My Apologies!

[chubbybirb999 1,560]

Hi guys! 

I’m really sorry I’ve not been around a lot! I’ve been having a lot of problems at work with workplace bullying and harassment, to the point getting up and going to work has been really really tricky. I ended up going to occupational health and seeing a wellbeing worker and I’m just really struggling all in all. 

Ive lost an awful lot of my confidence, hence why I’ve not been around here. I felt so crappy about myself that even just making conversation, let alone taking photos or saying stories, was very taxing on me. It all got a bit much for me this week and I’ve had three days off work with illness and stress  

Luckily - I only have three weeks of work left before the summer. And I’d love to get back more involved on the forum again. You are all wonderful and I hope you can forgive my being awol for so long! 

[F.W 5,734]

Oh,we dont like bullying.Was it management,or colleague?

[chubbybirb999 1,560]

Management! 

[F.W 5,734]

The worst kind,a colleague you can get moved away or sacked even.I hope you get sorted.Theres too much of this nowadays.

[gldenwetgoose 21,500]

Really sorry to hear that - as FW said, far too much of it.   It's unfortunate that in schools and the health industry there seem to be so many people playing at power trips....

I've worked my career in the male dominated industry of engineering, where management structure does seem to be led by men. There seems to be a tendency to just get on with stuff, yes there'll be workplace disagreements and so on - but people just treat it as differences of opinions. The next day it's back round the table and get on with it.  I have however seen a number of close friends working in schools and NHS roles, where there are many more ladies in management - ladies who are emotionally led, insecure and in some cases create their own incestual departments staffed by their close friends - to the exclusion of anyone who doesn't fit in.

Sorry, just my sexist rant - not sexist, just observed (maybe with some bias).  Anyway Miss C  - you're always welcome here. You don't have to be posting, you don't have to be submitting, you don't even have to react to content - but do keep coming around. Do shout up if you need an online cuddle, a bit of a chat, a vent....  We're far more than just a bunch of maybe sexist sex-maniacs....   we're your sexist sex-maniacs.

Chin up for these few days and have an awesome summer....

[WantonLee 861]

Sorry to hear that.

What about your colleagues - are they involved in any way? Are they on you side?

 

In any case: do not forget to... leave your mark... if you catch my drift... 😉

(Only if you can get away with it, of cause.)

[Peefreak99 3,722]

don't feel bad because someone is being a asshole to you it's the idiot bullying you that should feel bad you have done nothing wrong i don't know you but trust me this community takes care of it's members everyone here is behind you 

[mickymoist 3,515]

@chubbybirb999 So sorry to hear what you're going through, bullying of any kind is disgraceful, I really hope you can get it sorted out one way or another.  There are people who care here and I know you've been missed,  please don't feel that you have to be posting pics or describing pee stuff to come here. I'm sure there are plenty of people here who are happy to just chat and be supportive. 

Take care x

[spywareonya 37,962]

@chubbybirb999

 

Darling the love we feel for you is about who you ARE, NOT what you do on or for the forum

Just like I cannot simply one day wake up and forget all we shared, then simply we could never stop loving you and absolutely trust your responsible and serious soul

When you are around, you are around, when you are not, you are not, and yet the serious dignity of your sincerity lingers around even when you are absent

 

 

I am sincerely sorry for how you feel, it was a bad moment for many Scorpios, just keep going, and you'll get through!!

[steve25805 126,158]

@chubbybirb999, am so sorry to hear about your work situation. Bullies are absolute assholes.

Sorry to hear it has been getting you down so much, but there is zero need for you to apologise for being here less often. As @spywareonya said, when you are here you are here, when you are not you are not. We all know that people have their reasons for their absences and no one loves or respects you any less.

The last thing there is any need at all for is for you to feel bad about not being here as often as you might have liked.

Things will turn around somehow, and get sorted.

And if ever you need to unload - it is not all just about pee here: we care about each other: we care about you - feel free to unload here and you will have friends willing to listen and offer comfort, support, and advice as required.

[chubbybirb999 1,560]

Thanks everyone! I appreciate all your kind words very much!

[speedy3471 10,655]

Iam very sorry to hear this. The workplace should be a safe and fair place, unfortunately it's not in your case. I hope you gain your self confidence back, come back here when your ready. Feel free to reach out to people here for support if need be

[Blackinksoul30 1,246]

Chubby I am very sorry to hear you've had to deal with bullying at work. Growing up I had a physically and emotionally abusive older brother. Plus I was bullied daily in school. This went on for years which resulted in... well...still today at 35 my self esteem and self confidence is shaky. I'm a very scared, fragile person. A kid at heart. A gentle heart. Sending you hugs!! I've wrote about some of my bullying experiences in my blog. Let me know if you wanna check it out.