LadySilver

Couldn't agree more. Most of the teachers I haven't liked created a negative environment by being rather negative towards students and even the subject they teach. There's quite a difference between a teacher that puts on a movie because they can't be bothered to put a lesson together and one who chooses one that they think actually will contribute to the student's learning. I've noticed that being a big indicator of whether a teacher is actually able to create a positive and productive learning environment.

I have a similar policy with myself and, while at some points it feels rather cheesy, it works! While sometimes I choose not to do things, I never say that I'm just not able to do them. Starting down the path of 'I can't do this and that' leads to stagnation and limiting my own potential - something not uncommon with other aspies I know, and something I learned about from a fellow aspie. As an educator, you might like this TED talk by Rita Pierson if you haven't seen it yet: https://www.ted.com/talks/rita_pierson_every_kid_needs_a_champion?language=en It always makes me smile

I'm also pretty shocked that the treatments they use are common practice. The most common interventions (Androgen Deprivation Therapies, SSRI treament in some cases and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) all have at their centre the belief that the removal of paraphilia is the best outcome. However, these are all only used in situations where a person is harming themselves or others or is under great distress (what would be defined as paraphilic disorder), like what you mentioned in your response. In my view (and this is the perspective I'm trying to put forth in my thesis) even if someone is

As someone who's had the pleasure of talking to people about their experience here (and a few people on omorashi.org as well) I would corroborate this. People really care that they can come and hang out, and feel like they have other people like them they can, yes, enjoy sexy stuff with, but also just let their hair down and be with. I think you're right on the money here. It will be a long time, if ever, before people like us can bring up this part of their life in their day-to-day social circle (I'm a weird exception, and even I mask talking about my fetish in vague and academic lan

Thanks everyone for popping in and thanks, @steve25805, for tagging them 🙂 First of all, this idea, for now is pure speculation. If you haven't read through the whole thread (and I don't blame you haha) the main reason I'm throwing around these ideas is because I'm writing a bachelor's level (meaning I'm not even close to a professional) thesis on what we can do to come alongside people like us who are in dark places. There's a lot of talk about traditional therapy and even more extreme things like the use of psychopharmacological interventions but there's not much about other alternative

Both of the points you make here are pretty spot on, I think! I've really enjoyed your contributions. If there is need, but there may not be demand for a therapy (particularly for men), I guess there are two workarounds I can think of: Firstly, like I said before we could just have more practitioners educated in what I'm calling 'paraphilia informed care'* (trademark pending 😅) : basically allowing professionals to understand paraphilia as interrelated to anything else a person may come to see them for. *This is adapted from 'trauma informed care', something getting a lot more atte

Well, there's low demand now, but do think that would change if it became a relatively normal things to do to see a therapist about issues like this? Most people I've spoken to about this have some sort probably could have benefited from talking to a professional. I don't think the need isn't there, just that we don't have professionals that many of us feel like we trust to actually help. This could work, for sure. The education of the therapeutic community, I think, is key. If even your run-of-the-mill family counselor had access to good information they could learn the many aspects

Not a huge issue at all. The ways in which I intend to use any or all of this information will be my problem in the fall haha - For now, I'm happy to talk about things outside the scope of my research because they're still super interesting! There are a few theories of where paraphilia comes from that I haven't had loads of time to research. Some people take a psychoanalytic perspective as you two have discussed. Others take a somatosensory conditioning lens (in short, paraphilia develops as people accidentally come to associate not typically sexual stimuli with sexual arousal forming an

I'm not married, but I can speak to this experience a little bit. My partner is not into pee at all, though I don't know if he's repelled by the fact that I'm into it. It hasn't been a huge challenge for us. This is partially because we're not doing a lot sexually anyway (his mental health has been poor leaving him without enough energy), but it's also because I'm both able to enjoy sex without my fetish involved and feel like I can enjoy my fetish on my own in a healthy and gratifying way. If I had to guess, I would say the problems that would arise in couples would more be due to the t

Ain't that the truth! Boy is it easy to tell the scholarship on this subject is not written by people who experience paraphilia or, at the very least, do and somehow don't identify very much with the people they're trying to help. I think that's a valid opinion, but I don't even think we need to believe that to prioritize the health of everyone's sexuality. You can still draw moral lines in the sand about sexuality, you just can't leave a person with task of removing a whole part of their sexuality from themselves or expecting them to modify not harmful behaviour. I'm not a profession

Fair enough. I wonder, though, what happens for these people after they have to leave. Care to speculate? I totally see what you're saying here and agree. I think things get especially fuzzy when you have people who believe they have the moral high ground as far as what their definition of health or flourishing is. For me, part of being healthy is to have a sexuality integrated into your whole being, to have a deep reverence for yourself and others both in and out of a sexual encounter. None of those things require an interest in 'normative' sexual practice. Other people's defi

@Paulypeeps the site is saying you can't receive messages? Feel free to shoot me an email at [email protected].

Private message is absolutely an option! If that isn't working for you I can make email work 🙂

Not at all, Steve! I've just been a little short on time. I hope to read and respond to you this morning yet once I have my ducks in a row.

Oh man, I used to love Criminal Minds and things like it (NBC's Hannibal is fantastic). Still good stuff, I just rarely find the time to watch it these days.