How many sexual partners is 'too many'?

[Admin 14,788]

I think it comes down to quality and not quantity when it comes to asking how many sexual partners is 'too many'? If you're hooking up with people you're attracted to and have a good connection with, it's fine - and if that means lots of sex partners, that's fine too if you're sensible about it.

Unsurprisingly though, this subject can cause a lot of controversy. People are quick to be deemed slutty, and I admit that I don't think I'd be comfortable being in a relationship with someone who told me they'd slept with 100 different guys. Of course, as long as the person was faithful (and clean) then it shouldn't be a factor, but I imagine it would be.

I guess it's also unsurprising that a lot of people lie when asked how many people they've had sex with.

Do you have a limit on what you think is acceptable?

[F.W 5,734]

I think you should have as much sex as you can handle with as many people as you can get,as long as theres respect,and obviously sexual health is considered.Of course,if you meet the one person,then that also should be that,just be faithful,but if single go for it.What is morality?God gave us a penis or vagina,and it should be normal to want to use it for other than peeing.

[F.W 5,734]

Studies have shown that women who have had many partners are more likely to get divorced, or be unfaithful. Plus, the more partners you've had, the greater the risk of an STD. I don't know if there is a limit, or what it would be, but there are definite risks associated with more promiscuous people.

Of course you should take precautions.Ive had a few encounters where no sex occurred just fingering etc.Ive not had a lot of partners,just that i feel people have too many hang-ups over sex.

[likesToLick 10,216]

I don't think any number is too many. I'd be quite happy to be in a relationship that involved swinging, for example.

Safe sex is a different issue. You can catch a disease from someone who has had only one other partner, while another person could have a thousand safe sex encounters without catching anything.

The living proof of this is the fact that escorts and porn performers have a much lower incidence of STDs than the general population. They take better care of their sexual health and don't take risks, even though they have sex with many different people.

[Scot_Lover 1,876]

Surprisingly, I was never a sexually active person when growing up, maybe I didn't get the messages that girls were sending me, no idea.

When I was studying, going through uni I was always too busy, then when working, again, too busy. Think I must have been over 30 before my first, just didn't seem important. I kind of retired when I hit 40, and things changed, with nothing to do I needed other people, so took to touring about, and when I landed in the UK, my life changed forever.

I don't need to put a number on it, 2 is all I have now, and 2 is all I will ever need.

[Sexismygod 1,782]

Surprisingly, I was never a sexually active person when growing up, maybe I didn't get the messages that girls were sending me, no idea.

When I was studying, going through uni I was always too busy, then when working, again, too busy. Think I must have been over 30 before my first, just didn't seem important. I kind of retired when I hit 40, and things changed, with nothing to do I needed other people, so took to touring about, and when I landed in the UK, my life changed forever.

I don't need to put a number on it, 2 is all I have now, and 2 is all I will ever need.

Sounds like you got yourself a pair of aces, Scott. And retired at 40? Dang. I'm doing something wrong in both areas lol.

Too many also depends on what you want. If you want a committed partner then the guy/girl who's slept with 2000 people may not be the one. Their attitude toward commitment probably doesn't match yours.

But if you like the occasional foray (or even daily forays) then who cares how many partners you've both had. As long as the sex is good, you take appropriate care, and you smile in the morning.

The number of partners is a common measure but it's a red herring. Having compatibility, and whatever form of equality you deem proper, is far more important.