Realizing you were gay or bisexual, how did you handle it?

[Mary Moon 1,656]

I became aware of it this year when i got together with my girlfriend, but i've had the suspicion for a few years. Often in the locker rooms and bathrooms i happened to look at other naked girls and have feelings, even if i didn't understand it was attraction. Obviously you go through the phase where you think you're wrong and you try to repress it by forcing yourself to only like guys. I was already in a mess, because of my urinary incontinence, and because of my psychological problems, and this was another piece of the puzzle. In short, everything remained buried, until i selected on Tinder to be able to receive matches from women too. I received one from a girl, from the photos she seemed really cute and we also had common interests, so we wanted to set up a meeting, i wasn't expecting anything. Instead, the spark was ignited and there was a lot of chemistry and we started dating, then came the first kiss and sex. And without realizing it i was in love. So much so that one day I completely opened up, telling her my secret, that I was partially incontinent and had to sleep in diapers and sometimes wear them during the day, she said that it didn't matter and that she wouldn't love me less for it and that I was brave to talk about it. Then there was the revelation of this relationship of mine to my family and friends, fortunately i didn't have the negative reactions that i feared from family and friends. Has anyone else found themselves in a similar situation? How did you handle it?

[vivi54 254]

I started identifying as bi only quite recently, but kinda like with you, I've always known on some level. So for me at least it feels like shockingly little has actually changed 🤷‍♀️

[Mary Moon 1,656]

29 minutes ago, vivi54 said:

I started identifying as bi only quite recently, but kinda like with you, I've always known on some level. So for me at least it feels like shockingly little has actually changed 🤷‍♀️

It wasn't easy at all, in the school in the showers, looking at the other girls and getting emotional, it made me feel a little wrong. I really felt in internal conflict. Even when I got together with my girlfriend i was terrified of the judgments, I even feared that my parents would go crazy and kick me out of the house. Instead, thank goodness everything went well.

[Kiwi Watcher 2]

No experience personally, but I have two cousins (male and female) who are gay. When Hannah came out, most of us knew she was anyway so it wasn't a surprise. Steve, on the other hand, was a total surprise because he had girlfriends in the past. His mum (my Aunt) wasn't accepting at first and he almost cut ties with her over it. She has come around now and he and his partner travel over to NZ for Christmas from Australia every couple of years or so to visit 

[chubbyjack 198]

I had one week-long "hook up" with my male cousin.  It was a one time thing.  We were both the same age 18.

  Up until I was in my 50s it was females all the way.  In my 50s I put on a lot of weight. I figured no one was interested in a fat guy.  I used to visit adult stores with theater rooms.  Several couches and big screen tvs with porn.  I went to jerk off comfortably which was Hard at home with wife and kids.

   These places are filled with guys either jerking alone or paired up JO. BJ fucking.

   One day I was stretched out on a couch. Shirt above my head and pants at my ankles.  One guy walked over staring at me. It was hot being watched then he started to get closer and I nodded yes.

I was so aroused. I had been edging over an hour.  He caressed my belly .sucked my nipples. Rubbed my thighs and eventually gave me one of the best hand jobs ever.  I always had a small towel as a cum rag which he needed . His hand was covered in jizz

   We swapped e mails and we would meet there or sometimes in a motel.  He then explained about chasers. I connected with a few via Craig'slist adds until they I stopped personals.

  Sadly he died earlier this year and i have had health issues on and off since 2017 so i no longer hook up but i do chat and cam with chasers.  There are a few sites deadicated to chaser and chubs. I am considered a superchub at 350 and in demand. I never would have guessed. 

 

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Edited Sunday at 09:30 PM by chubbyjack
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[kinda_gay_kinda_horny 17]

Took me about a year after I kinda found out, to be OK with myself. I was lucky in that no one near me was homophobic. It just took about a year to finally get it in my head that I am bi and there is not a damn thing I can do about it. (Besides men are hot as fuck, why fight it, lol)

 

Edit: I go by gay and horny but I am bi just like men/nb way more than women

Edited Sunday at 09:15 PM by kinda_gay_kinda_horny

[chubbyjack 198]

18 minutes ago, kinda_gay_kinda_horny said:

Took me about a year after I kinda found out, to be OK with myself. I was lucky in that no one near me was homophobic. It just took about a year to finally get it in my head that I am bi and there is not a damn thing I can do about it. (Besides men are hot as fuck, why fight it, lol)

 

Edit: I go by gay and horny but I am bi just like men/nb way more than women

Have you ever had both at the same time.  

[numberten 1,273]

I was aware that seeing men (the less clothed the better . . . especially if they were sweaty, muscular, and had body hair) gave me a special feeling that didn't happen with women by the time I was no more than three years old.  I didn't learn about sex and sexual orientation until a lot later, but basically there was never any doubt about who I preferred.

[LovesToWet 3,756]

Not sure where I stand on this as I don't find other men physical attractive and I do not have any interest in kissing, hugging or any other emotions with another man but I have found myself more and more turned on by the thought of playing with and sucking another man, especially in an MMF way. I also enjoy seeing men wet themselves and I like seeing a hard cock pissing. All that alone took a little getting used too especially as I'm a married

[kinda_gay_kinda_horny 17]

On 9/29/2024 at 4:33 PM, chubbyjack said:

Have you ever had both at the same time.  

I haven't, actually I've never 'been' with a woman