Why we are so turned on by this?

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Sometimes i wonder how such a simple and everyday act like urination turns ppl on so much! Sometimes i see the act trough the erotic scope, but sometimes i get this tought in my mind, is such a simple thing, we do it everyday, multiple times without ever realizing, so i decide to open this brainstorming thread about it. Everyone have their reason (including myself) on how we came to like the fetish, but have you stopped and wondered, why?

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Sexuality is random I guess. Once something clicks, it click HARD.

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47 minutes ago, bungholio69 said:

There are certain moments that happened in my life that made me into the person I I’m today but idk like one day I guess I decided that woman relieving themselves outside or in the toilet gives me a hard on lol. 

 

1 hour ago, GenericUsername said:

Sexuality is random I guess. Once something clicks, it click HARD.

 

47 minutes ago, bungholio69 said:

There are certain moments that happened in my life that made me into the person I I’m today but idk like one day I guess I decided that woman relieving themselves outside or in the toilet gives me a hard on lol. 

I know right? Strange, yet, amazing how our mind is! They say the brain is our biggest sexual organ and i tend to agree. Like i said it is something to think: a lot of ppl find our kink strange and disgusting, yet, they might have a kink we find strange. Me for example, never going to understand how ppl get turned on by being degraded, believe me i tried, with a 9yrs professional domme.

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15 minutes ago, RainyDay said:

I'll go through phases where I decide that I want to get to the bottom of it, but... the research surrounding fetishes and their development is interesting, to say the least. There is some evidence that they surface as a result of childhood experiences, but I have also heard many times that they can be passed down genetically. I find both of these ideas a little unsettling, so I opt to enjoy the art without questioning it too much. 🙂

I can almost agree they come from childhood experience, that is my case. Now the genes theory is intriguing, going to research this!

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I would err on the side of childhood experiences being the start of many fetishes. That's certainly how mine started, and looking back that's how a lot of my kinks started too. 

I mean, if you think about it peeing is almost everywhere. People pee on the side of the road, people pee on the sides of buildings, and so on so it's something people get exposed to young. It's just something that can't be avoided. It also is often the first glimpse you get of another person's penis or vagina, so that's why I think the link between pee and fetish starts in childhood for most people.

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I am fairly sure that this fetish is rooted in childhood experiences. It certainly was, for me. But in my case, it started very early, like around 2 1/2 years old, literally at my mother's knee, so I often wonder if genetic predisposition is also a factor. I wouldn't be surprised by that.

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3 hours ago, RainyDay said:

I'll go through phases where I decide that I want to get to the bottom of it, but... the research surrounding fetishes and their development is interesting, to say the least. There is some evidence that they surface as a result of childhood experiences, but I have also heard many times that they can be passed down genetically. I find both of these ideas a little unsettling, so I opt to enjoy the art without questioning it too much. 🙂

As I mentioned before, I'm also really into studying fetishes, trying to crack the code, etc. But man, nothing unsettles me more than the theory of fetishes being genetic. Trying to imagine anyone else in my family having what I have is...ewww. 

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When I was young, there were a few girls who had to go about the same time as me. They were different, and we were not afraid to relieve ourselves together. Then it became forbidden, but I’d already seen girls relieving themselves and wanted to again. Then, I noted that playing with myself when I had to piss felt good. So I began to fantasize about girls I knew letting me play with them when they needed to go feeling good. It hasn’t happened, and I know fantasies only work in our heads when everybody else has to obey our rules. But privately, it can be powerful. I have not had a chance to experience it in real life outside of myself. I’m OK with keeping it that way, but meeting a woman who saw things the same way would be too tempting. 

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With me, the intimacy aspect has a great deal to do with it. It's something we're taught to do in private from a very young age. For this reason (and not just because I happen to have a pee fetish myself), I find this fetish (and ones for other intimate or hidden things like menstruation or breastfeeding) way more understandable than one for popping balloons, getting cars stuck in mud, crushing animals, or any of the other odd fetish interests out there. Plus there's the bodily fluid aspect, and the involuntariness of it all--peeing is something we all need to do badly sometimes, and that need has feelings associated with it (that also happen to in some cases feel somewhat like sexual sensations for some).

