I wish more people used chat.

[Blackinksoul30 1,246]

We have so many members. But most of the few that use the chat, don't chat for very long. They say a few things then disappear. Anyone have any suggestions/ideas to get more members in the chat and have people chat more often or for longer amounts of time. I'd love to get to know more members on here through chat. But lately it's been the same 2 or 3 people in chat. 

[F.W 5,734]

I guess its hard to keep up the chat after a while.i prefer private messaging myself.

[Sophie 24,404]

My participation in the chatbox entirely depends on who is there really. Some names make me want to chat more/less than others. I'd love for it to be more active though.

[will64 6,328]

i do like using the chat and i want to be more active  and get kown the people on this site but when see some of the names i get 50/50 if i want to chat or not 

[Mark J 243]

Well since I’m always there I guess I’m scaring people away. 

[Sophie 24,404]

1 minute ago, Mark J said:

Well since I’m always there I guess I’m scaring people away. 

Nobody said that. 

[Mark J 243]

I was just kidding. I was not being sensitive or anything. Meant to add a smiley. Anyway I totally agree with Blackink, the more the merrier 🙂

[gldenwetgoose 21,486]

My visits to the site are normally fleeting catch ups. Happy to chat though when time permits. 

[Sophie 24,404]

Maybe try communicating with more people in the chat? It might encourage them and others to join in.

[Guest UnabashedUser]

I enjoy a good rollicking chat there just never seems to be anyone in the chatroom when I'm online. The tiny box and other restraints are non conducive for fun chat either. If there's an IRC type link I'd be around more often. 

[Admin 14,788]

Yes, unfortunately most people won't chat unless they see someone else chatting, but of course someone has to take the leap and ask something interesting or get a topic rolling. Credit to those who do try. 

The 'chat hour' message was added, and it worked for one or two nights but then I think the novelty wore off.

I'll look into improving the live chat though - perhaps a better design and more features will help. Ultimately it still needs people to take the initiative though, so I think often it just needs someone to share something interesting. 

24 minutes ago, UnabashedUser said:

I enjoy a good rollicking chat there just never seems to be anyone in the chatroom when I'm online. The tiny box and other restraints are non conducive for fun chat either. If there's an IRC type link I'd be around more often. 

There's the full screen chat by clicking the chatbox page in the navigation. https://peefans.com/chatbox/ 🙂 

 

 

[nopjans 1,178]

Part of the problem, I think, is that this is a global community. We have users in several time zones spread around the world. I know a lot of the membership in the UK/Europe, with others spread across North America... although this is a reasonably active community, not everyone is active at the same time, which real-time chat requires. 

[spywareonya 37,961]

I find myself in Agreement with all of the above, in my case the truth is a bit more harsh and not exceedingly polite so I kept it to myself, though this thought was born in my head more than a year ago and Always remained there in silence, because one of the way I found to master my instinctual aggressiveness was the following code

 

"If you don't have anything flattering to say, or a very polite advice about problems, and you are just in disagreement with something, then shut up and keep it to yourself, the world is not there to make you feel at home, it's you who beg for entrance, not the world to ask if you are comfortable"

 

Because of this I usually never say what I think about something unless it's flattering. That is, to be utterly sincere, one of the reasons why I select carefully the places where I stay, and why I love this forum. In real life, people often ask me why I am so silent: I would like so much to admit "I'm saying nothing because I have nothing good to say about you" ahahahahah!!!!

 

Here, instead, if I'm silent is just because I am away from the screen or simply picking the most urgent content to which reply. But it's not Always like that in real life, ahahahah!!!

 

 

Because of this, I never spoke my mind about the chat, but since somebody else introducted the thing, I think it's time to speak:

 

I like to chat, but I don't do it very often, because I usually find the "level" of the chat to be quite un-entertaining to me. Mainly, for many different reasons intermixing, the chat is used mainly by newcomers, people who still think this is a dating site of horny loners who need dirty talk. After a while, they grow up (or leave the forum) and they understand that this forum provides countless ways to communicate which are more intimate and complete, like PMs or actual posts of the category found in the General Chat or the Pee Talk section, so they stop using the chat too, leaving it once again to randy newbies

 

Beware, being randy can feel a bit rough to a woman (regardless how slutty I am, women are sensitive!), but I will never say it's actually a bad thing. It's fine… it's just that I am not here to chat with randy horny people. What keeps me here is the fact that the structure of the forum, allowing messages and posts with all the mentioning, quoting options and stuff, and more than ANYTHING the spiritual quality level of its inhabitants, allow a civilized and sensitive talk about matters (sex and fetish) which are really delicate.

 

Being constantly asked if I need to pee is not my idea of chat

 

The prove is that when some people are in the chatroom I spent HOURS there, I still remember my "drunk chat" with Steve about kangaroos that in the end stretched to everything in our minds… we chatted nonstop for the like of two hours… then Mark J and I think Riley (Amazing people) stumbled in and the fun twiced… and we joked about everything, from sex to politic to making bad jokes about what we hated and loved of our countries...

