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Well… how open are you and your mom about, on the one hand, talking about sexual things, and on the other hand, peeing? Feels to me like this varies a huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuge amount between families so difficult to generalise.

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It has to be very unusual for a child to seek the freedom to express a sexual kink in front of parents. That rarely happens--I certainly have never wanted to tell my parents about any fetishes I have. I could see wanting to "come clean" about doing things when younger that may have bothered your mom (especially if you were of an age where you didn't fully understand your fetish and weren't so good with boundaries), and I'd hope that a parent would accept that. But the other part, about hoping your mom lets you pee in random places around her house, stretches my sense of what's reasonable--unless maybe you have a mom like Beachmom. Not only would it be asking her to fully accept your kink, it would require that she take on the risk of something being damaged from you making a mess peeing where you're not supposed to--even if you do all the work of cleaning up the pee itself (which I certainly HOPE you would do...)

I also question why it's so important that your mom lets you do that, now that most of the time you live in your own place where you can pee wherever you want, whenever you want. Is it just the "naughty" aspect of it?

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Sounds like you Mum is very open minded about peeing if she chooses to use a sink rather than bathroom. I would be tempted to start off with a hint about what you have done at home and see her reaction. You never know she might join you.

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On 2/15/2022 at 5:57 AM, peecurious94 said:

I apologize for taking so long to reply. To give context, my mom and I are very open. Growing up, we both regularly peed outside in front of each other instead of going in the house. Also, we lived in the country a bit off the highway, so we often were naked outdoors, as well as inside. Clothing was definitely optional at our house. I also witnessed her pee in the kitchen and bathroom sinks multiple times while washing dishes, brushing teeth, etc. instead of going to the toilet. Lastly, when we would get home from long trips, we would both regularly pee just outside the car instead of trying to making it into the house. I never saw her pee anywhere other than outside or in the sinks, but I don't think it would be a stretch to say it probably happened. As I said in the original post, I peed regularly in naughty places and wasn't too secretive about it. My mom and I are still very open, and though I don't live there anymore, clothing is still optional and we still openly pee outside and in sinks. Personally, I love peeing where I am. I don't want to have to get up and pee in the sink or outside, and since I didn't get in trouble for the obvious peeing when I was younger, I am considering asking permission to pee anywhere that is easily cleanable (floors, hard chairs, rugs, etc.)

You haven't given an update yet so it seems like you are still open for input. 
I would simply arrange a nice evening, maybe with something nice to drink to ease the tension. I wouldn't go for Board games or a movie. I would opt for something that gives you many opportunities to talk about stuff. Maybe a BBQ or maybe you could cook a nice meal together. Steer the conversation towards remembering old stories and adventures you both had. Then when the mood is right, i would open with something like: "Remember when you peed in the sink (or whatever your best story ist). I found out that i really like doing it. (go in to as much detail as you feel good for a conversation starter) I always wondered if you feel the same or if it was just a convenience thing for you."

If the remembering old stories angle doesn't work i would talk about my or her love live. Tell her that it is really hard to find a guy who is cool with the way you both handle peeing and unveil that its actually a fetish of yours if she reacts positively. 

You could also ask her how or why she started doing this. By now you have realised that it is not the most common practice and you always wondered if there was a juicy story behind this. 

Dunno just some ideas. I wish you the best of luck and im sure we all are happy to brain storm further if you give us a progress report ^^. 

P.s. I have to complain again about me missing the option for cool fetish parents in my character creation. Damn it. This forum makes me jealous xD.

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Some good advice being given above.   I like the idea from @MaxWasTaken about having a BBQ - that would be a classic situation where you could have a few drinks, then when you need to pee you can ask your mum if she minds if you pee in the bushes/trees/drain/wherever to save going inside.   If she is OK with that then it would either open up the conversation opportunity anyway and you never know, she might even do the same.

 

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@beachmom I know you are very supportive of your boys free peeing. If you had a grown daughter, how would you want them to approach you? Would you rather it be a direct conversation asking for permission to freely pee, or would you rather it just happen? I feel if I pee in an area that is easily cleaned (i.e. the kitchen floor, etc.) while talking or something, it may be initially shocking, but she may come to realize it's normal? I mean, we have been nonchalantly peeing for years...just usually outside or into the sink. 

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I'm not one to push people to do anything, so I much prefer for others to just do as they feel okay with in a way that they feel is normal. For me, making a mess on a floor that I have to then clean isn't fun, but perhaps on a locker room floor, a store dressing room, hotel room or even a basement or parking garage floor would be normal to me.

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I really don't think it's as complicated as you make it sound. I mean, you both have a Liberal take on the whole business of peeing in unconditional places, etc, so it's really shouldn't be much of an ordeal to just cone out and tell her about your fetish. From the things you have disclosed, maybe she's the one you got it from.

