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  1. Primarily for women but anyone else can chime in with second hand knowledge. 

     

    Ladies, how do you feel about thongs, particularly in regard to if/when the front is too small and your labia squeeze out to the side? I was gaming online with a female friend recently and we often devolve into wild conversation. She mentioned the relief of getting home from work to take her thong off because she was "hanging" out of it all day due to the front string being too thin. I didn't have the nerve to ask if that aroused her, didn't want to seem creepy. 

    So is the feeling of your thong not covering everything arousing? I'm really curious and would like to incorporate it into a fictional work at some point but don't want to if I'm wrong about this.

    Thanks.

  2. 3 hours ago, Alfresco said:

    Fantastic experience.  Love the fact that she made a bit of splatter as well and didn't wipe.   On the subject of wiping, it reminds me of a joke "What's the difference between a university and a technical college?  - At University they teach you to wash your hands thoroughly after you urinate.  At Technical College they teach you not to piss on your hands....."

    I reckon that you could have had an enjoyable chat with her about peeing.  Given that (a) you didn't know her and (b) she seemed to be quite at ease making the sounds, I think I would not have been able to resist saying something about the power of her stream.  It could have been an interesting opening to a conversation.  I would have probably just started with "Wow, you rattled the windows there, you must have been really desperate!"   She probably would have laughed and said something about how much she needed to go.   You may even have been able to start the questions about whether many people refuse use of facilities and what does she do then?  You may have got some good stories about squatting by the van.  She obviously wasn't the sort that would be delicate and offended by such conversation.  I know it is difficult at the time, because you are not expecting it and then get very unsure about what is safe to discuss, but I think you could have had some fun there.

    Is there any way you can request the same engineer for next year?   Say how good she was or something and request that she returns?  Of course, make sure that you make her a drink next time as well.

    Yeah I probably could've started some level of dialogue with her but my mind just wasn't thinking like that and she spoke of her desperation after I'd paid her and she was heading toward the door, so it wasn't a good time to hold her up with pee questions anyway. I should've said something earlier while she was still working.

    I thought about requesting her next year, as her name is on the invoice. I think I'll give it a try!

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  3. 5 hours ago, gldenwetgoose said:

    Great account, and for me that last sentence of her telling you that you saved her from wetting is the icing on the cake.

    I love those situations when a lady will confess to an almost complete stranger that they are, or were bursting. I have this idea in my mind that I'd reply with a subtle half jokey comment, the sort of thing that could be played down but could also lead to a deeper conversation - like discussing the occupational hazards of being a service engineer on the road and strange places she'd been desperate before.  Or "Oh no! is that speaking from experience?"  Then my brain never works quick enough, or it suddenly feels too creepy and I just end up smiling sympathetically.

    As for the not washing hands - I guess her hands were already dirty from her work and apart from touching the toilet seat it sounds like the rest of her pee was hands free anyway.

    I too liked that she revealed how desperate she was, mainly because of how personal that is. Even though she apologized for asking, she still wasn't ashamed or insecure about it. I wish I'd thought to pry a little and ask if that happens often on the job but I didn't even think to do so. I'm sure she would've been okay answering. With the hand washing, I agree, they were dirty already, covered with black soot, plus she didn't wipe so probably didn't touch herself down there anyway. 

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  4. 20 hours ago, Dr.P said:

    @Brutus, Great Story! Very erotic and readable, yet very believable. Sounds like a sequel is possible, with Jamie and Natty. Thanks for posting.

    Thank you. I wasn't sure how this would come across due to Jamie's age in these situations, particularly seeing Jennifer sleeping but this is how things happen for a lot of us, so I'm glad to have someone confirm it as believable. As for a sequel, the plan was to end this one with him being excited to see her for his graduation, with the sexual encounter being reserved for part two but I decided to make it a quick add on here and it doesn't hint to much pee activity, so I'm not sure about a sequel yet. 

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  5. On 4/14/2020 at 10:42 AM, Alfresco said:

    I read the first bit that said "Toilet Peeing" and was ready to be disappointed as I'm more interested in peeing away from the toilets, BUT, I'm so glad I carried on reading.  That was a masterpiece.   I love the background and how it all builds up to the climactic episode in the toilet with the extra touch of the hug and photo afterwards.   Fantastic.  Thanks @Brutus

    Thank you. Also, you gave me some very useful insight right here, that if I build context properly, something boring like toilet peeing can still be interesting to someone that would otherwise not bother. 

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  6. On 3/27/2020 at 10:03 AM, LadySilver said:

    Well, there's low demand now, but do think that would change if it became a relatively normal things to do to see a therapist about issues like this? Most people I've spoken to about this have some sort probably could have benefited from talking to a professional. I don't think the need isn't there, just that we don't have professionals that many of us feel like we trust to actually help. 