THAT is my idea of chat

[Sophie 24,404]

2 hours ago, spywareonya said:

Being constantly asked if I need to pee is not my idea of chat

The prove is that when some people are in the chatroom I spent HOURS there, I still remember my "drunk chat" with Steve about kangaroos that in the end stretched to everything in our minds… we chatted nonstop for the like of two hours… then Mark J and I think Riley (Amazing people) stumbled in and the fun twiced… and we joked about everything, from sex to politic to making bad jokes about what we hated and loved of our countries...

THAT is my idea of chat

@spywareonya You hit the nail on the head and said it better than I ever could. 

Thank you.

[spywareonya 37,961]

5 minutes ago, Sophie said:

@spywareonya You hit the nail on the head and said it better than I ever could. 

Thank you.

Oooh…!!!

I am blushing… but indeed maybe this will bring a soft enlightment for people and begin to ease things!!!

 

 

 

I am getting a Master Degree in utilizing cuteness to solve problems 😚

[Sophie 24,404]

Will this help at all?

[Mark J 243]

3 hours ago, spywareonya said:

 

 

Being constantly asked if I need to pee is not my idea of chat

 

The prove is that when some people are in the chatroom I spent HOURS there, I still remember my "drunk chat" with Steve about kangaroos that in the end stretched to everything in our minds… we chatted nonstop for the like of two hours… then Mark J and I think Riley (Amazing people) stumbled in and the fun twiced… and we joked about everything, from sex to politic to making bad jokes about what we hated and loved of our countries...

THAT is my idea of chat

I knew you would take care of the situation day 1. Thank you. 

I had mentioned that it uncool to ask who needs to wee every single time. Like please dial it back. @Sophie was a little more blunt, but I knew it simply needed  @spywareonya to take care of business. Now the only reason I did not go full boar was that this is a pee site and to tell someone not to mention pee related things was a dilemma.

I realize my contributions are sometime mundane and not likely to entice anyone to join in. I do however jump at the chance to uplift someone or support them in any way I can 

My lifestyle plus my particular job allows me to be on chat on and off most days, all day. I’ve made friends and I like to check if any of them are active 

Anyway I will continue to be my usual self in chat which basically means I am happy to talk to anyone about any topic sans politics. 

Love you all

 

Edit PS or whatever. I guess more work needs to be done - correct “hun”? lol

Edited December 11, 2018 by Mark J

[Mark J 243]

1 hour ago, Sophie said:

Will this help at all?

Awwwwwwwwwwww

[will64 6,328]

i agree we really need to dial back the who/do you needs to pee sentence its just getting a little annoying see it over and over again

[spywareonya 37,961]

1 hour ago, Sophie said:

Will this help at all?

Oh Goddess!!!!

 

The Power of Adorableness!!!!!

[spywareonya 37,961]

38 minutes ago, Mark J said:

Now the only reason I did not go full boar was that this is a pee site and to tell someone not to mention pee related things was a dilemma.

This proved key-concept for me too

39 minutes ago, Mark J said:

I realize my contributions are sometime mundane and not likely to entice anyone to join in. I do however jump at the chance to uplift someone or support them in any way I can 

The chat is about that

I am sure both @Admin and @Sophie will agree that the core of a nice chat is the overall attitude, not necessarily the majesty of the subject. The fact that you cannot make a kangaroo drink more than 3 cans of beer (since the 4th you are an outlaw!!!) is not like last Stephen Hawkings theories...

But it went fine because Steve is sensitivity and gentleness made male

 

 

[FlyingthedreamUK 248]

I get that this is a pee site and the reason we're all here is that we share a common interest in the subject.

However I agree with the majority here, chat should be just that, a place where people come to talk. You wouldn't just walk in to a bar and straight up ask someone if they needed to pee so why do it here? Get to know the other people here and if they wish to share things then they will, far more freely than if you hit them with the same questions all the time.

One of the key ingredients to a site like this is our female members, without them we have nothing so we should always treat them with respect that they deserve. Not just barrage them with the same "do you need to pee?" "Have you pee'd?" Etc... all the time.

Basically, tone it down guys!

[Mark J 243]

1 minute ago, FlyingthedreamUK said:

I get that this is a pee site and the reason we're all here is that we share a common interest in the subject.

However I agree with the majority here, chat should be just that, a place where people come to talk. You wouldn't just walk in to a bar and straight up ask someone if they needed to pee so why do it here? Get to know the other people here and if they wish to share things then they will, far more freely than if you hit them with the same questions all the time.

One of the key ingredients to a site like this is our female members, without them we have nothing so we should always treat them with respect that they deserve. Not just barrage them with the same "do you need to pee?" "Have you pee'd?" Etc... all the time.

Basically, tone it down guys!

Agree 100%

[spywareonya 37,961]

6 minutes ago, FlyingthedreamUK said:

tone it down guys!

 

4 minutes ago, Mark J said:

Agree 100%

 

I think it's all matter of helping people understand that

[FlyingthedreamUK 248]

12 minutes ago, spywareonya said:

I think it's all matter of helping people understand that

I agree, that's why I think it's great that it's been brought up.

The chatroom is impossible to police 24/7 and you can't stop people from talking freely. It would just be nice if a bit more consideration was taken and people thought before they sent a message.

We have people of all ages represented on this site, we're not all 18!

I think a lot of people would be put off from the chat if it's too intimidating