What can I do to get my significant other (s) to try this fetish with me for the first tim???e

[Kevvvv 288]

Need a few ideas to break the ice with my girls with this fetish. I'm tired of looking in the internet and I don't wanna pay an escort. Any help?

[Midwesttwindad24 57]

Depends on if they know about your fetish or not.  
 

if they don’t, then I might ask them what turns them on and offer up anything they want to try showing them that you are willing to try anything for them.  

 

If they do know, work it into what feels good for them too.  For example, my wife’s kink is using her toy in front of me.    I won’t go into any details but basically she’ll pee on purpose when she cums.  We both get our fix and take it from there.    
 

common theme is find out what she wants and that you’ll make it all about them too 

[Peefreek 17]

I was in the same boat. She was not into peeing at all and I didn’t know how to start.I started a year ago after being together for 10 years, during foreplay I was  trying to make her to squirt, she never squirted before. It took me few times till I was able to make her squirt , and I took it from there. I hope that help.

[Guest UnabashedUser]

Offer a large sum of money, or a trip, weekend. etc.

[xroy80 163]

I'm in that process with my wife now, and I was just about to start a thread to learn about other peefans' experiences when I saw that you already did. So okay, here is what I have been thinking so far. 

The first ice to break is the verbal one. Let her understand what it is about peeing that turns you on, and at the same time learn about how she feels about such things and if she already has some experience. This will help you understand whether there is something to hope for at all, and if there is, it will also help her feel motivated to explore this new area with you.

When you have built this foundation together, start off by finding something small to try. Just a small step. For my wife, this first step is to not have to completely hide from me when we are out riding our mountain bikes and she has to stop for a pee. I also let her watch me, of course, which is new and apparently at least a little exciting to her.

Find opportunities to exercise this small step. A mindset shift doesn't happen overnight. 

Give her a hug and a kind word. Don't exaggerate, don't become awkward, but she needs your appreciation. 

When this small change has become second nature, help her find another small step and proceed with that. 

To us, this exploration is quite rewarding in itself. We learn more about each other, and being both a voyeur and an exhibitionist, I already enjoy our new way of having a piss break. 😁

[frakes 114]

Honesty and open communication - which brought with it the realization that in the scheme of fetishes and fantasies, even the most common ones, piss is actually incredibly tame and utterly harmless.

[RDC 213]

Hi Kevvvv, I'm afraid I'm not the best teacher on this subject. I did try to bring it up in very respectful ways to my partner, but she simply doesn't have any sexual connotation towards peeing.

Everything related to pee is for her just dumping bodily wast and is strictly confined to the bathroom. Even letting me watch her stream makes her quit uncomfortable, so I stopped bringing up the subject altogether.

However, she does understand that it's different for me and she indulges me playing with my pee whenever I want. Just as long as she doesn't need to watch it or clean it up.

So my personal peeing experiences are strictly solo. I pee the bed sometimes, in the bath, shower, and when we're in a hotel together I often have my private happy-pee-hour soaking the bathroom walls and stuff...

I hope you can find a way to successfully introduce the subject to your GF! 

[xroy80 163]

Just found this when I was searching for more ideas and thought it was worth sharing:

10 Ways To Tell Your Partner About Your Kink — So You Can Enjoy It Together

TL;DR – headings only:

1. Utilize dirty talk

2. Communicate with your partner outside the bedroom

3. Introduce your kink through porn

4. Reference mainstream media

5. Play sex games

6. Ask your partner about their kinks

7. Demonstrate acts of love

8. Ease into it

9. Stand up for yourself

10. Be up front from the get-go

[glad1 2,832]

6 hours ago, xroy80 said:

I'm in that process with my wife now, and I was just about to start a thread to learn about other peefans' experiences when I saw that you already did. So okay, here is what I have been thinking so far. 

The first ice to break is the verbal one. Let her understand what it is about peeing that turns you on, and at the same time learn about how she feels about such things and if she already has some experience. This will help you understand whether there is something to hope for at all, and if there is, it will also help her feel motivated to explore this new area with you.

When you have built this foundation together, start off by finding something small to try. Just a small step. For my wife, this first step is to not have to completely hide from me when we are out riding our mountain bikes and she has to stop for a pee. I also let her watch me, of course, which is new and apparently at least a little exciting to her.

Find opportunities to exercise this small step. A mindset shift doesn't happen overnight. 

Give her a hug and a kind word. Don't exaggerate, don't become awkward, but she needs your appreciation. 

When this small change has become second nature, help her find another small step and proceed with that. 

To us, this exploration is quite rewarding in itself. We learn more about each other, and being both a voyeur and an exhibitionist, I already enjoy our new way of having a piss break. 😁

As one who spends a great deal of time outdoors, I'll frequently take advantage of the situation. Out on a trail with a partner a long ways from facilities, nature is sooner or later bound to make a call. (And we can make it sooner if we've been drinking plenty of water.) 

I find it helps break the ice to lead by example, so I'll try to be the first who has to pee. I won't make a big deal of it (at least I don't think I am, but it's often hard not to in the moment when I'm excited thinking about what might happen next). I may move a couple steps away but give her the opportunity to watch. Maybe I'll even make a silly comment to help her feel more comfortable. Hopefully that relaxing extends to her bladder.

If I'm fortunate, I'm rewarded with her giving me a view. If not, I can hope for another time. But, the most important thing is that she doesn't feel pressured and remembers the moment as fun.

[Billhobs 66]

I told my girlfriend that I have a pee fetish and then I peed my boxers in her shower.

[PuddingPipeTree 23]

I think taking a shower together is a great place to start - if she has to pee, she could do it right there, or move to the toilet which is probably in the same room. Either way, you can tell her how pretty she looks when she pees and she can get used to the idea.

It probably helps if you both need to pee, so you can encourage her to go by going first: "do you mind if I pee in the shower? it's difficult to use the toilet when you're making my dick so hard" might work.

There's always the chance that your partner does not want to indulge at all because it disgusts them. But if they're not completely averse to pee, they should respond at least a little positively to your playfulness, and you can work from there.

[xroy80 163]

When breaking the ice with someone, let's keep in mind that even people who have a pee fetish enjoy it in very different ways. We have things that really turn us on, things we would do for someone and things we simply wouldn't do. For someone who doesn't have one, a lot of what we do would probably be off limits. Having reasonable expectations should help us break the ice.

[Guest hrlv]

Also glad to know I'm not alone with this dilemma. And love all the advice given here!

We have talked a bit about this from time to time. I borrowed a VHS tape from a frind which had a pee clip and she was tempted to see it but didn't

I told her a friend of mine was into peeing and when I brought up the idea of a 3some, she said: "And I could pee on him after?" to which I replied "And on me too I hope!"

So yeah, there's lots of potential, but she never goes through with any of it.

I'm thinking I should bring it up again soon. Maybe just ask to see her pee when she's on the toilet. She never shuts the bathroom door. I also often pee when when she's putting on makeup next to me. So she's not repelled by it.

I also think I should try asking her to send me a pic of her peeing when we're texting from work. But maybe not out of the blue!

So first step will be to tell her about my kink next time we talk about sex (which is not often) and see where it goes from there. And make sure we start at her pace. Like I won't ask her to fill my mouth right away!

I'll keep you guys posted!