    There are a lot of variables to consider with this. As to whether demand would increase, I would say marginally at best. Everyone could potentially benefit from various kinds of therapy. Plenty of people are in need of financial counsel to manage a checkbook but never seek it. The demand won't increase as long as people don't perceive they need it enough to take time out of their day and spend money on such treatment. The need may be there, but that alone isn't enough. Another thing to consider is the differences between men and women when it comes to therapy. Men are far less likely to seek help, due to both internalized societal pressure to "man up" and beat our struggles alone, and the fact that talking about things at length often doesn't interest us anyway. We are also more likely to have sexual addictions purely as a side effect of being more mentally acclimated to sexual thoughts. So if it was more normal to see a therapist about such issues, there would likely be more women seeking it, but since they aren't the majority of those needing such therapy, the overall increase in demand would likely be marginal.

    On 3/27/2020 at 10:03 AM, LadySilver said:

    Treating the both of them as interrelated, though, (the shame about sexuality feeds the anxiety, say, and the sexual frustration feeds the anxiety, and the anxiety is coped with using porn for hours on end) means the person can come out of therapy feeling like a more whole person - they have an awareness of how their sexuality is connected to their emotional and mental health and vice versa (not to mention taking into account other aspects like what they're eating, their sleep schedule, work-life balance, social circle etc.). 

    Awareness is important. People often have no idea of their triggers or how certain aspects of their mental state affect others. Knowing your own tendencies is very important. I would consider overall self-perception as well. Like if someone generally has a negative outlook due to low opinion of themselves, feelings of worthlessness, that may lead them to believe that indulging in paraphilia is what they deserve. So their negative outlook may be the real addiction and the sexual stuff is just one way it manifests.

  7. On 3/14/2020 at 5:13 PM, LadySilver said:

    This was my experience as well in managing my addiction to pee porn when I was in my teens. It worked for me, but my question is: should there be more options for people to get help from? Would that take the form of a new branch of the therapeutic community or should it be something else entirely (peer networks like this one or irl, organizations like COSA [very cool, look them up if you don't know what they do - but only for sex offenders] or even AA [also some interesting versions of this for 'sexaholics' but would a fetish specific group be different or even better?])? Especially if you're a young person, feeling vulnerable and ashamed I am deeply worried about the fact that it is difficult to find something to turn to before things could become harder. 

    Well there are infinite things that there should be more options for, from ways to help starving people, homeless, sexual abuse victims, poor education and so on. The problem with implementing a specific type of therapy for fetishists is low demand. Individual fetishes are usually niche and not something that have a big enough population to justify an entire specialty for therapists to pursue, nor enough people that want treatment for it. That being said, it may be feasible to have a subset of sexual addiction counselors with additional training and education in fetishes in general, as well as a wide range of specific ones.

     

    On 3/14/2020 at 5:13 PM, LadySilver said:

    Yup. Probably. But again, should it be that way? Maybe. But I suppose I'm asking the question anyway. 

    That's a tough question to answer and it may not be useful to say yes or no as a general rule. One question I would think needs addressed is whether those seeking help for fetish addiction need it focused on more than other mental ailments that may be causing them to feel that the fetish is the problem. Like if they have depression, anxiety issues, or ptsd that was never treated, they could be indulging their fetish as a coping mechanism and resolving underlying issues first would take care of the fetish addiction as their overall mental health improves. So with the question of should it be that way, that fetish addiction isn't treated until other issues overwhelm a person, paraphilia can be uncovered as assessment by a professional is conducted and if it is the root cause, then the person could be referred to a sexual addiction specialist, preferably one with paraphilia knowledge. 

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  8. On 3/9/2020 at 7:22 PM, F0rester said:

    I am loving the other angle perspective, would like to some of your other stories get the same treatment if you feel up to it.

    If you're still interested, below is a story I wrote a while back that I rewrote a week later from the woman's pov, which is part of my post titled '2 short stories' dated June 17, 2019. I linked the original male's story because I assume you'd want to see it first as a frame of reference and because I didn't feel like going back to copy the other link...

     

  9. I have not sought treatment but I can offer some perspective that you may find useful. 

    Wikipedia mentions in it's description that there is no consensus on where the border is between unusual desires and paraphilia. That's all I have to go on at the moment since I've never researched this topic but that huge gray area provides a lot of wiggle room for avoidance of treatment. For me, and I suspect for many if not most fetishists, it is simply a part of yourself that you keep hidden. Since it doesn't usually affect functional people in their everyday lives, it's easy to not see reason to seek treatment. You mostly treat it like a bowel movement in that you do it alone when others aren't around. Another example is when you say horrible things about people to yourself that you would never say aloud. The fact that you keep it secret is grounded in your rational realization that it is not a behavior accepted by society in general. Voyeurism for example, is considered a violation of the social contract in most societies, and even a sizable portion of members here have spoken against pee voyeurism. Yet most porn sites contain a huge library of this exact type of porn, among countless others that also are not deemed acceptable. Statistics of porn searches reveal that there is a huge number of people indulging in all kinds of kinks, if only to simply watch a video. The vast majority of these people would never admit to what they search online in private.