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I had an abusive dad and due to fear I peed in bed until I was 16. I was VERY ashamed and hated bed peeing. I had much later in life lots of highly taboo experiences involving non-human peeing that triggered my current (DEEP) love for pee. Self pee, bedwetting, (which I enjoy very much now! 😋) and pee drinking are now on a daily basis. I love Female Champagne! I sometimes fill my bladder with the shower hose pressed to my hard on. Filling your bladder (that's so close to your prostate) this way stimulates the blood flow there and makes you hard (er). At least that's the case for me. Anyway, the very private thing about peeing and exposing your genitals turns people on, I guess. At least for exhibionistic guys like me. I sort of grew into pee graduatly and love to experiment. I for example use a cathether sometimes to suck the hot pee straight from my bladder. I make sure that I drink a lot first so it's diluted. Then it's DELICIOUS! Just like herb tea! I go mad however of seeing peeing pussies! That is such a BEAUTIFUL SIGHT! My GF pees for me sometimes to please me but she isn't into pee herself though. Pity. Her pee tastes like Divine Nectar! 🥰🍓💦💛💦👅❤

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Great insights everyone! Shows how much different we aproach our desires, yet end up liking something in common! Like many, i was exposed to pee as a child, back then, it was nothing special, a thing we need to to regularly like i said. As we grow, it became forbidden to pee together with my friend, we segregate bathrooms and for me, that was my trigger, why is that? My curiosity turned inquisite and i began to research. Curious enough, when we had limited access to the internet back then, porn was kinda hard to come by, had my first contact with peeing porn and remember being surprised: "they have this kind of thing on the internet?" I remember saying to myself. Today i try to learn every aspect of the fetish, not only sexually but also how everything works, biologically speaking, since i intend to work on the ON/GYN sector as a nurse. Well i am rambling too much lol, but sometimes i have to much crossing my mind, this time it ended up here, but i would love to keep reading your toughts on the matter, thank you all!!

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8 hours ago, Bacardi said:

I would err on the side of childhood experiences being the start of many fetishes. That's certainly how mine started, and looking back that's how a lot of my kinks started too. 

I mean, if you think about it peeing is almost everywhere. People pee on the side of the road, people pee on the sides of buildings, and so on so it's something people get exposed to young. It's just something that can't be avoided. It also is often the first glimpse you get of another person's penis or vagina, so that's why I think the link between pee and fetish starts in childhood for most people.

I do agree, the visual aspect is always enticing, yet some are turned on (my case) even with the sound of pee, the smell of it. I find amazing how our body works together to bring us to arousal, not only with the fetish, but with everything sexually related. We primarily rely on sight to turn us on, but our brain can turn us on with sound and smells, working with our sights we get ready to get going, but i am straying, i get carried away when talking biology lol

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10 hours ago, AWN_84 said:

I do agree, the visual aspect is always enticing, yet some are turned on (my case) even with the sound of pee, the smell of it. I find amazing how our body works together to bring us to arousal, not only with the fetish, but with everything sexually related. We primarily rely on sight to turn us on, but our brain can turn us on with sound and smells, working with our sights we get ready to get going, but i am straying, i get carried away when talking biology lol

YES, you are absolutely right. Smells are far more important than is usually recognised. It can trigger our deepest emotions. The simple smell of something euh...special can give me a hard on straight away, as my brain connects it with some HOT experiences I had in the past. 😋

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I have pondered this at length.

There seems to be a sizable body of psychological analysis which suggests guys pee fetishes are born in childhood, which is certainly as true for me as it is for the other respondents here. I can remember a pee fantasy giving me my first erection - I was about 10 so it involved spaceships. 😄

What turns me on about it now? Mostly the fact it is still a taboo act: there is a huge degree of intimacy in sharing an urgent need to pee. And my natural tendency is to prolong that intimacy as long as possible - it distorts normal emotions and interactions, both mine and of the lady involved, and it's that slightly out-of-normality experience that is a turn-on. Plus there is the obvious focus on a glimpse of unexpected nudity, and the orgasm-like relief of letting go: and my own desire to be a part of that relief.

As for the ladies on this site? I know that a full bladder presses on the internal parts of the clit and the G-spot. It's a sensation that's too weird for many women, but I'm sure plenty here have learned to embrace it. Plus many women still have fantasies of subservience, shame and exhibitionism. In the 2020s the subjects of these fantasies have all been accentuated and distorted by the MeToo generation, and so are perhaps even more intense for certain women.

Despite having pondered it at length, it's still a fascinating topic.

 

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3 hours ago, BB1BB said:

I have pondered this at length.

