The psychology of fetishism

[Moore007 292]

Most of us in here have a fetish for piss. But to what extent does your piss fetish affect your sex-life?

Would you be turned on by being peed on or pee on a nice and hot stranger? 
Do you have to be in love with a person to enjoy piss-play or is it the piss more than the person that turns you on? 

[Kirby23 823]

I am married, and happily committed. So in considering a "hot stranger," it's difficult to assess, because I have no plans to cheat on my wife. But if we're talking purely hypothetically, yes, I would be turned on by partaking in pee acts with a stranger. 

Yes, my fetish definitely affects my sex life. Even though I don't incorporate pee into every sexual encounter with my wife, I am usually thinking about it in at least some regard.

[Bacardi 9,501]

I'm also married so not actively seeking any sexual partners for piss or otherwise. 

Generally speaking tho, when I was single I didn't do hook ups. I've had sex with 3 men and only one I wasn't in a relationship with, but we had been friends all throughout high school. It's just a personal preference that I cannot share a sexual encounter with someone I don't know very well. I wanna know their personalities first, what their sexual preferences are, how they act around other people, etc. I guess what I'm trying to say is I'd take a "friends with benefits" situation over a hook up with a stranger.

My feelings are the same with piss play. I wouldn't meet up with just anyone to be peed on 🤣 but someone that I know personally, whether it be a friend or a lover, sure. My body is yours. 

As far as my sex life, I consider myself to be asexual so sex isn't a huge part of my life to begin with. I'd say the most enjoyable part of sex is masturbation because I'm in complete control and I don't have to share it with anyone else (see: introverted af). However since I was 5 when I learned how to masturbate I've always masturbated to thoughts of pee. After my ex shamed me about my fetish I briefly went through a period where I masturbated to regular porn, but my orgasms were never as good as the ones I have with piss porn. These days I don't get off to anything except piss porn because I accept myself and my fetish now. 

[luv2watch 102]

Piss porn is the only porn I indulge in as well.

But even though all here have some version of a pee fetish, I surmise the subsets of the fetish have different origins.

My pee fetish, as powerful as it is, centers around peeing naturally as an end in itself more than as a part of sex.

I like the visual and audio aspect of watching women pee in toilets, containers or outdoors, much more than peeing on others.

I am actually turned off by pee drinking and wetting.

I also have no interest in anonymous peeing with face not included or blotted out.

Even a gusher will not interest me much if the intimacy factor of a face is missing.

 

 

[wettingman 457]

Pee holding , desperation and wetting is my sex life. I read long well detailed pee  stories,  or watch female desperate and peeing or wetting their pants. I also hold my own pee until I am very desperate and sometimes wet my pants. I either share videos of my desperation and naked peeing or pants wetting with appreciative females..

The question would I participate in pee play in person with a stranger. I have wanted to have pee fun with a female for so long I don't think I would pass up the opportunity.  I don't know if I would chicken out or not. I would regret it if I did. To date this has not happened and the only pee partner I ever had in real life was my now ex'wife.

 I currently don't  have a partner.  So, Either their pee desperation and peeing or them enjoying mine gets me aroused and I masterbate until I cum. I have done this for so long it is the only thing that gets me off. 

Edited Wednesday at 03:49 AM by wettingman

[Takashi96 869]

On 6/25/2024 at 5:40 PM, Bacardi said:

I'm also married so not actively seeking any sexual partners for piss or otherwise. 

Generally speaking tho, when I was single I didn't do hook ups. I've had sex with 3 men and only one I wasn't in a relationship with, but we had been friends all throughout high school. It's just a personal preference that I cannot share a sexual encounter with someone I don't know very well. I wanna know their personalities first, what their sexual preferences are, how they act around other people, etc. I guess what I'm trying to say is I'd take a "friends with benefits" situation over a hook up with a stranger.

My feelings are the same with piss play. I wouldn't meet up with just anyone to be peed on 🤣 but someone that I know personally, whether it be a friend or a lover, sure. My body is yours. 

As far as my sex life, I consider myself to be asexual so sex isn't a huge part of my life to begin with. I'd say the most enjoyable part of sex is masturbation because I'm in complete control and I don't have to share it with anyone else (see: introverted af). However since I was 5 when I learned how to masturbate I've always masturbated to thoughts of pee. After my ex shamed me about my fetish I briefly went through a period where I masturbated to regular porn, but my orgasms were never as good as the ones I have with piss porn. These days I don't get off to anything except piss porn because I accept myself and my fetish now. 

