How does one go about telling their significant other about their piss kink?

[JayT1995 64]

I wouldn’t tell her on like a first date or anything I’d get to know her first.  My girlfriend back in college we were together for about a month maybe two and we were talking one night she asked me what am I into sex wise,  I told her I was a virgin so I don’t really know but I do like to watch girls pee.  She wasn’t really into it but she did it for me she used to send me pictures when she was on the toilet. So I guess just get to know her first and if things seem to be going well just tell her what your into.

[denis 5]

i told my wife but she not fullfill my fetish thats sad

 

[Aria12 3]

carefully, those niches are definitely on the harder side to be into.

[gldenwetgoose 20,259]

On 12/16/2023 at 6:33 AM, Pboy123 said:

I just recently got into a relationship and I was wanting to try pee play with my s/o. More specifically wetting and abdl

@Pboy123 - There is already a lot of discussion on the forum about your exact question.   I've just merged together four or five separate topics to form this thread. And then I've merged in your question, so the two responses you'll see above were directed at you.

 

In terms of my personal take on your question:    Obviously we don't know your partner or their character, and if you've just got into the relationship perhaps you haven't had too long either to get acquainted on how open and supportive they'd be.  There is a risk of telling them and them being repulsed, fearing what they don't know and perhaps kink shaming you.  There is a chance they won't support or understand - but will be willing to try.

There are many people on the forum whose partners don't support or accept.  In those instances it can be a choice...  what is more important?  Our kink or a otherwise meaningful relationship.

Anyway, before you get to all that...  Perhaps bring pee into discussions in a way that's pretty innocent and still has a 'laugh it off' back door way out if needed.   Perhaps if you've been out for drinks, walking home and partner confesses they really need a wee that can open a fun chat:   What's the worst you've ever needed?  Did you make it?   Have you ever wet yourself?  and so on.   Now that could sound like a major interrogation so take it easy.

Then later on, during pillow talk perhaps you can confess that the thought of them exposed and the amazing relief is something your mind keeps playing over  - the emphasis not on humiliation of course, but on the empowerment of getting out of that desperate situation.  If they did wet themselves (recently) then focus on the immediate relief, warmth of the feeling and not the embarrassment etc.

It could be a long slow thing...   and no guarantee your partner will ever understand or make the effort to.

[Kirby23 778]

On 12/11/2023 at 1:42 PM, Starks2010 said:

You have to come out and say it. If they have a problem with it then you don’t want them for a partner anyway. 

If they aren’t willing to pee for you then they really aren’t valuable and it’ll leave you seeking for it else where.

It’s like buying a shiny new red car. BUT, it doesn’t have a sunroof. You really wanted that sunroof. If you buy it, it’s nice but it’s really not what you wanted because it doesn’t have that sunroof. Then you’re looking to trade it in for one that has a sunroof. 

@Starks2010 I appreciate your perspective, but I don't agree. Case in point, my wife. She is very much not into anything pee-related, but I love her very much and would never cheat or seek for it elsewhere. She's a wonderful wife, partner, and mother to our kids. We laugh together, have fun together, and are looking forward to growing old together.

In the grand scheme of things I worry about, whether or not my wife is into pee comprises maybe 2% of it. 

Do I wish she was into it? Absolutely. But would I ever jeopardize what I have with her over a pee kink? Absolutely not.

[Starks2010 2,120]

4 hours ago, Kirby23 said:

@Starks2010 I appreciate your perspective, but I don't agree. Case in point, my wife. She is very much not into anything pee-related, but I love her very much and would never cheat or seek for it elsewhere. She's a wonderful wife, partner, and mother to our kids. We laugh together, have fun together, and are looking forward to growing old together.

In the grand scheme of things I worry about, whether or not my wife is into pee comprises maybe 2% of it. 

Do I wish she was into it? Absolutely. But would I ever jeopardize what I have with her over a pee kink? Absolutely not.

That’s good. As long as you’re happy. That’s what’s important. I’ve been lucky because everyone I was with got into the peeing after it was introduced to them. 