Let's put it this way, it would be easier for you to reveal your fetish to your Mum than it would for the vast majoring of children.

You and your Mum appear to have a really wonderful and liberated relationship. I doubt telling her about your fetish would shock her. 

So, just come out and tell her. I would be amazed if she was repulsed by it. Reading about your dynamic, she'd most probably join you in your piss shenanigans. 

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2 minutes ago, MasterDarcy said:

I really don't think it's as complicated as you make it sound. I mean, you both have a Liberal take on the whole business of peeing in unconditional places, etc, so it's really shouldn't be much of an ordeal to just cone out and tell her about your fetish. From the things you have disclosed, maybe she's the one you got it from.

Let's put it this way, it would be easier for you to reveal your fetish to your Mum than it would for the vast majoring of children.

You and your Mum appear to have a really wonderful and liberated relationship. I doubt telling her about your fetish would shock her. 

So, just come out and tell her. I would be amazed if she was repulsed by it. Reading about your dynamic, she'd most probably join you in your piss shenanigans. 

My only worry is that being naked and peeing in non-toilet places is out of convenience rather than a fetish to my mom. Since I enjoy it as more of a fetish, I am afraid she will think she warped me in raising me. Additionally, I am worried that may make her less inclined to continue with our current routine of peeing outdoors or in sinks/tubs. I enjoy the freedom, and I would like it to be more diverse (peeing on the floor, etc.), but not at the risk of harming our relationship, you know? Maybe I am overthinking, and I should just do it, but I feel it is still risky. 

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10 minutes ago, peecurious94 said:

My only worry is that being naked and peeing in non-toilet places is out of convenience rather than a fetish to my mom. Since I enjoy it as more of a fetish, I am afraid she will think she warped me in raising me. Additionally, I am worried that may make her less inclined to continue with our current routine of peeing outdoors or in sinks/tubs. I enjoy the freedom, and I would like it to be more diverse (peeing on the floor, etc.), but not at the risk of harming our relationship, you know? Maybe I am overthinking, and I should just do it, but I feel it is still risky. 

Yeah. I know what you mean. I totally understand your apprehension. It may ruin your current dynamic with her or/and she may go into a shame spiral because she'll feel like she warped you.

Those are entirely plausible outcomes, however, if you come at it from an angle where it's actually a positive thing, rather than a negative, that it enriches your life, rather than it being a deterrent, then I'm sure she'll get it 

She sounds very cool. Try and give her the benefit of the doubt. And you never know, maybe the fact that you do pee openly and in inconvenience places, it's a fetish for her, too.

The best way of doing it is bringing up the pissing in inconvenience places. Just bring it up in conversation. Mention that it's a fetish for some people, and keep engaging with her about it, softly.

Her reaction to the fetish that "some people have" will be a gauge of where you should proceed or not.

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4 minutes ago, MasterDarcy said:

Yeah. I know what you mean. I totally understand your apprehension. It may ruin your current dynamic with her or/and she may go into a shame spiral because she'll feel like she warped you.

Those are entirely plausible outcomes, however, if you come at it from an angle where it's actually a positive thing, rather than a negative, that it enriches your life, rather than it being a deterrent, then I'm sure she'll get it 

She sounds very cool. Try and give her the benefit of the doubt. And you never know, maybe the fact that you do pee openly and in inconvenience places, it's a fetish for her, too.

The best way of doing it is bringing up the pissing in inconvenience places. Just bring it up in conversation. Mention that it's a fetish for some people, and keep engaging with her about it, softly.

Her reaction to the fetish that "some people have" will be a gauge of where you should proceed or not.

That's really good advice! 

I really hope the reward is worth it. I can't wait to be able to relax and let it flow mid-conversation. 

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Just now, peecurious94 said:

That's really good advice! 

I really hope the reward is worth it. I can't wait to be able to relax and let it flow mid-conversation. 

🙂

Remember the key word is "subtle". Bring it up in a really casual manner. Remember to hedge your bets, so don't sound too enthused or too judgey.

When the dust settles, I'll be willing to bet with you that it's also a a fetish for her. It's not too sexualized, which means she could do it openly in front of you.

As I said, though, you and your Mum have an amazing dynamic. 

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2 hours ago, peecurious94 said:

Additionally, I am worried that may make her less inclined to continue with our current routine of peeing outdoors or in sinks/tubs.

I agree with @MasterDarcy be subtle and approach the topic slowly. Basically don't shock her ^^. I told female friends of mine about my foot fetish and even tho they find it weird they haven't started wearing socks or shoes around me because they don't care about it. Oh and try to avoid the whole "oh no does that mean im doing something sexual with my daughter" topic. Try to frame it in a nice way :D. 

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