There seems to be a sizable body of psychological analysis which suggests guys pee fetishes are born in childhood, which is certainly as true for me as it is for the other respondents here. I can remember a pee fantasy giving me my first erection - I was about 10 so it involved spaceships. 😄

What turns me on about it now? Mostly the fact it is still a taboo act: there is a huge degree of intimacy in sharing an urgent need to pee. And my natural tendency is to prolong that intimacy as long as possible - it distorts normal emotions and interactions, both mine and of the lady involved, and it's that slightly out-of-normality experience that is a turn-on. Plus there is the obvious focus on a glimpse of unexpected nudity, and the orgasm-like relief of letting go: and my own desire to be a part of that relief.

As for the ladies on this site? I know that a full bladder presses on the internal parts of the clit and the G-spot. It's a sensation that's too weird for many women, but I'm sure plenty here have learned to embrace it. Plus many women still have fantasies of subservience, shame and exhibitionism. In the 2020s the subjects of these fantasies have all been accentuated and distorted by the MeToo generation, and so are perhaps even more intense for certain women.

Despite having pondered it at length, it's still a fascinating topic.

 

Indeed! The more we give pause for tought, the more fascinating aspects we are able to find!

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7 hours ago, BB1BB said:

As for the ladies on this site? I know that a full bladder presses on the internal parts of the clit and the G-spot. It's a sensation that's too weird for many women, but I'm sure plenty here have learned to embrace it.

This can be a source of anxiety for some women. "Michelle" a g.f. from my distant past, long before Me Too, loved my licking her to orgasms on the bed. But there were times when she felt an intense desire to pee, when I got my tongue in a certain spot. She would always warn me, telling me that I would get awfully wet, if I kept licking that spot. My response was "Bring it on!" But it never happened. She had her orgasm, and I didn't get my favorite drink. Finally, she warned me one time, and I responded, "Promises, promises!" and we both laughed. But it still didn't happen.

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8 hours ago, BB1BB said:

I have pondered this at length.

There seems to be a sizable body of psychological analysis which suggests guys pee fetishes are born in childhood, which is certainly as true for me as it is for the other respondents here. I can remember a pee fantasy giving me my first erection - I was about 10 so it involved spaceships. 😄

What turns me on about it now? Mostly the fact it is still a taboo act: there is a huge degree of intimacy in sharing an urgent need to pee. And my natural tendency is to prolong that intimacy as long as possible - it distorts normal emotions and interactions, both mine and of the lady involved, and it's that slightly out-of-normality experience that is a turn-on. Plus there is the obvious focus on a glimpse of unexpected nudity, and the orgasm-like relief of letting go: and my own desire to be a part of that relief.

As for the ladies on this site? I know that a full bladder presses on the internal parts of the clit and the G-spot. It's a sensation that's too weird for many women, but I'm sure plenty here have learned to embrace it. Plus many women still have fantasies of subservience, shame and exhibitionism. In the 2020s the subjects of these fantasies have all been accentuated and distorted by the MeToo generation, and so are perhaps even more intense for certain women.

Despite having pondered it at length, it's still a fascinating topic.

 

That’s a thought I’ve had. It is like an orgasm. A filling bladder builds and builds, and will release itself if not dealt with. That’s probably why I associate the two. 

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It's a strange erotic trigger isn't it?After all it's just a bodily function. If not for the element of exposed reproductive organs it shouldn't be that exciting. And why do we get triggered while other people don't. For example, one person may have developed their urination fetish after a childhood neighbor peed in front of them. Meanwhile, another person who was present at that same moment, promptly forgot about it, going on to develop perfectly undisruptive sexual cravings.

According to the current clinical data, the majority of individuals who fit the criteria for having a urination fetish develop symptoms prior to the onset of puberty. And while many report an inciting incident, it doesn't seem to require one.

In short, I don't know why, I just know I am.

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15 hours ago, Takashi96 said:

It's a strange erotic trigger isn't it?After all it's just a bodily function. If not for the element of exposed reproductive organs it shouldn't be that exciting. And why do we get triggered while other people don't. For example, one person may have developed their urination fetish after a childhood neighbor peed in front of them. Meanwhile, another person who was present at that same moment, promptly forgot about it, going on to develop perfectly undisruptive sexual cravings.

According to the current clinical data, the majority of individuals who fit the criteria for having a urination fetish develop symptoms prior to the onset of puberty. And while many report an inciting incident, it doesn't seem to require one.

In short, I don't know why, I just know I am.

