Psychology of the fetish

[johnare 86]

I have been doing a lot of pondering lately and am kinda interested in what others may have to add.

There seem to be more an more girls on sites like PH adding pee content. How many do you suppose really enjoy it vs. are doing it for views? Not judging because as "performers and content creators" they have to do what gets the views. 

I feel like its exceedingly rare that women are into pee stuff. There are some here that seem to genuinely be into it, but this forum covers the globe and we have maybe a few dozen or so women who are active?

How many women (and men for that matter) are out there who enjoy the fetish and just choose to not be on a public platform of some type about it? I have thought about this a lot lately too. To me it seems like it takes both an interest in peeing and exhibitionism to want to make videos or share stories. I personally only like to see women pee. Doing it does nothing for me, but even if I did enjoy doing it, I don't even like to see my face on video. Its exceedingly unlikely I would want to make videos for the enjoyment of others.

Also, I have noticed it seems like a passing phase for many. So many pop up with a couple amazing videos and then poof. gone forever within a few months or even weeks. This could be that they tried it for views and it wasn't worth it or tried it for pleasure and just got bored.

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[Alfresco 11,610]

A very complex area.  I personally think there are more ladies out there that enjoy it than we might realise, but many would be too reserved to discuss it with others, let alone post about it on the internet - even if it is anonymous.

As for content providers - well, there is always going to a mix of those that do it because they enjoy it and those who are looking for views.  Sometimes you can tell a bit by their expressions whether they are really enjoying it.

As for those who come and go.  Maybe they pee in a few different videos and then think that they have done that and can’t think of any different ways, so only have so many ways they can show themselves peeing on the toilet or peeing in the woods.

The girls who are more genuinely into it maybe the ones who are a bit more creative and think of lots of options.

I don’t know - each girl who posts on pornhub probably has their own reasons and their own interests, but I bet that for everyone who does produce content there are hundreds more who are interested but wouldn’t put themselves on the internet. 

[Bacardi 10,109]

I'm a woman into pee and I would love to post content on here. I'm honestly too shy and too paranoid to do so, though. For now I enjoy talking about my experiences with others. A lot of the people on here are kind and entertaining. Sometimes, when I'm more active, ill get intrusive messages, but its easy enough to just ignore them and move onto the people i enjoy talking to. 

Over all I really like this forum! My only regret was I did not join sooner 🥰

[DrownMeQuick 209]

My experience seems to indicate that more women are into the pee fetish, eg holding and wetting, whereas more men are into the voyeurism of it. 

I totally get what the women above have said about guys being pushy and harassing.  It's the same reason the "Free the nipple' movement will get nowhere, and nude beaches are 95% men.  If men could only control themselves and put manners above their need for gratification they'd probably find women much more forthcoming.  

[LoveTheTinkle 110]

My only experiences in real life are with two women who just enjoyed turning men on (but not into it themselves), another woman who (yes I did this) did it for money, and finally a woman who was really into it and peed on me before incredible sex.  Numerous phonesex sharing occurrences before any of the above.

Edited February 22, 2021 by LoveTheTinkle
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[weequeen 1,981]

i'm a woman and i'm truly into it. i too would like to post content here but i'm paranoid and worried to do so. but i like talking about my thoughts about it and experiences. so far there haven't been too many people bothering me on here. so that's good.

[DrownMeQuick 209]

29 minutes ago, weequeen said:

i'm a woman and i'm truly into it. i too would like to post content here but i'm paranoid and worried to do so. but i like talking about my thoughts about it and experiences. so far there haven't been too many people bothering me on here. so that's good.

When you say not too many bothering you, do you mean not too many messaging you, or not too many that have been annoying?

[weequeen 1,981]

3 minutes ago, DrownMeQuick said:

When you say not too many bothering you, do you mean not too many messaging you, or not too many that have been annoying?

messaging - i would pm back more with people but ahhhh anxious you know (which is silly since i'm freely posting on a forum where literally anyone could read it lol) 

[Zuzu 198]

I'm also a woman, I've enjoyed this since childhood. I've only shared with 2 other people my entire life, both men, whom I have been intimately involved with. I felt some kind of shame (and still kind of do over this fetish) and anyone finding out. I very recently joined this community and have been very open so far and it feels great! So yes, this is definitely a real fetish of mine and I enjoy it.