[on the porch 333]

There is no magic pill or some webitching formula , if it is supposed to happen it will , groveling might help even begging or gobs of money.  My lady friend , Ruth , was very deprived of sex with a religious cult she was in ,When her husband died , I met her , it took 3 weeks of very mild get togethers before a date of any kind , She was afraid of everything , and everybody , 

One night at my house I made her dinner and we sat and talked a lot , She had 2 small glasses of wine and was really out of it . How it happened I'm not sure , but we were in bed , and she was so tight I didn't want to hurt her , so I, started kissing her all over , her breast were so soft and down I went kissing her all the way , when I reached her pussy ,my toung touched clit and pee hole , that's all it took .She squirted like a fire hoze .

She didn't say anything , just laid there and was shaking , in her whole life she never had an orgasm , It scared her ,I just held her more and more of her pee leaked out ,She was embarrassed, but I told her it was a gift she gave to me ,  She now enjoys every bit of our making love and is always willing to let me lick her pee ,,  Each day is new to her all the things we do and places we go are like christmas to her  I said it here before ,, she is my winning lottery ticket .

[crazypornman1971 8]

After 8 years  with my wife  she found out that  I was in to it I always tease her about it. How she found out was I was watching 👀  pee porn sites  and  she was looking  at my PC and said  that  you wasn't  just joking about it . I told her that  I  wasn't and I'm really into it  she not into it  but. I tried to have her  release herself. One day she will  

[zzman2022 51]

I wish I could say been with someone for 15 years and they have no idea was married for 25 and I was able to keep it a secret from her as well. But lately she has been staring at my crotch a lot lately so I think she’s figuring it out I wet myself everyday I can’t stop I love that wet feeling and I do it everywhere I go I wear dark clothes but there is always a wet patch.

[on the porch 333]

Like I said above , Ruth was very deprived of any kind of sex her whole life , we fell into it  accidentally, going down on her was pure heaven , and once my tongue touches her clit and pee hole she let it all out , I drank every drop , no words were said ,we just laid there and held each other very tight , She never had a orgasm in her life ,it really scared her ,not knowing what her body was doing , now still no words , but we both enjoy our time with pee and super sex 

[ppppppp 1,441]

She found out after I had been careless using a shared computer.  

At first she was worried about exactly what I was into.  I told her.  She asked lots of questions.  Then she wet her knickers.

She was curious about how turned on I might be.

[Wetpantyprincess 2]

Heyyy

 

how did everyone tell their partner about their pee fetish?

 

so my partner doesn’t know exactly but sometimes he will ask for videos of me peeing and gets turned on. Sometimes during sexting asks me to pee on his c*ck but never asks in person.

 

Any ideas how I can approach this situation next?

[longbastard 174]

On 12/7/2023 at 6:32 AM, vanessa9 said:

On your first hike, just pee in front of her, not trying to hide anything, and see how she reacts.

I bet you’ve done this with practically everyone you’ve ever hiked with 🙂

Has anyone had a particularly fun, funny, or unexpected reaction?

 

[vanessa9 840]

13 hours ago, longbastard said:

I bet you’ve done this with practically everyone you’ve ever hiked with 🙂

Has anyone had a particularly fun, funny, or unexpected reaction?

 

My suggestion to Simmie was to openly pee in front of somebody who was already giving her some hints. I think the best way to achieve pee connivance with a SO is to be in a situation where you can test his/her reaction at something slightly daring, and depending on this reaction you can progress to something naughtier, but if you see some disgust, or simply lack of interest, you can always back off and act like it happened by chance, convenience, or obligation because of the lack of facilities. And pretending it is completely innocent is of course easier between two women.

To answer your question, yes, I have peed in front of a lot of hiking partners. This is more acceptable on hiking paths than, say, on the sidewalks of a big city. And the usual reaction of my partners, seeing me peeing for the first time, ranges from pretending they don't realize what I am doing to joining me for a shared toilet break.

[longbastard 174]

@vanessa9 all of that is SO true. Especially starting with something slightly daring or even just saying you’ve really gotta piss and seeing what they suggest. Speaking of people pretending they don’t realize, I love when strangers pretend they don’t see but sneak one quick full on glance.

