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What can I do to get my significant other (s) to try this fetish with me for the first tim???e

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Need a few ideas to break the ice with my girls with this fetish. I'm tired of looking in the internet and I don't wanna pay an escort. Any help?

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Depends on if they know about your fetish or not.  
 

if they don’t, then I might ask them what turns them on and offer up anything they want to try showing them that you are willing to try anything for them.  

 

If they do know, work it into what feels good for them too.  For example, my wife’s kink is using her toy in front of me.    I won’t go into any details but basically she’ll pee on purpose when she cums.  We both get our fix and take it from there.    
 

common theme is find out what she wants and that you’ll make it all about them too 

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I was in the same boat. She was not into peeing at all and I didn’t know how to start.I started a year ago after being together for 10 years, during foreplay I was  trying to make her to squirt, she never squirted before. It took me few times till I was able to make her squirt , and I took it from there. I hope that help.

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Put glue on her/their chair/s, ply them with water and then enjoy the stream/s. 😛

Other than that, all you can do is touch on the question and ask for he/their opinion on the subject. If they aren't into it, there's not a lot that you can do.

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I once got a girl into it after a night out quite a distance away, I had sort of planned it and basically took her for a night out in a town that was a good hour and a half drive away. I didn't get her drunk I don't think that's right, but what I did do was work it so she had drunk enough to be relaxed and also that even if she did use the toilet before we left, there was no way she was going to make it all the way home without needing to go again, plus being on the motorway there was nowhere to stop, except for the services and they were not far from home anyway.

We hadn't been on the road very long before she began to display the classic signs of needing to relieve herself, things began to get more desperate as the trip went on, naturally I kept to the speed limits, lol.eventually she was frantic, squeezing her legs together quite openly and crossing and uncrossing her booted legs, she began to get a little upset saying she needed the toilet and she just knew she couldn't hold on until we got either home, or to the services, she confessed that she may hold on until the services, but knew she'd wet herself as soon as she tried to get out of the car. At this point I made a suggestion,just wet herself, she was a bit puzzled at first but then I simply put it like this, since she knew full well that she was going to wet herself before she got home then why put herself through all the discomfort of trying to hold it, wasn't it better to just do it and make the journey home in wet pants rather than make most of the journey in dry pants but a lot of discomfort, and end up wetting herself at the end anyway.

She saw the logic of this, but was still a bit bothered that it would be a case of her actually making a concious decision to wet herself rather than losing control, in the end I told her that I'd rather she made a decision to wet herself and get it over with, rather than be in a lot of discomfort and end up wetting herself anyway. She saw the logic of this but didn't want to damage the car, so I suggested she did it in her boots, she seemed a lot happier with this, damaging her own stuff rather than mine, so that's what she did. When she'd done it I drove on until I found an exit that would allow us to stop in a quiet area still some distance from home. We got out of the car and she was pleased to see that most of it had stayed inside her boots, only a little wet on the rubber mats, like when you step into a puddle.

I suggested we go for a walk, she could empty her boots in the woods if she liked, we went into the woods and she was quite relaxed and happy, she thanked me for being so understanding earlier, I just made a joke of it and said something along the lines of how I'd actually found it sexy, but that at her age she should have better control and if it was up to me she'd get her bottom spanked, over her wet panties.

To my amazement she laughed and agreed she even asked if I wanted her leggings up or down, so to push it a bit further I said that I thought she should lower her leggings, and keep her piss filled boots on, she could then think about what she'd done as I spanked her. Her leggings were quickly pulled down, she leaned against a tree and when I'd given her a light spanking, she even asked  me if I wanted to help her get her panties even wetter, with cum!

That really started the ball rolling and we had many kinky sessions after that, once of twice she even 'forgot' to use the toilet, then on the way home she'd say she would have to go in her boots, but although she got her pants down in time, she never got her panties down, she'd giggle and make some comment about having to be spanked again for wetting her panties.

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I'm in that process with my wife now, and I was just about to start a thread to learn about other peefans' experiences when I saw that you already did. So okay, here is what I have been thinking so far. 

The first ice to break is the verbal one. Let her understand what it is about peeing that turns you on, and at the same time learn about how she feels about such things and if she already has some experience. This will help you understand whether there is something to hope for at all, and if there is, it will also help her feel motivated to explore this new area with you.

When you have built this foundation together, start off by finding something small to try. Just a small step. For my wife, this first step is to not have to completely hide from me when we are out riding our mountain bikes and she has to stop for a pee. I also let her watch me, of course, which is new and apparently at least a little exciting to her.

Find opportunities to exercise this small step. A mindset shift doesn't happen overnight. 

Give her a hug and a kind word. Don't exaggerate, don't become awkward, but she needs your appreciation. 

When this small change has become second nature, help her find another small step and proceed with that. 

To us, this exploration is quite rewarding in itself. We learn more about each other, and being both a voyeur and an exhibitionist, I already enjoy our new way of having a piss break. 😁

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Honesty and open communication - which brought with it the realization that in the scheme of fetishes and fantasies, even the most common ones, piss is actually incredibly tame and utterly harmless.

