How does one go about telling their significant other about their piss kink?

[Bacardi 9,124]

I had been with my ex for a while. We were together for a total of 2 years but I can't remember exactly when. But when I did tell him I had a piss fetish he really shamed me about it. It still hurts in my chest today when I think of what he said to me, so I keep it to myself now. 

Next year will make 9 years with my husband. We have 3 kids, own a house together, and are deeply in love, but I'll never tell him about my fetish. My husband is so nice I doubt he would ever laugh at me like my ex did. I could see him just telling me its not for him at the worst, but the trauma of what my ex did to me still prevents me from confessing to him. 

In all actuality, it's not so bad. I've been exploring my fetish alone since I was about 5 years old so I don't feel as if I am missing out on much. Peeing in secret places without anyone in my household knowing has always been what I've done haha. I'm perfectly happy where I am.

[A_AShes 463]

Dearest Bacardi, just imagine if he also afraids damage you... You might miss each other... I realised how much my ex wanted something like that when it was  impossibly late... It is not just a pity... Just panishment for being shy not helping to open each other...Try to find your indirect hint... If person do Love you he willhelp and accept with happiness.Your old trauma ..it was rejection as Love gone...

Edited September 18, 2023 by A_AShes

[Horse_water 527]

@BacardiThat is very unfortunate. I want to get the shaming done and over with if it is going to happen. 

[Pee_punk 41]

I literally spill the beans after the second or third orgasm I give said partner. Then during the sensual slow strokes I ask what their kinks are. After they answer they always ask back. I act embarrassed, make them pinky promise not to tell, then admit my pee fetish. 9 times outa 10 I've gotten indulged. Confidence is key. But also providing an open mind to their kinks is the kicker. 

[on the porch 323]

In some ways it can be easy to share your desire of this with a new someone , I,know this woman ,and have known her for a number of years .

We date , go out do things together , once after another we ended at my place ,she said she had to use the wash room , while she was in there I walked in ,she said nothing, I put my hand between her legs , not touching her pussy , a dribble of pee came out ,, still no words, then she let go .

I pulled my set hand and looking at her licked my hands, then she said ,If that pleases you ,ask me any time ,, I was overwhelmed by my advances ,she became a full time pee partner , but that was only one like that 

[vanessa9 825]

What works best is probably giving hints, little by little, first of all that you won't mind peeing in front of your partner or seeing him/her pee, then admitting that you're might be slightly turned on by the situation, etc. Telling a partner upfront that you have a kink for peeing, watersports or the like is risky at best, unless it is a one-night fuck and you don't give a shit about what happens next.

Most of my partners, and even many male friends, have seen me pee in private or public situations. It always worked well, I got no remarks and nobody shamed me for that, and I think the very reason is because I always acted like there is nothing sexual in it, just a normal bodily function that I don't mind sharing, for convenience or fun. It probably helps that I am naturist, everybody around is aware of that, and many of my friends are naturists themselves (or at least have been in situation of non-sexual group nudity, like naked beaches).

A very good male friend of mine is a bisexual guy I met few years ago at the naturist area on the riverside, when he was with his boyfriend, who is a friend of mine. At first I didn't know he was bi, but I soon discovered he was interested in me, and his boyfriend didn't mind him flirting with me from time to time. When he was at my place for the first time, preparing for a party, I started peeing without closing the toilet door, while giving him instructions to store some shopping bags we just unloaded from the car. It was obvious that he was not disgusted. Then, we started going to the toilet together, peeing in my garden etc. Before we started having more intimate relationship, I once peed in my large shower in front of him and his boyfriend, when we were having a shower together (don't ask : the three of us are naturists and taking a shower together doesn't involve anything sexual). Now, this guy is an occasional sexfriend, and we frequently pee together in the shower, hugging and touching each other. I wouldn't call this hardcore watersports, and pee is so far not involved when we make love to each other (to my regret...), but you see how, little by little, a relationship with some place for pee-play can flourish.

Edited November 9, 2023 by vanessa9

[GenericUsername 1,036]

Option 1: Give slow hints

Option 2: Pee on their living room floor in front of them and see what happens

[toiletfloorpee 428]

I have been lucky that 90 percent of the people I have dated have either been really into peeing or have been happy to indulge me. 

I tend to bring it up in a first or second date, if ive not peed on them on the first date, ha, and yes there have been a couple of no thank yous, but mainly it has been a bit of a turn on for them.

One guy even had a pile of towels ready for me to use when I went round for a second date dinner, as I had drunkenly peed on my living room floor on our first date. 

