What Do I Do???

[Bacardi 10,131]

Hi friends. Emergency here. 

This afternoon I was sitting on the couch relaxing when a notification went off across the top of my iPad that I had received an Instagram message from a long time childhood friend of mine. I clicked on it right away and it was a video of him peeing into a toilet on top of what looked like a leaf or something floating in the bowl. Saw his penis and everything. Guys my heart stopped dead in my fucking chest. I haven't had a meaningful conversation with this guy since we were like 15 or something like that but he was sending me literal porn??? In a panic I sent him a fast "what's that for?" And as soon as he read it he unsent the message. Then he said "sorry that was for someone else." I was too stunned to say anything else lol. 

But, now I'm panicking. You guys know one of my greatest fears is being found out. I have some very dear friends from peefans on my IG/FB but I trust that they'd neverrrrrr everrrrrr give me up like that. The logic in me says it really was an accident, that he meant to send it to someone else but I am having anxiety so bad. 

Someone talk to me here 🫣 I truly do not know what to do or how to think about this lol.

[nutinfancy 577]

It sounds like it may have really been a mistake since he unsent the message!

Now then I might would block him for just a little while or stop following him!

Just take a deep breath! 

Since I'm a guy, if I was trying to lure you in so to speak,  I wouldn't have unsent the message! I had a sister in- law that did it and kept sending me stuff for a while because she was trying to get me! 

[gldenwetgoose 21,485]

@Bacardi - Just be cool...

If we take this on face value, he sent something embarrassing, when you pointed it out he unsent it and claimed it was meant for someone else.   Just leave it and him alone...  chances are you won't hear from him again, chances are it's exactly as they say and chances are they won't be back in touch.

If they do get in touch and are trying to apologise just let it go...   and no need to further discuss.

If they were trying to hint / approach you in some way - you're happily married and you can just claim that.

[A_AShes 538]

After 15 years to send by mistake??? Hey, no way it was an accident. why that way only you might know. A chance  remains that he is amongst us and hoped to  please you but it did not work...   The pity is it was made that way, perhaps too late for you... plus your short talk to him made him shut the door...  I think you could easily open it if you really want it after so many years of  life with hidden passion...  it may change your life  "to be finaly found" by old solemate...

Edited October 3 by A_AShes

[DXR 834]

19 minutes ago, A_AShes said:

After 15 years to send by mistake??? Hey, no way it was an accident. why that way only you might know. A chance  remains that he is amongst us and hoped to  please you but it did not work...   The pity is it was made that way, perhaps too late for you... plus your short talk to him made him shut the door...  I think you could easily open it if you really want it after so many years of  life with hidden passion...  it may change your life  "to be finaly found" by old solemate...

I have to completely disagree with that.  It's very easy to send something to the wrong person when selecting from a contact list.  I've done that myself more than once when messaging people I know. He immediately apologized, explained the error, and unsent the message so she wouldn't be exposed to it again.  Give the guy a break and take him at his word.  If he wanted to establish/re-establish contact for some reason, he would have started with a harmless text to break the ice and see if she was interested in communicating.

[nutinfancy 577]

I know I've done it several times luckly it was just messages and they were messages if anyone read them were harmless. 

 

[Bacardi 10,131]

22 minutes ago, DXR said:

I have to completely disagree with that.  It's very easy to send something to the wrong person when selecting from a contact list.  I've done that myself more than once when messaging people I know. He immediately apologized, explained the error, and unsent the message so she wouldn't be exposed to it again.  Give the guy a break and take him at his word.  If he wanted to establish/re-establish contact for some reason, he would have started with a harmless text to break the ice and see if she was interested in communicating.

Yeah I know him. Definitely not the type to just send random dick pics to me if he wanted sex. This post was more so asking for help in easing my anxiety over if he found out about my fetish or not. Again, I know logic says he doesn't, but anxiety says he knows and it just scares me a lot. 

Now that ive had some time to stew on it and read the few replies I have gotten I've calmed down a bit, but still a little panicky. However I can't believe the odds of him accidentally sending a piss video to the wrong person and that person having a piss fetish lol.