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Hi Kevvvv, I'm afraid I'm not the best teacher on this subject. I did try to bring it up in very respectful ways to my partner, but she simply doesn't have any sexual connotation towards peeing.

Everything related to pee is for her just dumping bodily wast and is strictly confined to the bathroom. Even letting me watch her stream makes her quit uncomfortable, so I stopped bringing up the subject altogether.

However, she does understand that it's different for me and she indulges me playing with my pee whenever I want. Just as long as she doesn't need to watch it or clean it up.

So my personal peeing experiences are strictly solo. I pee the bed sometimes, in the bath, shower, and when we're in a hotel together I often have my private happy-pee-hour soaking the bathroom walls and stuff...

I hope you can find a way to successfully introduce the subject to your GF! 

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Just found this when I was searching for more ideas and thought it was worth sharing:

10 Ways To Tell Your Partner About Your Kink — So You Can Enjoy It Together

TL;DR – headings only:

1. Utilize dirty talk

2. Communicate with your partner outside the bedroom

3. Introduce your kink through porn

4. Reference mainstream media

5. Play sex games

6. Ask your partner about their kinks

7. Demonstrate acts of love

8. Ease into it

9. Stand up for yourself

10. Be up front from the get-go

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6 hours ago, xroy80 said:

I'm in that process with my wife now, and I was just about to start a thread to learn about other peefans' experiences when I saw that you already did. So okay, here is what I have been thinking so far. 

The first ice to break is the verbal one. Let her understand what it is about peeing that turns you on, and at the same time learn about how she feels about such things and if she already has some experience. This will help you understand whether there is something to hope for at all, and if there is, it will also help her feel motivated to explore this new area with you.

When you have built this foundation together, start off by finding something small to try. Just a small step. For my wife, this first step is to not have to completely hide from me when we are out riding our mountain bikes and she has to stop for a pee. I also let her watch me, of course, which is new and apparently at least a little exciting to her.

Find opportunities to exercise this small step. A mindset shift doesn't happen overnight. 

Give her a hug and a kind word. Don't exaggerate, don't become awkward, but she needs your appreciation. 

When this small change has become second nature, help her find another small step and proceed with that. 

To us, this exploration is quite rewarding in itself. We learn more about each other, and being both a voyeur and an exhibitionist, I already enjoy our new way of having a piss break. 😁

As one who spends a great deal of time outdoors, I'll frequently take advantage of the situation. Out on a trail with a partner a long ways from facilities, nature is sooner or later bound to make a call. (And we can make it sooner if we've been drinking plenty of water.) 

I find it helps break the ice to lead by example, so I'll try to be the first who has to pee. I won't make a big deal of it (at least I don't think I am, but it's often hard not to in the moment when I'm excited thinking about what might happen next). I may move a couple steps away but give her the opportunity to watch. Maybe I'll even make a silly comment to help her feel more comfortable. Hopefully that relaxing extends to her bladder.

If I'm fortunate, I'm rewarded with her giving me a view. If not, I can hope for another time. But, the most important thing is that she doesn't feel pressured and remembers the moment as fun.

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I told my girlfriend that I have a pee fetish and then I peed my boxers in her shower.

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I think taking a shower together is a great place to start - if she has to pee, she could do it right there, or move to the toilet which is probably in the same room. Either way, you can tell her how pretty she looks when she pees and she can get used to the idea.

It probably helps if you both need to pee, so you can encourage her to go by going first: "do you mind if I pee in the shower? it's difficult to use the toilet when you're making my dick so hard" might work.

There's always the chance that your partner does not want to indulge at all because it disgusts them. But if they're not completely averse to pee, they should respond at least a little positively to your playfulness, and you can work from there.

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When breaking the ice with someone, let's keep in mind that even people who have a pee fetish enjoy it in very different ways. We have things that really turn us on, things we would do for someone and things we simply wouldn't do. For someone who doesn't have one, a lot of what we do would probably be off limits. Having reasonable expectations should help us break the ice.

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Also glad to know I'm not alone with this dilemma. And love all the advice given here!

We have talked a bit about this from time to time. I borrowed a VHS tape from a frind which had a pee clip and she was tempted to see it but didn't

I told her a friend of mine was into peeing and when I brought up the idea of a 3some, she said: "And I could pee on him after?" to which I replied "And on me too I hope!"

So yeah, there's lots of potential, but she never goes through with any of it.

I'm thinking I should bring it up again soon. Maybe just ask to see her pee when she's on the toilet. She never shuts the bathroom door. I also often pee when when she's putting on makeup next to me. So she's not repelled by it.

I also think I should try asking her to send me a pic of her peeing when we're texting from work. But maybe not out of the blue!

So first step will be to tell her about my kink next time we talk about sex (which is not often) and see where it goes from there. And make sure we start at her pace. Like I won't ask her to fill my mouth right away!

I'll keep you guys posted!

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