[on the porch 323]

I took a chance ,,, A woman friend I am seeing  , came over and we had dinner, she got up and said she had to use the wash room . A few minutes later I came in and ,,, no words at all ,, I put my hand between her legs as she was on the pot , she actually moved her legs apart ,I had my hand under her pussy and a dribble of pee came out , I pulled my hamd and licked off her pee and put mu hand back , then she let go  , full stream , I pulled my hamd and licked it all off,, still no words , she went to wipe her self , and i said stand up  and licked her pussy dry , them she said ," you can do that any time " and have been every time she comes over ,, 

[Scot_Lover 1,786]

Bacardi, so sorry for your bad experience, M asked me to post hers.

M had a secret pee thing going, from maybe 2000, after the birth of her first child. She kept this secret from her husband at the time for 3 years, until he came home unexpectedly one day, caught her in the bath soaked in her pee. 

He verbally abused her, never listened to anything she tried to say, packed up his clothes, took the baby and left. She never seen or heard from them again. 
 

She tried several times to get people interested in her ‘weirdness’ but nothing transpired, she was ridiculed and became a laughing stock of her small town. She was going to leave anyway, tired of being know as ‘that incontinent chick’ when I met her in Scotland in 2005. We both found our deepest desires on the first night.
 

She has been with me ever since.

 

[on the porch 323]

I'm so very happy for the both of you , finding a loving person who is like minded is rare and should be kept as close as you can to each other , I wish my life love was still with me , sadly she died ,, so did my own life 

[sunny.puppy 508]

To be honest most friends of mine know that I love peeing and watching people pee. I have a lot of openly kinky friends so it’s not really a taboo subject (a lot of us mess around with each other too!) 

My girlfriend already knew I was into pee before we started dating. I think she was always at least open to the idea but I’ve shown her a lot of fun pee play stuff and now she loves it!

I can’t really imagine hiding my kinks from my partner and it really sucks that some people feel like they have to

[on the porch 323]

Some people no matter how open they are to this and that ,, there are in their minds a place not to go .

They may love doing this , but will hide it from others afraid of being called out ,,, Even if they know the friends know they are doing " this ". Very few people know of what I do with my life ,I'm not a flag waver or do I go out side and yell "who wants to piss on me today"  my lady friend knows and loves to play . Maybe one other woman, A transgender woman , we have been very involved of and on ....

[Kev99 73]

I've been open with my girlfriends once we get to the sexual stage of the relationship, and had mixed reviews. One was very disgusted at the concept, one said to each their own but didn't feel comfortable participating, and my current girlfriend isn't into the fetish persay but is very happy to indulge me. I've had some amazing experiences with her, and am very glad I bought it up and am honest with her and myself

[on the porch 323]

If I may ,, go down on her till she squirts all over and in your mouth ,, it's a 100% breaker of her dislike 

And don't let up when your doing it , let her cum at least 3 times , your in like Flynn ..... It works , trust me on this 

[JDAMS79 25]

No, and it goes back to one of my first girlfriends, was 26 she was 21, was my first relationship to last 6 months or more. We had been dating only about 3 months at the time, she mentioned on drive back to my apartment after we were out with friends she had to pee.  We get back but she doesn’t immediately go to the bathroom so I just started brushing my teeth/doing whatever before we went to bed and she walks in and says “do you mind?” And I say mind what she says “if I pee?”  I’m thinking okay she assumes I might be grossed out by this.  I tell her no, I turn off the sink 30 seconds later and she’s pissing away, I of course am mesmerized and literally just begin staring at her peeing and she senses me staring and looks up and just says “yeahhhhhhh?”  In a VERY annoyed way.  I ask what is it and her response was “if you’re done washing up can you leave?” haha.  She was slightly drunk but clearly didn’t like me staring at her pissing, I didn’t get if that was a problem why did she go with me there in the first place.  I’m sure she also noticed I had a raging hard on.  I walk back into the bedroom and she keeps going for another 30 seconds or more and when she finishes let’s out a quiet but noticeable deep breathed “ahhhhhhh” I just about came in my pants.   We had sex afterwards and little did she know I basically was just envisioning her piss to get off during it.  We dated for a few more months but she never did that again nor ever used the bathroom with the door open a single time.  Never disclosed it to any girlfriends since 

[on the porch 323]

I think all of us here had that experience one way or another, I have a lady friend, she is a,widow and retired like me ,I met her on a cruise  and had business dealing with her ,we started seeing each other, and she told me ,she was married right out of high school to a super religious sect.