[Bladderlad 815]

I am a male who mainly enjoys male content, but only amateur 

I started sharing my videos about 9 years ago after deliberating abort it for a long time. Initially it was from a perspective of: if other people didn’t share there stuff then there would be nothing for me to enjoy!!

once I realised my content was popular ( not expected) I began to enjoy the attention 😀

[Sandi4lezurn 20]

I am a girl(woman 25 yo) and since high school i have only met one girl who really likes to pee down my throat, especially in public, and gets turned on watching me actually drinking her urine while people are watching!

[Kupar 13,321]

On 2/22/2021 at 2:37 AM, Girllikespee said:

Speaking as a woman who is into it, I don't post content strictly for the fact that it leads to pushy people and harassment. It's bad enough that men already bother me enough without images of myself online.

I've also left many online communities because of really inappropriate behavior from men. 

I'm sure the staff would ask you to report inappropriate behaviour. They really do want to keep this community respectful. I'm sad that you have had bad experiences.

Edited February 24, 2021 by Kupar
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[Kupar 13,321]

On 2/22/2021 at 3:20 AM, DrownMeQuick said:

nude beaches are 95% men

Simply not true in several European countries actually 🙂 Though your points in general are taken 🙂 

[gldenwetgoose 21,461]

When I first saw the title of the topic I was a little sceptical, but actually it's brought out a really valuable thread of discussion.   I'm quite a fan of my amateur psychology and for me personally the biggest interesting point around all of this is the very different motivations we all have.

Group 1 - For some I know it's a personal enjoyment / excitement around personally performing the act - whatever that act may be - holding, releasing, wetting, peeing in unconventional or naughty places...   In those cases I can completely understand that it may not even be sexual - perhaps a personal comfort thing, a feeling of warmth and security maybe.

Group 2 - For others of course is extremely sexual - maybe only practiced during sex, or always leading to arousal. It could be the case that the individual has no desire to participate themselves, but very much is aroused by seeing, fantasising about or participating with another of their chosen sexual preference.

Now having done my very superficial amateur analysis there, the biggest single annoyance I have on this site are those that cannot comprehend or just never consider a perspective other than their own. Unfortunately it seems to be a trait that it's the sexual gratification crowd (Group 2) who assume that because someone is on the site, that they have free reign to use that person as an object to fuel their own orgasmic lust. So then we get a Group 1 person posting about a sweet and innocent event which they enjoyed, and getting bombarded with crude and frankly frightening intentions from the Group 2 crowd.  Group 1 people are not here to entertain, flirt, put out or whatever term you wish to use.

Consider the comments below, just taken from this single thread.

If you (any member) feel that you've been messaged by a member on this site with something that makes you uncomfortable. If you've had inappropriate advances, requests or approaches. If someone has commented on your posts - please, please, please report it.  It's not about getting someone into trouble or banned - but the chances are that if someone is talking to you that way then they're also doing the same to others. We don't ban or even issue warnings without first attempting other forms of approach. If you have the strength and life experience to brush it off then I applaud you, but not everyone does.

Last month we had a member leave after such a clash on a public post.  This week I challenged a member on an expression of his sexual desires and he instantly realised what he'd done. (I'm not suggestion taking the law into your own hands).  Those are in public posts, and of course there is then the matter of private posts. I'm 100% behind the idea of having the PM facility on the site but it does bother me why certain members insist on wanting to PM. There are valid reasons, I know but at the same time it can allow things to happen under the radar.

Please help the staff to keep this place the beautiful sharing, caring, supportive community it is.  If it doesn't feel right - report it. Please.

 

On 2/22/2021 at 2:37 AM, Girllikespee said:

Speaking as a woman who is into it, I don't post content strictly for the fact that it leads to pushy people and harassment. It's bad enough that men already bother me enough without images of myself online.

I've also left many online communities because of really inappropriate behavior from men. 

