decades in my opinion. I work with a lot of up and coming musicians - you can count on your fingers how many have achieved a career out of entering a talent show (out of the hundreds of thousands that enter) - nobody is going to pick you to be the next manufactured idol, or its probably about 0.0001% likely.  Talent needs to be honed, developed and built up - it takes many, many hours of hard work.

- Keep your chin up - be realistic about yourself, but not overly negative, life is a rollercoaster - the highs are there for you to gain the energy to pass though the troughs.

- Don't do drugs, knives or guns. Don't hang in with those that do.

Edited August 29, 2019 by gldenwetgoose

[lovegivingoral 3]

On 8/23/2019 at 1:32 PM, Brutus said:

I've always valued input and wisdom from elders. 

I have two questions for anyone past their mid-thirties, particularly those who are into their 50's and beyond (such as @steve25805, or @Dr.P for example.)

1. What do you regret doing or not doing in your youth?

2. What do you currently see young people in their 20's doing or not doing that you now know from life experience is a terrible waste of precious time?

Thanks in advance to all who weigh in.

The only regret is not saying I love you to my dad before he died. What I have noticed they arent doing is not doing the best they could possibly can do no matter what you are doing.

[speedy3471 10,655]

11 hours ago, gldenwetgoose said:

First of all, can we just clarify that being old is an entirely different thing to having experience of life.  I think I qualify in the having experienced a few decades of post-puberty life, and my date of birth tells me I'm a certain age, but that doesn't mean I have to act it.

Advice would be

- Be bold (not brash, not over confident - just have sufficient confidence in yourself).  If there's someone on their don't be scared to talk to them - not to hit on them - just to chat. Anything further can develop from there. You don't have to be the loudest, richest, most outgoing in your peer group - just don't be locked inside your self by a lack of confidence to act.

- Particularly in the UK at the moment all young people are funnelled into higher education to get bette qualified - but as @Paulypeeps has alluded, if academia is not your thing then step out of line and find a trade.  It's just been exam results time here - lots of young people considering their options. Remember that the qualification that counts is only the last one - so if you've got the grades to go to college, once you've got  A levels / HND / HNC / ONC or whatever it isn't going to matter if you got an A or a C in Geography at school.  Similarly in a job, your gained skills whilst working make you incredibly marketable.

- Take your eyes off your phone and see what's happening in the world around you. Ignore that teenage tuber and look after the people around you. If you visit somewhere new drink it in. Get a basic simplest understanding of finance.

- On a related note, celebrity is one of the nastiest, tackiest things of the last couple of decades in my opinion. I work with a lot of up and coming musicians - you can count on your fingers how many have achieved a career out of entering a talent show (out of the hundreds of thousands that enter) - nobody is going to pick you to be the next manufactured idol, or its probably about 0.0001% likely.  Talent needs to be honed, developed and built up - it takes many, many hours of hard work.

- Keep your chin up - be realistic about yourself, but not overly negative, life is a rollercoaster - the highs are there for you to gain the energy to pass though the troughs.

- Don't do drugs, knives or guns. Don't hang in with those that do.

Very good advice my friend 

[Peefreak99 3,722]

11 hours ago, lovegivingoral said:

The only regret is not saying I love you to my dad before he died. What I have noticed they arent doing is not doing the best they could possibly can do no matter what you are doing.

Im sorry for your loss. But trust me your dad knows you love him and he  hopes that you don't blaim yourself for anything. 

Edited August 29, 2019 by Peefreak99

[Sweets 4,517]

Regrets    Going into the pizza business and not doing what I really wanted cake decorating or working in a bakery.   I’m not the best chef but I am a damn good baker.  I regret not being confident in myself as far as my looks and body.  I’ve alway felt I was fat and looking back in my late teens and 20’s I was hot.  I regret not taking better care of my body when I was younger.  
 

advise. First thing is take care of your health and body.  Once you start gaining weight it hard to get off, weight gain makes injuring yourself like back, hip problems greater.   And they you have trouble with blood pressure and sugar.   
if you want something go after it

   Don’t be afraid of failure.  The true failure is never trying at all.  A no is not the end of the world.   And failing at something is not a mistake as long as u learn from it.  Do u think inventors are successful the first time with an idea no.
 Never spend more than what you have.   Now this doesn’t include buying a house or car.  But stay with in your budget with payments.   But for instance you want a new video system. If you don’t have the money for it don’t put it on a credit card.   And put money away in saving from every paycheck.  
Get life insurance early.  Get a whole or universal policy.  It cheaper when your young and healthy.   Even dying cost money don’t leave your loved one with grief, debt and not knowing what to do with your because they have no money.  
4 year college is a waste and time and money.  Go to community college.  For your basic core classes. Then figure out where to go from there. Trades pay very well.  Alway need a/c techs, Plumber, mechanics.  4 college is only important if you want to a doctor or lawyer.  But don’t set yourself up with a bunch of debt before you even start working because u want to go to a big name college when you can do the same at community college

if your company offers vacation take it.   If u have sick days take them too.  Don’t work your self to death.  Enjoy what time u have.   

[speedy3471 10,655]

Very wise advice Sweets, well said

[likesToLick 10,216]

Take control of your own career as early as possible.   Whatever work you are in,  take courses in negotiating skills and selling skills,  and use them to promote your own advancement.  Study and take on new knowledge that will give you more options in your chosen career.

Never assume that your employer will care for your best interests.  Most of them don't give a damn.

Don't get fat at any age. That was my biggest mistake. It ruins not only your health, but your whole life, and the older you are,  the harder it is to slim down.

Pay yourself first.  That means, always invest ten percent of everything you earn, before you spend money on anything else at all.  (Invest in sensible things like quality  shares for example,  not wildcat schemes.) That may mean living in a smaller flat,  driving an older car,  waiting a few months more for that new phone.  That's fine.  Landlords,  car dealers and phone shops don't need your money as much as you do.  Pay yourself.   (Your investments will look like nothing for a few years,  but one day, maybe 20 years down the track, you will suddenly notice you have a LOT of money.)

[P_lovinguy 1,318]

On 8/22/2019 at 9:32 PM, Brutus said:

I've always valued input and wisdom from elders. 

I have two questions for anyone past their mid-thirties, particularly those who are into their 50's and beyond (such as @steve25805, or @Dr.P for example.)

1. What do you regret doing or not doing in your youth?

2. What do you currently see young people in their 20's doing or not doing that you now know from life experience is a terrible waste of precious time?

Thanks in advance to all who weigh in.

Well I'm 57 so I qualify to answer...

Q1's answer: I regret NOT joining the (US) Air Force or Navy when I could have. My life would've turned out very different.  My parents (may God bless them) couldn't afford to send me to college so I had to go to work immediately after high school graduation. The experiences, both academic & socially, I missed out on also could've steered my life in a much different direction.

Q2's answer: The "kids" these days are wasting their precious time because they're so totally engrossed and obsessed with their heads in their cellphones; talking incessantly about... NOTHING! Every waking minute they're doing something with the phone. What happened to the days of being engaged in a one-on-one, in person conversation (barring these last several COVID months, naturally)?  When I was in my 20's being able to go out to bars & clubs legally to drink & dance was my greatest adventures at night. During the days, on my days off from work, I'd go hiking, camping or just drive and explore the world outside of my home town. There is such a lack of spontaneity to learn, broaden horizons, experience new things. The kids in their 20's have no knowledge of leading to no regard of history.