23 minutes ago, nutinfancy said:

I know I've done it several times luckly it was just messages and they were messages if anyone read them were harmless. 

 

I think tomorrow I am going to message him and reassure him that things between us are still all good. I can't imagine the horror of sending someone a pornographic video by accident. I'm about to spend all night combing through my photos app and deleting everything dirty I have so I don't do the same thing 🤣

[p1ssputz 19]

Don't sweat it, dude.

Rationally, if he did know, there is little that would come of that anyway.

Hope this helps. Good luck.

[DoctorDoctor 1,391]

Take it easy!  He was either testing the waters by sending you the pic/vid to see what you'd say or it was an honest mistake. (However its difficult to believe he would accidentally send a dick pic with peeing to you after 15 years.)

I'd block him for a month or so, then quietly unblock him.

Definitely don't interact with him,

 

[JackWagon 35]

3 hours ago, Bacardi said:

Hi friends. Emergency here. 

This afternoon I was sitting on the couch relaxing when a notification went off across the top of my iPad that I had received an Instagram message from a long time childhood friend of mine. I clicked on it right away and it was a video of him peeing into a toilet on top of what looked like a leaf or something floating in the bowl. Saw his penis and everything. Guys my heart stopped dead in my fucking chest. I haven't had a meaningful conversation with this guy since we were like 15 or something like that but he was sending me literal porn??? In a panic I sent him a fast "what's that for?" And as soon as he read it he unsent the message. Then he said "sorry that was for someone else." I was too stunned to say anything else lol. 

But, now I'm panicking. You guys know one of my greatest fears is being found out. I have some very dear friends from peefans on my IG/FB but I trust that they'd neverrrrrr everrrrrr give me up like that. The logic in me says it really was an accident, that he meant to send it to someone else but I am having anxiety so bad. 

Someone talk to me here 🫣 I truly do not know what to do or how to think about this lol.

was it hot tho?

[MidoriLemonade85 2,366]

4 hours ago, A_AShes said:

After 15 years to send by mistake??? Hey, no way it was an accident. why that way only you might know. A chance  remains that he is amongst us and hoped to  please you but it did not work...   The pity is it was made that way, perhaps too late for you... plus your short talk to him made him shut the door...  I think you could easily open it if you really want it after so many years of  life with hidden passion...  it may change your life  "to be finaly found" by old solemate...

No, I really don’t think so. Because if he was on this site he would know B was married and that kind of thing would not get him far. It was obviously a mistake. 

[MidoriLemonade85 2,366]

5 hours ago, Bacardi said:

Hi friends. Emergency here. 

This afternoon I was sitting on the couch relaxing when a notification went off across the top of my iPad that I had received an Instagram message from a long time childhood friend of mine. I clicked on it right away and it was a video of him peeing into a toilet on top of what looked like a leaf or something floating in the bowl. Saw his penis and everything. Guys my heart stopped dead in my fucking chest. I haven't had a meaningful conversation with this guy since we were like 15 or something like that but he was sending me literal porn??? In a panic I sent him a fast "what's that for?" And as soon as he read it he unsent the message. Then he said "sorry that was for someone else." I was too stunned to say anything else lol. 

But, now I'm panicking. You guys know one of my greatest fears is being found out. I have some very dear friends from peefans on my IG/FB but I trust that they'd neverrrrrr everrrrrr give me up like that. The logic in me says it really was an accident, that he meant to send it to someone else but I am having anxiety so bad. 

Someone talk to me here 🫣 I truly do not know what to do or how to think about this lol.

Life is full of coincidences. 
Sometimes my husband says things that makes it sound like he has read my private messages. 
He will mention something pee or sex related and my paranoid mind will make connections. That are not there. 
I think that is the case here. He has pressed the wrong button. Easy to do. Especially on iPhones. I mean it gives you so many choices when sharing photos…Teams, IG, FB, etc. It is immensely easy to press the wrong option. It’s a miracle I haven’t posted a pee pic myself yet to FB or Teams!!!