I agree with your reasoning, which seems to apply to my case, in many ways. My mom unknowingly (I think) provided many inciting incidents, for me, by allowing and inviting me into the bathroom with her, several times a day, at a very young age (<3 years old). On the other hand, she did not provide exposed reproductive organs, due to her very modest and secretive peeing style, sitting down, with her thighs pressed tightly together, so I couldn't see her organs or her stream, at all. And she kept her thighs together, as she wiped, from the rear. But I did get to see her lift her dress, revealing her bare thighs, above her stockings, as well as hearing and smelling her urine, all of which I liked, instinctively, and it all felt very pleasant, to me, although I was far too young to have any sexual feelings about it. My memories of those early experiences inspired my lifelong curiosity about how other girls and women urinated, which became a full blown fetish, which I have enjoyed immensely. 

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7 hours ago, Dr.P said:

I agree with your reasoning, which seems to apply to my case, in many ways. My mom unknowingly (I think) provided many inciting incidents, for me, by allowing and inviting me into the bathroom with her, several times a day, at a very young age (<3 years old). On the other hand, she did not provide exposed reproductive organs, due to her very modest and secretive peeing style, sitting down, with her thighs pressed tightly together, so I couldn't see her organs or her stream, at all. And she kept her thighs together, as she wiped, from the rear. But I did get to see her lift her dress, revealing her bare thighs, above her stockings, as well as hearing and smelling her urine, all of which I liked, instinctively, and it all felt very pleasant, to me, although I was far too young to have any sexual feelings about it. My memories of those early experiences inspired my lifelong curiosity about how other girls and women urinated, which became a full blown fetish, which I have enjoyed immensely. 

I'm afraid I can't take credit for the reasoning. Most of my information on this subject is from case studies on fetishes, psychology journals and that sort of thing. And then a wee bit, or should I say a sprinkling (I'm on a role with the puns over here) of personal experience and anecdotes from conversations like this one. 

As for my reference to exposed genitals, according to one article, they don't have to be visible. The knowledge that they're exposed is enough. I'm paraphrasing here, but basically this one passage talked about how the sound of urination takes root in the fetishists mind in childhood. Thus triggering a lifelong curiosity as to where the sound is coming from? What does this source look like? And finally evolving into sexual fixation. It was written very much from the perspective that urination fetishes are developed within male brains because of the elusive nature of female genitalia. It said nothing about urination fetishes among women. Or urination fetishes within a same sex context.

 

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14 hours ago, Takashi96 said:

As for my reference to exposed genitals, according to one article, they don't have to be visible. The knowledge that they're exposed is enough. I'm paraphrasing here, but basically this one passage talked about how the sound of urination takes root in the fetishists mind in childhood. Thus triggering a lifelong curiosity as to where the sound is coming from? What does this source look like? And finally evolving into sexual fixation. It was written very much from the perspective that urination fetishes are developed within male brains because of the elusive nature of female genitalia. It said nothing about urination fetishes among women. Or urination fetishes within a same sex context.

Thanks for a very plausible explanation of my experiences! I noted the usual tinkle, occasional sharp hiss, or muffled "shshsh" sounds of mom's and siblings urination, very early, and even asked mom about them. I knew that the sounds were emanating from between her thighs, pressed so tightly together, so I always stared intently at them, hoping to see her pee come out, but to no avail. I soon became fixated on her bare thighs, above her stocking tops, and those of other women, such as teachers, because I associated them with peeing sounds and actions by mom. I think she was aware of this, and increased her efforts at concealment of her genitalia and her streams, which she kept well hidden. I had no idea about the appearance of female genitalia, until my younger sisters were born, years later. The main reason she wanted me in the bathroom with her was that she and I were alone, in an empty house, all day, while my father was away at work. She was apparently concerned about my safety, while she was using the single bathroom, on the second floor. A fascinating subject. Thanks again for your professional insights.  

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22 hours ago, Dr.P said:

It was written very much from the perspective that urination fetishes are developed within male brains because of the elusive nature of female genitalia. It said nothing about urination fetishes among women. Or urination fetishes within a same sex context.

This is actually a quote from Takashi96. Apologies. I believe that urination fetishes exist, and may be common among women, relating to men, and also to other women, although women tend to hide their interests better than men. I have met and had conversations with women who are curious about men's peeing, and are aware of, and/or curious about the sounds and even physical peeing styles, of other women, even if they are straight, themselves. One difference seems to be that women make the sexual connection to urination less often, and with less intensity than men do, so the development of full blown urination fetishes is less common among them. Also, women have been subjected to strong social conditioning, which teaches that their excretory functions and processes, including urination, are somehow dirty, disgusting, unappealing, etc., so they are discouraged from developing fetishes involving them. In my ancient generation, girls were discouraged from looking at themselves "down there," watching their pee come out, etc. And even in the present time, the female author of "50 Shades of Grey" finds urine fetishes to be very much out of her bounds, although various forms of S&M are not. Some of those attitudes may be changing, with the ubiquity of "bladder leak" commercials on TV, etc.