    From a psychology standpoint, it may be helpful to compare kinks to observing the result of an auto collision. Part of the intrigue is the rarity, but also the fact that you aren't supposed to look, it's considered rude. Whatever seems unacceptable often makes us want that very thing much more. So with pee voyeurism paraphilia again, part of the appeal to those who enjoy it is the forbidden element that is present. I'm not supposed to be secretly listening to a woman peeing, or watching her do it, but that reality amplifies the thrill. So I guess if you go deep enough into the psychology behind it, you return to basics, it's simply human nature to want what we are told to stay away from.

    As for mental health, I suppose it's a slippery slope for each individual to feel they need help. As mentioned above, fetishes are usually indulged in secret, meaning that the decision to seek professional help mostly comes down to the individual. Then how much is crossing that line into feeling help is needed? Two hours per month, per week, per day? In my own case, I decided I needed to stop cold turkey with pee porn because it was making me late to work and consuming my entire weekends a few years ago. So I stopped and got myself under control, then returned at a much healthier consumption rate, and with better self control. My time spent now is down by at least 75%. Others have mentioned doing the same. I could have benefited from outside help, we all can to varying degrees about one thing or another, but it was in my power to reign it in myself and my guess is that most people like that take a similar approach. Those who received professional help were likely too far gone to control it at that point, and may have been suffering from other mental ailments as well.

    Hope this was helpful.

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  10. 4 hours ago, Dr.P said:

    @Brutus, Thanks for posting Mrs. Davis's Story. It's a great sequel to Alan's Story, so well crafted that it seems like a true account of events, rather than fiction. Very believable, and a very exciting read. Telling the story from a female point of view, yet achieving believability, is a very significant accomplishment, hard to pull off, and you succeeded admirably well. Looking forward to more from you.

    Dr.P

    Thank you. True, it's a delicate act writing as the opposite sex, a perspective never experienced. I've read a lot of things written by women so I have a decent grasp of how they tend to write but still it's very easy to mess up, hence my consulting miniskirtpisser lately to spot things that only a woman could, among other ways she's helped. Good to know it's believable.

    1 hour ago, miniskirtpisser said:

    @Brutus, I love this story!! I love how you portray her anxiety about being found out & her life story. You make her so believable. Thank you very much for writing this. I’m glad that she has a happy ending.
     

    Just as an aside, are you planning to write anything about Mrs. Davis’s daughter? Is she as naughty/naughtier than her mom? Would there be a mother daughter pissing “competition”, maybe when they are going to the mall’s toilet during a shopping trip? I’m always so excited to read your stories. 

    Thanks, you were a big help! 

    As far as her daughter is concerned, that's a character I hadn't thought about exploring, she was only a plot device to portray Mrs. Davis's loneliness. Anything is possible though. I'd have to think about it, since Mrs. Davis is a more wholesome character, I don't know if having some pee fun with her own daughter is believable as something she'd do, but I'll think on it. 

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  11. On 2/26/2020 at 10:11 AM, Alfresco said:

    What I have never understood is why ladies that hover don't simply lift the seat so that they can pee without splashing the seat.    Some would say that the ladies won't touch the seat to lift it because it is wet, but if everyone who did that lifted the seat then it would never get wet.  Men who use a standard toilet instead of a urinal are always expected to lift the seat, so why shouldn't ladies who aren't using the seat be expected to lift it?

    Women are usually pretty adamant that the seat remain down, always. So the thought of lifting one, especially a public one that's had so many nasty asses on it, is simply beyond what women are willing to do. True if everyone did it, things would be better, but that's never going to happen. I think another thing to consider is that a lot of times, women have complicated clothing to deal with in order to pee; stockings, skirts, balancing in heels, trying not to wet clothes, fishing through purse for something to wipe with, changing pads, tampons. It can be a marathon of actions for women and so adding an additional task of lifting a dirty toilet seat is just not going to happen. The act is much simpler for us. That's not to say women always have such high level apparel challenge to pee but they still won't lift the seat because for them, down is the only way it should be when at home and in public, they don't care because it's public, so if they piss on it, it's not their problem. 

    @Dr.PAs to your concerns, as Alfresco said, they aren't thinking that some guy will study the scene of their pee and discern details about how they peed. They're not cognizant of the possibility because it's so far from anything they would ever do that it never registers as a anything to think about. Their only concern is pee and move on. A lot of times, women spray seats and don't realize it because they don't even look to see the damage. They just wipe (maybe), flush and leave. Other times, they may see that they peed all over the seat, but since it's a public toilet, they usually just don't care, especially if it was already messed when they arrived. What's used by everyone is respected by no one.

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