Especially with wet hands. 😆

So, going on that short interaction, it seems obvious it was not meant for you. He does not know about your kink. He is embarrassed. I am sure it won’t happen again. 
 

But it must have been scary for you. Sending hugs. 💚

[Carb0nBased 647]

6 hours ago, Bacardi said:

Hi friends. Emergency here. 

This afternoon I was sitting on the couch relaxing when a notification went off across the top of my iPad that I had received an Instagram message from a long time childhood friend of mine. I clicked on it right away and it was a video of him peeing into a toilet on top of what looked like a leaf or something floating in the bowl. Saw his penis and everything.

It seems very unlikely that he would send a dick pic to someone he hasn't had much contact with for the last 15 years. And this doesn't sound like a "sexy" pic anyway--it almost sounds like he was trying to make a point how good his aim is, to someone who knew him well enough that seeing his penis wouldn't be the most noteworthy aspect of the photo, possibly someone with whom he shares a bathroom who had accused him of making a mess in there before. As I understand it from reading what other people post on here, a decent number of pee fetishists don't even find ordinary toilet pees particularly sexual anyway. Many of us do but by no means all. 

I think that if he knew about and wanted to make fun of your fetish, he'd more likely do it by telling you stories of times he was desperate to pee and making jokes about how good it was, or even telling you he needs to pee in conversation (or asking you whether you do), and then giggling. And if he DIDN'T want to make fun then he would probably not say anything even if he knew in order to not make you feel awkward.

[oliver2 4,418]

3 hours ago, MidoriLemonade85 said:

Because if he was on this site he would know B was married and that kind of thing would not get him far

Not unless he trained as a chiropractor and moved to Italy.

(My money is on bizarre coincidence, here, too, though I would freak the hell out in @Bacardi’s shoes)

[swekiss 1,066]

Omg, I can't even begin to imagine the panic you are feeling. I would assume he somehow knows, BUT it could also be the case of "this sounds exactly like her, I will send it to test the waters". So my respons would be to ask what was wrong with them for sending something like that or just a big "WTF?!" and then block them since you haven't spoken in 15 years anyway. That way it would look like I was NOT the person he thought since I "got offended" and my identity/secret would not be revealed.

I'm 100% in the closet with you and feel like I would die if anyone I know for real would find out.

[MidoriLemonade85 2,366]

11 minutes ago, swekiss said:

Omg, I can't even begin to imagine the panic you are feeling. I would assume he somehow knows, BUT it could also be the case of "this sounds exactly like her, I will send it to test the waters". So my respons would be to ask what was wrong with them for sending something like that or just a big "WTF?!" and then block them since you haven't spoken in 15 years anyway. That way it would look like I was NOT the person he thought since I "got offended" and my identity/secret would not be revealed.

I'm 100% in the closet with you and feel like I would die if anyone I know for real would find out.

If he was “testing the waters” why would he unsend and say it was meant for someone else? Obviously it was a mistake. If he was after her reaction he would have stuck around and asked for her thoughts. There was no flirtation whatsoever. He may have chickened out but I really highly doubt it. An apology would have been better though. 

[swekiss 1,066]

25 minutes ago, MidoriLemonade85 said:

If he was “testing the waters” why would he unsend and say it was meant for someone else? Obviously it was a mistake. If he was after her reaction he would have stuck around and asked for her thoughts. There was no flirtation whatsoever. He may have chickened out but I really highly doubt it. An apology would have been better though. 

Cause it's the perfect get away. If the respons is NOT what you hoped for you can do the classic "oooh, that wasn't for you" and remove it like it was not. Saying the person must have been under the one it was meant for and I'm so sorry for pressing the wrong person. 

[Alpian 687]

To be honest, @swekiss's explanation sounds the most plausible to me. All others rely too heavily on unlikely circumstances.

In that case, I guess your reaction was totally appropriate and I'd consider the issue closed.

[Bacardi 10,131]

19 hours ago, oliver2 said:

Not unless he trained as a chiropractor and moved to Italy.

Stop 😭 cause if it were Doctor Feely I'd be begging him for more lol. 

