What things do you value the most in life?

[Fan of girls peeing 90]

I think many people on this site value quite a lot of other things in there lives besides their pee fetish. So if you feel comfortable talking about the things that you value the most, then on this site tell us what things you value the most in this life and the world. It can be all kinds of this from family and friends, to health, good food, sex, movies, your pets, to your spouse, the kids if you have any, alcohol, music, sports, good TV shows, laughter, your religious beliefs, spending time with those you are close to, traveling, researching stuff online, writing, reading, dancing, singing, etc. I personally like many of the things which I just listed above in this long paragraph. 

[Bacardi 9,170]

Probably my kids and the way they're gonna grow up in this world. 

Everything I do I do for them. From waking up at six am to make sure they're prepared for school, to helping them with homework when they need it, to taking them to all their birthday parties and playdates, buying them what they want and need (when reasonable), and so on. I had to quit my job to put them and their needs first, and my plans after graduating university include working from home if possible. Not only is it what I want cause I am a hermit lol, but I want to show my kids that no matter what they can follow their dreams too. Even if life tells them they were supposed to graduate in 4 years at 22 but they're almost 30, it's still worth pursuing. 

I've even modified my behavior so that it suits them. Conscious and gentle parenting was a huge mountain to study, learn, climb, and conquer, but I did it because the way I grew up with spankings and yelling and being talked down to didn't work for me, and when my daughters were born I feel it was silly to even think they deserved a fraction of what I was forced to go through as a kid. So I changed my parenting style for them and we are still working on it to this day. And it's working very well for us!

None of my kids are afraid to come to me and talk to me. Just the other day my youngest walked into my bedroom and told me something I said hurt him. It was said out of anger and frustration after a long day of cooking, cleaning, running around, and the kids not listening, and I was able to apologize for it, hug him, explain what was going on, and tell him I would try my best not to have an outburst like that again. Had I come to my care takers with some of the things that hurt me which were far worse than what I had said to my son, they probably would have yelled at me, beaten me, and told me I deserved it. It took a tremendous amout of therapy and self reflection to get to the point where I am now with my parenting, and if it weren't for the wellbeing of my kids it would have never happened. 

An outcome of my upbringing was that I am a grown adult that is a people pleaser who constantly puts myself second to help others, even if it hurts me. That's not how I want my kids to grow up, and I'm starting with myself to make that change. I hope that by teaching them to listen to their body when it needs food, rest, to be groomed, etc, they'll learn to take care of themselves and their body, not to power through life off of 1 hour of sleep and one small meal just because you promised so and so to do whatever with them. I practice self care, saying no to people when acceptable, and putting myself and my needs first when I can in the hopes that my kids will make better choices than I have in life (one being not getting pregnant with twins at 17 because some crusty ass kid convinced me he couldn't use condoms and then guilting me until I changed my no from a yes). I always say to myself, I'm their role model and it starts with me.

I have two daughters and a son at the moment, and hoping to have a fourth next year or the year after when I graduate university 😁 

[Kupar 12,478]

Interesting question. My wife and kids first. Kids have left home now but I'd still do anything to help them if they needed me. And K is and always will be the greatest love of my life. After that, I guess the rest of my family. I've been incredibly lucky (given you can't choose them) that we all get along. Friends both online and not (lines get blurred ... I have long-term friends I've had since before the interweb was invented who I now only communicate with online, and friends I've made online that I have met face to face). I value my relatively good health more and more as I get older. Laughter. Sex. The natural world. Walking in the countryside is my therapy. Cask beer, single malt whisky, tea, coffee, cheese, curd tarts. Travel (though it's more limited these days). Cricket.

[steve25805 121,326]

What I actually value most in life is my alone with myself time. I am a natural introvert and loner in a job that requires constant social interactions and conversations. My time alone away from all that is most precious to me. 

I also value personal happiness and security a lot, and of course my close friends and family. When it comes to material things I am not a hugely materialistic person. I would choose happiness over wealth if I had to make such a choice any day. But of material things, the two things I value the most are my laptop and my car, but more because of the happiness they help to facilitate than any desire to possess them for their own sake.

[Daniel_defo 336]

Action is what I value the most. Stable routine makes me feel depressed, so I like to travel a lot and meet new people, try new things. Changes are also an important thing to me, I like to see everything around me and myself including being changed.

[pguy2981 931]

This is such a hard question right now considering that I really don't know myself anymore. I mean... I don't think I ever really did, but I used to be way happier. What really makes me any semblance of happy is cycling. I love cycling like people love running. I am genuinely in a much better mood when I get on a bike and go. It's a little hard to do now since I don't have a good road bike. I have a good Turin Super Willy CX frame with 700x33mm tires, but it doesn't challenge my legs, so every time I get on an actual road bike, I feel like I'm riding for the first time and my legs are screaming. My GoFundMe for a  Cannondale SystemSix will be up soon lol.

 

But if you ask me what I most value in life, it's building things. It's seeing a project through, start to finish, and having it work perfectly in-line with your vision. This is unfortunately not what I get to do every single day. I try my best on the weekends but alas, chores and errands often get in the way. Gotta keep a clean house and just try to re-balance life on the weekends, so I don't have too much time. I think one of the things I struggle with the most is the balance between getting a project to work and debugging a project when it doesn't. I high-key get really anxious when my project doesn't work (does anyone like...poop a lot when they get anxious?). It drives my brain to go in a million different directions, I get frustrated, inner rage, quit. come back to the project, repeat process until I finish it. I remember getting really into building this one rocket. I took up some space in the basement, a small desk and just went to work. I was young so I had the luxury of time, it took me about two days to build, hardly looking at the directions. I loved the feeling of not feeling like I had somewhere to be, something to do, something to manage, and not running out of time in the day to do things. It worked the first try and I lost it in the sky. I was really happy about it working, like REALLY happy. That feeling is really hard to come by, since it feels like I have the weight of keeping my life together on my shoulders 24/7. Over the years, so much happened, so many failures and so few successes, so many set backs, I kinda just lost track of who I was and what made me happy. I don't truly know if what I wrote down here makes me truly happy anymore. Maybe I don't try hard enough to be happy...idk. But to sum it up, I guess I love building things and solving problems. It's a value that I wish carried me further in life, but shit happens I guess...

[on the porch 333]

What I cherish most ? The love I have for my GF of six years , She died , I lost my whole world , all the money I have I would gladly give it away for just one more day with her. We did everything together,even the pee stuff we talk about here . N one ever loved me as much as She did , and I her.

 I had a very exotic , nothing showing photo of her on a recliner couch .like from the 1900 s I had it blown up full life size , but in black and white 

Ever so classy ,and talk to her every day .to me its like missing the very air I breath