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Brutus

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Good luck and god bless.  You're obviously very smart from the way you write and the realization that you have to change. That's 3/4 of the way to being whole again.

All the best  I know you'll make it.

 

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It's been a pleasure (albeit briefly since I joined) seeing your posts, comments and reactions. If you do happen to be back to read this then all my best wishes, you've taken the hardest step - all the very best.  My only advice would be find something to replace it - join a gym, get a bicycle, that sort of thing to fill your time.

Either way will miss you - take care of yourself. 

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Saddens me to see you go and that you have been saddled with this burden. 

 

Good luck and best wishes for the future my friend. 

 

The key to stopping any bad behavior is to never give up because eventually you will be able to stop if you want to badly enough.

As humans we all have the capacity to do that.

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Brutus, if anyone had doubts about porn or sex being addictive, I think your story puts those doubts to bed.  I'm not a psychologist, but did earn a minor in it.  I'd say that you might benefit from counseling.  I'm not a huge believer in therapy, but it certainly couldn't hurt.  That's only if you would be willing to do so.  If not, you'd be wasting your time and the therapist's.  Most addicts are compensating for something lacking in their lives, or medicating to feel better.  In other words, the addiction is usually a symptom.  And then they get hooked.  I have experience with a family member who fits this profile.  But, it wasn't a porn or sex addiction.  Sadly, he chose to end his life.

I doubt you'll read this because you said you'll not be visiting this site again.  But, if you do see this, I truly hope you have a bright future.  It took courage to admit your problem in a public forum.  You're obviously a very intelligent, caring person.  I know this from your other posts as well as this one about your trouble. 

Take good care of yourself. 

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Brutus, that is one of the most powerful posts I've ever read here, and I am truly sorry to see you go. I of course completely understand though, and genuinely wish you the best of luck in overcoming this. I am certain that with the attitude you have, you can. I doubt you will read this, but if you ever do, stay strong, and know that you will be severely missed. 

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First step in overcomming a problem is to realise you're having one. Must have been difficult to admit it, especially in front of forum of, well, bascially strangers. I wonder if it was more difficult then admitting it to yourself.

 

Anyway, you've done the right thing, Brutus. Don't let anyone stop you.

Come back if you feel like it, not sooner.

 

Sexuality, in what ever form, should be the spice of life, not the main course. 😉

 

Good luck! 🙂

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Brutus you will be missed.

But I understand where you are coming from. As Admin said, that was a very powerful post.

Porn and sexuality are of course very pleasurable things, if we remain in control. But if it starts to dominate our lives as it is yours and appears to be acting like an addiction, then I totally get your need to break free.  Just make sure you "sort yourself out" or gain satisfaction with a partner occasionally or the urge to dive back in will build up to overwhelming proportions. That is my advice anyway.

Hopefully, the day will come when you are in control and not the porn. And you come back. There is nothing wrong with porn as an occasional, or even fairly frequent, pleasure, as long as you are always able to walk away from it to pursue other things. When you cannot is when it becomes a problem.

I find it getting addictive from time to time, but I have also discovered that whenever I knock one out, so to speak, the urge diminishes considerably and I can then easily walk away. If that does not work for you I can see how the problem could develop.

Hope you can get on top of it and rebalance your life.

Best wishes.

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