 

On 2/22/2021 at 3:14 AM, Bacardi said:

I'm a woman into pee and I would love to post content on here. I'm honestly too shy and too paranoid to do so, though. For now I enjoy talking about my experiences with others. A lot of the people on here are kind and entertaining. Sometimes, when I'm more active, ill get intrusive messages, but its easy enough to just ignore them and move onto the people i enjoy talking to. 

 

On 2/22/2021 at 4:01 AM, weequeen said:

i'm a woman and i'm truly into it. i too would like to post content here but i'm paranoid and worried to do so. but i like talking about my thoughts about it and experiences. so far there haven't been too many people bothering me on here. so that's good.

On 2/22/2021 at 4:37 AM, weequeen said:

messaging - i would pm back more with people but ahhhh anxious you know (which is silly since i'm freely posting on a forum where literally anyone could read it lol) 

 

[Kupar 13,321]

1 hour ago, gldenwetgoose said:

Group 1 - For some I know it's a personal enjoyment / excitement around personally performing the act - whatever that act may be - holding, releasing, wetting, peeing in unconventional or naughty places...   In those cases I can completely understand that it may not even be sexual - perhaps a personal comfort thing, a feeling of warmth and security maybe.

Group 2 - For others of course is extremely sexual - maybe only practiced during sex, or always leading to arousal. It could be the case that the individual has no desire to participate themselves, but very much is aroused by seeing, fantasising about or participating with another of their chosen sexual preference.

I reckon you've got it right, @gldenwetgoose. Though as many of us have commented in various places, one of the amazing things about this kink is its variety, and that probably extends to motivations. One could probably cut the members into other groups too, but yours seem to be a *helpful* way to look at things, and that's important. Thanks for doing the thinking 🙂 

[Theo 193]

Interesting topic and associated thoughts- however also somewhat disconcerting. First, inline with the thread topic, I'm a male whose first pee fetish/kink experience occurred because it was a female who initiated it. That suggests to me that there are more females at least interested in pee activities than I or many of us males care to believe.

What's bothersome to me, however, is this chronic yet consistent, as evidenced by previous female responses, complaint from the ladies that some guys (enough of them in fact) harass them enough to the point that it inhibits the gals from contributing (pics or conversation). From a selfish standpoint, that takes away great FEMALE content (again pics and conversation) from me.  I wish I had the solution...

[Kupar 13,321]

33 minutes ago, Theo said:

Interesting topic and associated thoughts- however also somewhat disconcerting. First, inline with the thread topic, I'm a male whose first pee fetish/kink experience occurred because it was a female who initiated it. That suggests to me that there are more females at least interested in pee activities than I or many of us males care to believe.

What's bothersome to me, however, is this chronic yet consistent, as evidenced by previous female responses, complaint from the ladies that some guys (enough of them in fact) harass them enough to the point that it inhibits the gals from contributing (pics or conversation). From a selfish standpoint, that takes away great FEMALE content (again pics and conversation) from me.  I wish I had the solution...

I think we can perhaps best just lead by example, and trust in, and support, the moderators, who do a fantastic job.

[gldenwetgoose 21,461]

37 minutes ago, Theo said:

What's bothersome to me, however, is this chronic yet consistent, as evidenced by previous female responses, complaint from the ladies that some guys (enough of them in fact) harass them enough to the point that it inhibits the gals from contributing (pics or conversation). From a selfish standpoint, that takes away great FEMALE content (again pics and conversation) from me.  I wish I had the solution...

Totally agree @Theo and with @Kupar too - we can't change the world, but we can help in this little microcosm - that said we can only act on what we know about. So if someone is receiving inappropriate messages we can only apply site moderation when we know about it.  When people report it.

It's a little like bullying - the bully shouldn't win, shouldn't drive away the victim - and we would much rather have the victim here on the site than lose them and the bully stay. 

[Relevantcucumber 279]

I'm a woman who just recently leaned into my pee kink after many years of suppression. 

I enjoy sharing it, and make content for paid sites as well as dropping free clips here and there. 

For me the "problem" is that it's a bit of a gateway and many people expect me to go into other toilet activities, which have never interested me. 

Also how because I'm into something "taboo" I should constantly enjoy being degraded etc 

However I cant see myself stopping making content or filming myself until I have no new ideas. 