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@Dr.P

Keep in mind my paraphrasing of explanations from accredited sources should not be confused with me having any actual professional credentials. I just go through phases where I get really into the clinical explanations of why we're like this. As if understanding the mechanics of our fetish will allow me to extract it from my brain like a bad sparkplug. 

Anyway, the part that talked about urination fetishes sometimes developing due to unsatiated curiosity about the genitals of the opposite sex resonated with me also. Similar to your examples, I had a neighbor girl who would pee in front of me when she was wearing a dresses or skirts. Then boast about how girls could pee without exposing themselves but boys couldn't. Of course that made me all the more curious as to what was going on under there? 

The reason I mentioned the paper all but ignoring pee fetishes in women was to illustrate that it was two or three decades out of date. Not that I disagreed with the part that made sense. But in ignoring fetishes outside of the cis male perspective, it vaguely insinuated that's all there is. Yes, I absolutely believe that women also have pee fetishes.

Unfortunately, it's only recently that the shortcomings in the study of female neuro divergence, disorders, etc, has started to come to light. Once more, because of these gaps in the data, countless women went undiagnosed for ADHD, Autism Spectrum Disorders, and Paraphilic Disorders, because researchers spent decades looking for typical male behaviors in female patients. Nevertheless, even as more women are finally being diagnosed (and treated) for these disorders, they still skew disproportionately male. 

And just to further muddy the waters, there's also the social conditioning you mentioned. And how that effects sexual curiosity, body image, shame, taboos, etc. In one sad example, a girl I went to HS with told me she thought she peed out of her butt until well into elementary school. 

 

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17 hours ago, Takashi96 said:

Keep in mind my paraphrasing of explanations from accredited sources should not be confused with me having any actual professional credentials. I just go through phases where I get really into the clinical explanations of why we're like this. As if understanding the mechanics of our fetish will allow me to extract it from my brain like a bad sparkplug. 

I totally understand, because I do exactly the same thing, reading both accredited and non-accredited sources. I am not a professional in this, or related fields, but I enjoy reading about them. I enjoy our fetish, very much, so I have no desire to extract it from my brain!

17 hours ago, Takashi96 said:

Anyway, the part that talked about urination fetishes sometimes developing due to unsatiated curiosity about the genitals of the opposite sex resonated with me also. Similar to your examples, I had a neighbor girl who would pee in front of me when she was wearing a dresses or skirts. Then boast about how girls could pee without exposing themselves but boys couldn't. Of course that made me all the more curious as to what was going on under there? 

The reason I mentioned the paper all but ignoring pee fetishes in women was to illustrate that it was two or three decades out of date. Not that I disagreed with the part that made sense. But in ignoring fetishes outside of the cis male perspective, it vaguely insinuated that's all there is. Yes, I absolutely believe that women also have pee fetishes.

I can certainly relate to enhanced and unsatisfied curiosity about what was going on, "under there," or between her tightly compressed thighs. My dear mom was an expert at that, but I think she was honestly trying to discourage my curiosity, because she thought it was indecent, in some way. I also understand about the out of date research, which does not describe modern women accurately, at all.

18 hours ago, Takashi96 said:

And just to further muddy the waters, there's also the social conditioning you mentioned. And how that effects sexual curiosity, body image, shame, taboos, etc. In one sad example, a girl I went to HS with told me she thought she peed out of her butt until well into elementary school. 

This example gives me a chuckle, since the source of that belief was a female! I myself held the exact same belief, about my mom, when I was about 4 years old, and had seen her in the bathroom, many times, as a curious little kid. I noticed that she always wiped from the back, with her thighs together, so I thought she peed out of her butt. So I actually asked her if her "wee-wee" came out in the front or the back. She told me that it came out in the front, but it also got her wet, in the back, because she had to bend forward to make it go down in the toilet, so it didn't get the seat wet, in the front. Fascinating!

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My belief is it's genetic, or at least the predisposition for fetishes. I can't remember a time when I wasn't interested in pee, going right back to my first cognitive memories around aged two. Yes as we grow up we learn what we like and pick up techniques and ideas, but something has to be there in the first place to attract you. Same logic of why people like particular hobbies or pursuits that others find uninteresting. A lot of that is innate behaviour, not learned.

Whatever the origins, it gives us a lot of pleasure, but it's just the way we are 😊