Jeez, how uncomfortably relatable. I once tried to switch to regular porn after a kink shaming. Actually, more than once. The only problem was that I kept hoping someone in the video would pee.

As for your early masturbation experience. I assume you hadn't been exposed to porn. Did you imagine yourself peeing or think about other people?

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[Bacardi 9,501]

7 hours ago, Takashi96 said:

As for your early masturbation experience. I assume you hadn't been exposed to porn. Did you imagine yourself peeing or think about other people?

Haha I don't exactly remember when I watched porn for the first time. When I was that young I masturbated mostly to movies with pee scenes, my imagination, and things I had witnessed in real life. 

[MRJH22 159]

For me it’s all about the sound of a lady peeing. I have had this interest from when I was a young child so it didn’t begin as a sexual thing. I still take any chance to listen that I can. I have a normal sex life without pee but I do find it exciting where any element of pee is brought in to sex. I would like to explore more and I think if I was single and the chance to explore pee play during sex came up with a stranger, I would have to take it. 

[Ivan72 22]

For me, its the process of desperation and desperate peeing. I'm 50, been married to the same woman happily for a 30 years . She knows about my kinks,and sometimes indulges. She likes how her being desperate makes me want her, but her instincts are sometimes exactly opposite to mine.

Her natural tendency is downplay and hide everything related to her need to pee, me wanting to hear her needing to pee. A good example was 2 weeks ago when we visited a concert. She visited toilet a 5pm, we arrived at the venue at 6 and during next 3 hours she consumed at least 1L of liquids. Around 9 i asked if she needs to pee before the main performer starts, she said no. We arrived home around midnight, i asked if she needs to pee badly, again the answer is "no, maybe a little". We go to bed and I feel her bladder, which might not be hyper-full, but at least 2/3. We have some sex and go to sleep, without her visiting the toilet.

In the ideal world , i would like to hear whats going on. "I kinda have to pee" after first drinks, "i have to pee,but not enough to use the porta potties" before the band, "I really have to pee, but i'm not going here when we will be at home in 20minutes" with legs crossing and shifting, I need to go sooobad in the bed and when pushing her bladder.  I'm waiting for an opportunity to bring this up again and try to convince her to be more vocal.

About strangers and fetish- every attractive female brings the thought "what if she were really desperate". If I see her in supermarket, i imagine her whispering to her partner "lets go home quickly, i need to pee so bad" and they go home and she runs to the toilet and leaves the door open, allowing to observe the long hissy pee and look of satisfaction.  Or running to the bushes in the concert so the partner could observe..

i would not be especially interested in looking just any pee - 5 sec trickle before long bus ride. I would be, if this is personally for me and comes with some other information, like the details of peeing with very tight dress or smth.

I'm not a big event goer, but if a woman promises not to pee during the event and sips a drink, i could go with her to watch a paint dry.  I even wouldn't need to be crazy desperate at the end, "i need to pee, but i can wait 1hour" would be good enough.

 

[wettingman 457]

 @Ivan72

What really arouses me is a woman describing how her bladder and pussy feel and how badly she needs to pee. I love hearing/seeing what she is doing to hold it.

My ex-wife used to hold her pee frequently and as long as she could and sometimes beyond .

If we were together while she got desperate I would as her for details.  Fortunately she was willing to provide me her statis. Sometimes she was reluctant if she already leaked in her panties.

She asked me why that got me so horney.  I told honestly don't know it's just the way I am wired. It doesn't me I loved her less or found her less sexualy attractive.  I regular non pee sex life was great until our marriage became troubled 

 

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[Ivan72 22]

yeah, thats my problem. She can pee at 6pm , go to bed without peeing, say nothing but " i need to go now" in the morning with expressionless voice and walk away. Or hold it for me deliberately through a day of travelling without any verbal indications, ok, saying "yes" if ask her in the bed "do you need to go?". what a waste. its not that she cannot hold, she can hold well over a litre.

i have a female friend who sometimes indulges me- deliberately drinking and waiting and peeing for me. And its something else, when she whispers in a low voice "i SO need to pee SO FUCKING BAD!" while squirming and holding her crotch.

[InOddPlaces 217]

For me the two are separate, as I've never had the opportunity to experience pissy sex to know what it's like (partner isn't into anything fetish), although I do often fantasise about having wet sex with her and wondering what it would be like.

The closest I get during sex is to be desperate myself to enhance the feelings, but never release anything.

I (don't think!) I'd need to be in love with anyone to enjoy piss play, it's all about the feelings. When I masturbate anyone can be the object of the fantasies - my partner, or anyone else I might have recently seen peeing/desperate, it's the image that turns me on, nothing more.