[hotwetslut 81]

On 2/21/2021 at 11:37 PM, weequeen said:

messaging - i would pm back more with people but ahhhh anxious you know (which is silly since i'm freely posting on a forum where literally anyone could read it lol) 

That's when you just ask people to continue a conversation in a thread and if someone isn't willing, they usually aren't worth the effort of trying aha

[Kupar 13,321]

1 hour ago, Relevantcucumber said:

I'm a woman who just recently leaned into my pee kink after many years of suppression. 

I enjoy sharing it, and make content for paid sites as well as dropping free clips here and there. 

For me the "problem" is that it's a bit of a gateway and many people expect me to go into other toilet activities, which have never interested me. 

Also how because I'm into something "taboo" I should constantly enjoy being degraded etc 

However I cant see myself stopping making content or filming myself until I have no new ideas. 

Of course, you shouldn't have to put up on this site with anything that makes you uncomfortable - and there are, of course, rules 3 and 5 here that if breached should probably trigger a report to staff  

 

[johnare 86]

On 2/24/2021 at 4:41 AM, gldenwetgoose said:

 

Group 1 - For some I know it's a personal enjoyment / excitement around personally performing the act - whatever that act may be - holding, releasing, wetting, peeing in unconventional or naughty places...   In those cases I can completely understand that it may not even be sexual - perhaps a personal comfort thing, a feeling of warmth and security maybe.

 

 

 

 

 

 

I have somehow never considered that for some it may be a non-sexual pleasure. I feel dense for this. Its valid. 100%. For me its a sexual thrill, and is usually presented and glorified as such and I never was aware enough to pause and think about that aspect.

This would dramatically shift how it would feel to share stories and experiences if for the author it is NOT a sexual thrill, or not the type of sexual thrill that is complimented by horny people hounding and being pushy and rude.

Thank you for that post.

 

Is there anyone here that likes the idea of something, and likes it in videos, stories and fantasy but would be less turned on or even not turned on at all if that experienced it first hand?

 

 

[MyPee 537]

2 hours ago, johnare said:

Is there anyone here that likes the idea of something, and likes it in videos, stories and fantasy but would be less turned on or even not turned on at all if that experienced it first hand?

I think that would apply to some of my fantasies. In the past I have tried putting real people into my fantasies, and it just doesn’t work. I prefer my faceless, nameless fantasy people, and my own fantasy worlds. I think it’s because I have full control over everyone and everything in my fantasies.
Adding reality puts it out of my control and adds things I don’t want, because real people have their own desires and dislikes which don’t necessarily align with mine, and I can’t really think of real people in any other way than themselves.

[Sweets 4,516]

Female here that is into the fetish.  I had a lot of videos posted on pornhub.  That I ended up removing and posting some on another web site.   For me making and sharing videos is a real turn on.  I’m into peeing in naughty places.  And it turns me on when my naughty act turns someone else on.   I removed my videos from pornhub because they were getting a little to popular.  I was worried that someone I might physically know in person might run across one.  All though I might be bold and naughty on here I don’t have that same confidence in person about our fetish. Last year I was very active in the group.  But since all the stuff started happening last year with the virus. My work load just blow up.  Then some person things happened that has keep me away.  I try to pop in when I can.  But it’s been a long time since I posted a video.  I had a few stories that were running around in my head too.  But just haven’t had the time to put pen to paper 

[Kupar 13,321]

42 minutes ago, Sweets said:

Female here that is into the fetish.  I had a lot of videos posted on pornhub.  That I ended up removing and posting some on another web site.   For me making and sharing videos is a real turn on.  I’m into peeing in naughty places.  And it turns me on when my naughty act turns someone else on.   I removed my videos from pornhub because they were getting a little to popular.  I was worried that someone I might physically know in person might run across one.  All though I might be bold and naughty on here I don’t have that same confidence in person about our fetish. Last year I was very active in the group.  But since all the stuff started happening last year with the virus. My work load just blow up.  Then some person things happened that has keep me away.  I try to pop in when I can.  But it’s been a long time since I posted a video.  I had a few stories that were running around in my head too.  But just haven’t had the time to put pen to paper 

It's always lovely to see you around on the site @Sweets 🙂