[Ehric 1]

No significant other here at the moment but I'd suppose one "ice breaker" would be first asking the other person what _their_ kinks might be and let the conversation start there. If the answer to the first question is "sex is only for procreation" you might wanna discuss your own kinks with someone else. ;)

[oliver2 3,899]

2 hours ago, Ehric said:

there. If the answer to the first question is "sex is only for procreation" you might wanna discuss your own kinks with someone else. 😉

“Oh, I’m into the breeding kink”

[Ehric 1]

59 minutes ago, oliver2 said:

“Oh, I’m into the breeding kink”

Fair enough, I think the key word would be _only_ tho. ;)

[Overlord 322]

My experience shows me that, like so much in life, you shouldn't overthink everything. If you are really in love with your significant other and she is too with you, just discuss it. Simple as that. I know, it's hard and takes a lot of courage to do the first step but it will be worth it in the long run. Either way.

I had this exact question in my mind for every relationship I started in the past few decades. How do I tell her that I'm a freaking pervert who likes to get pissed in my mouth?

Well, my style was always get together cozy on the couch, maybe drink something to loosen up and talk about stuff. Like you would do every day. But then try to deviate in some (normal) sexual themes. Talk about a sex scene in a film, or something. If she goes with it, you know she's in the right mood to discuss stuff like this, if not, try another time.  If she is willing to discuss sexual stuff, drill deeper, go for it. Ask questions, what she wants, how she feels about stuff and then at the right point you throw something in like: "You know, I always was curious about girls peeing. Maybe I can watch next time you go?"

This is the point of no return. If she laughs and says: "Haha, yeah of course stupid! I'll show you how girls pee!" You have the jackpot. If she says: "Bro, that's just disgusting!" Then you have a dud, no further digging necessary.

If she's in to let you watch, go further and further from this point. First time, just watch and enjoy. Tell her afterwards how much you enjoyed, and pretty sure she will gladly do a second time for you. Then try to touch her stream, say something like: "This is so sexy!" Go on for a while, maybe ask her if she wants to watch you, hold your dick or something, until you are at the point where you are comfortable to ask her if she wants to pee on you.

That was always my way approach. 

[jorel2012 204]

12 hours ago, Overlord said:

My experience shows me that, like so much in life, you shouldn't overthink everything. If you are really in love with your significant other and she is too with you, just discuss it. Simple as that. I know, it's hard and takes a lot of courage to do the first step but it will be worth it in the long run. Either way.

I had this exact question in my mind for every relationship I started in the past few decades. How do I tell her that I'm a freaking pervert who likes to get pissed in my mouth?

Well, my style was always get together cozy on the couch, maybe drink something to loosen up and talk about stuff. Like you would do every day. But then try to deviate in some (normal) sexual themes. Talk about a sex scene in a film, or something. If she goes with it, you know she's in the right mood to discuss stuff like this, if not, try another time.  If she is willing to discuss sexual stuff, drill deeper, go for it. Ask questions, what she wants, how she feels about stuff and then at the right point you throw something in like: "You know, I always was curious about girls peeing. Maybe I can watch next time you go?"

This is the point of no return. If she laughs and says: "Haha, yeah of course stupid! I'll show you how girls pee!" You have the jackpot. If she says: "Bro, that's just disgusting!" Then you have a dud, no further digging necessary.

If she's in to let you watch, go further and further from this point. First time, just watch and enjoy. Tell her afterwards how much you enjoyed, and pretty sure she will gladly do a second time for you. Then try to touch her stream, say something like: "This is so sexy!" Go on for a while, maybe ask her if she wants to watch you, hold your dick or something, until you are at the point where you are comfortable to ask her if she wants to pee on you.

That was always my way approach. 

Takes balls but I fully agree. 
Did almost the same early in my current relationship. Didn’t want to loose too much time. Turned out quite well. 
 

In my previous relationship it took me way too long to open up myself. 
After I talked about it with her I had the best three months of my life, sexually spoken. Unfortunately she was not the right one in all other topics of life so we parted.
She tried the piss kink after we spoke about it and she immediately loved it. 
Already sexually very open she had no worries with things getting wet in her apartment, so she peed wherever she felt doing so. 
She once opened the door fully naked and started peeing right in front of me when in the background of the stairwell her neighbours were chatting. 
Very hard to describe these experiences without sounding like out of a porn movie. 
All of this wouldn’t have been possible without talking to each other about our own sexual preferences. 

Edited April 20 by jorel2012