Sex was not for enjoyment only for kids and in total darkness ,The first time we were at my house after dinner and 3 glasses of wine she never drank before , got pretty tipsy , , she was an attentive woman , and kept asking me if she was pretty ,then asked me to kiss her , well one thing led to nother ,she never had sex with any one but her husband ,,I was the first ,and it was like I had a nun in bed with me , so I started kissing her all over her body then started on her pussy ,there was a leg tightening but she did relax, I kept eating  her and she did yell out and peed in my mouth .

To this day she asks me to know all there is about sex , we watch movies we are always naked in house ,I wear ball rings and she is fascinated with it , I tell her to pull my balls as hard she can ,and squeeze  them as hard as she can ..it doesn't hurt ,she loves it and I make her stand over my face and pee , she holds her hand on her pussy so it goes straight down in my mouth , I won't force her to take my pee ,it will come in time , but wow I. Created a sex machine . Were going to my home in Marathon Fla.in  2 weeks  , she never was out of the state of Kansas . But can she screw , like a machine and will cum about 4 times ,, and we both don't want a permanent relationship, that's the good part .... Once I put sliced peaches in her pussy and began to suck them out , she squirted like a fire hose , and asked me to do it again with some other fruit.  I'm in heaven 

[selfpissinglad 136]

On 9/25/2023 at 6:02 AM, Pee_punk said:

I literally spill the beans after the second or third orgasm I give said partner. Then during the sensual slow strokes I ask what their kinks are. After they answer they always ask back. I act embarrassed, make them pinky promise not to tell, then admit my pee fetish. 9 times outa 10 I've gotten indulged. Confidence is key. But also providing an open mind to their kinks is the kicker. 

Yup this sounds a lot like my experience and method also

[Simmie 47]

I think I have someone IRL who is feeling me out/dropping me hints. I'm a woman, she is a bi woman. What makes me think so:

- Is open about talking about bodily fluids/bathroom humor

- Went to her place for the first time, hung out in her hot tub, and when we were getitng out she said "shoot I nearly pissed in there". So I said "it's okay, I almost did too". lol. Cue us talking for a few minutes about how warm water fully triggers the urge to go, how hard it can be to hold, yadda yadda. 

-openly talks about how much she needs to go and can't wait. Last time we went out clubbing, she mentioned on the drive there how much she needed to pee. (I kept my cool, in my head I was hoping she would go on). she did for a bit, near the end she was shaking her leg and biting her lip, she had to go so badly. 

-from the way she sounded relieved, it seemed like it was intentional. It wasn't TOO audible but i could hear the sighs under her breath + the intensity of her pee hitting the toilet. Had a LOT to say about how much better she was.

Now this one didn't tip me off initially, but she loves hiking. I wonder if she takes the chance to do outdoor peeing. 

I always had good or positive reception whenever these scenarios would pop up. Next time we hang, I'm going to do a hold myself and see her reaction. I wouldn't be shocked at all if she was also into this.

[longbastard 174]

9 hours ago, Simmie said:

I think I have someone IRL who is feeling me out/dropping me hints.

I’m excited to hear how this relationship develops.

[vanessa9 825]

15 hours ago, Simmie said:

I think I have someone IRL who is feeling me out/dropping me hints.

Hope it leads you somewhere. Hiking can be a good opportunity to make a little step. On your first hike, just pee in front of her, not trying to hide anything, and see how she reacts. You will be between ladies, and in view of nobody else, so you can always pretend it was just innocent.

[on the porch 323]

I wish more were accepting to this life , it can be so rewarding 

[Mtroble 4]

My curiosity was likely there before, but didn’t come into it’s own until I was long established with my partner.  
A couple times I started to lean the conversation that way garnered me responses which were in no way welcoming.  There ends that. 
So similar to Bacardi was it, I am not about to give up all that I now have.  I am happy with what I have.  Just curious. 

[Starks2010 2,115]

You have to come out and say it. If they have a problem with it then you don’t want them for a partner anyway. 
 

If they aren’t willing to pee for you then they really aren’t valuable and it’ll leave you seeking for it else where.

It’s like buying a shiny new red car. BUT, it doesn’t have a sunroof. You really wanted that sunroof. If you buy it, it’s nice but it’s really not what you wanted because it doesn’t have that sunroof. Then you’re looking to trade it in for one that has a sunroof. 

[Pboy123 3]

I just recently got into a relationship and I was wanting to try pee play with my s/o. More specifically wetting and abdl