I took everyone's thoughts into consideration and once the adrenaline and anxiety were gone I came to the conclusion it probably really was an accident. I messaged him this afternoon and told him we were still cool, that I considered it a misstep and didn't think anything less of him. I'm sure he was freaking out too having accidentally shown me his penis lol. He messaged me back a few hours later that he was really sorry but was happy I understood that shit happens. Now we can go back to happily observing each other's lives through the screen without it being awkward 🤣 

We have been friends since like the 1st grade and he is well aware that im married so I am certain he was not trying to pursue me romantically. 

Now I can only hope that nothing like that will EVER happen again! 

[Kupar 13,335]

On 10/3/2024 at 11:55 PM, Bacardi said:

Hi friends. Emergency here. 

This afternoon I was sitting on the couch relaxing when a notification went off across the top of my iPad that I had received an Instagram message from a long time childhood friend of mine. I clicked on it right away and it was a video of him peeing into a toilet on top of what looked like a leaf or something floating in the bowl. Saw his penis and everything. Guys my heart stopped dead in my fucking chest. I haven't had a meaningful conversation with this guy since we were like 15 or something like that but he was sending me literal porn??? In a panic I sent him a fast "what's that for?" And as soon as he read it he unsent the message. Then he said "sorry that was for someone else." I was too stunned to say anything else lol. 

But, now I'm panicking. You guys know one of my greatest fears is being found out. I have some very dear friends from peefans on my IG/FB but I trust that they'd neverrrrrr everrrrrr give me up like that. The logic in me says it really was an accident, that he meant to send it to someone else but I am having anxiety so bad. 

Someone talk to me here 🫣 I truly do not know what to do or how to think about this lol.

Sorry I've only just seen this @Bacardi. I hope you're feeling better about it now. I am 100% sure it was a genuine error on his part and he is probably really concerned and worried. Sending hugs xxxx

[Kupar 13,335]

3 hours ago, Bacardi said:

Stop 😭 cause if it were Doctor Feely I'd be begging him for more lol. 

I took everyone's thoughts into consideration and once the adrenaline and anxiety were gone I came to the conclusion it probably really was an accident. I messaged him this afternoon and told him we were still cool, that I considered it a misstep and didn't think anything less of him. I'm sure he was freaking out too having accidentally shown me his penis lol. He messaged me back a few hours later that he was really sorry but was happy I understood that shit happens. Now we can go back to happily observing each other's lives through the screen without it being awkward 🤣 

We have been friends since like the 1st grade and he is well aware that im married so I am certain he was not trying to pursue me romantically. 

Now I can only hope that nothing like that will EVER happen again! 

🙂

Edited October 5 by Kupar

[Moore007 454]

I can understand you @Bacardi Being in the closet I hard. Been there myself and every sign that points in a direction of being revealed can cause really tough feeling. Today after having dealt many years with my fetish together with sexual therapists I would, if a female friend sent me pics or a video of her peeing, respond like “Cool, I was really wondering when we would pee together, I can text you when I have to pee and we can meet up” followed by some big smiling emojis 😀

[weteric 1,365]

Also my biggest fear to be "found out"

 

As you said, you're married, not looking and he knows that and absolutely this would never be your opening gambit in trying to chat up an old acquaintance unless he knows your proclivities. 

 

But here's a question. Now that you suspect he has the same fetish interest. Does that change anything? And next time you see him, will you be dropping hints? 

[Bacardi 10,131]

3 minutes ago, weteric said:

But here's a question. Now that you suspect he has the same fetish interest. Does that change anything? And next time you see him, will you be dropping hints? 

I probably will never see him again. He stayed close to our home town while I moved away. Like I said we're childhood friends. I've never been sexual attracted to him lol. It really doesn't change much between us. 

[weteric 1,365]

13 minutes ago, Bacardi said:

I probably will never see him again. He stayed close to our home town while I moved away. Like I said we're childhood friends. I've never been sexual attracted to him lol. It really doesn't change much between us. 

I think your secret is safe. But I would have been the same. Lol