Pee During Sex (PIV) - How Easy/Difficult is it For a Woman?

[Kirby23 954]

On several occasions, I've asked my wife to try peeing during sex. The idea doesn't interest her. And she'll say something like "Besides, I don't think it's even possible."

I know it's possible, because I've seen it in lots of videos, and my ex did it a few times. I've told some of the stories in other posts).

So here's my question - for couples that have done this - how easy/difficult is it for the woman? I'd be interested in hearing from women directly, or from men (e.g "my wife/gf peed during sex, and here's how it went").

What was the situation? Was it planned or unplanned? Where did it take place? How full was the bladder? (etc.)

Thanks in advance for your info/stories!

 

[Kirby23 954]

To get the ball rolling - my experience in this area in real life (other than porn) is only with one person, my ex. The first time she did it was in a swimming pool. We were having sex in the water. We'd been drinking a lot of beer. She told me she had to pee. Not really wanting to stop, I said "just go."

She had a bit of a hard time getting started, but as long as I held still (my penis was still inside), she was able to go. She had to push hard to start. She did a few "spurts," then was able to establish a stream of sorts. It was mostly dark out, so I couldn't see anything, but I could feel the warmer water surrounding my crotchal region. She was giggling as she was going, and the whole act triggered my orgasm. I came inside her, pulled out, and when I pulled out, she peed a lot more, emptying out the remainder of her bladder.

That was toward the end of our relationship (things were already going south by then), but there were a few more times that she peed during sex afterward; not because of a kink or fetish, but mostly out of convenience.

[InsertName 572]

It can be difficult to do. For me, personally, if I super gently brush my fingers against the labia minora near the urinary opening it can irritate/stimulate it enough to start. Additionally, good g-spot stimulation can help. 

If she’s not into it, it will be that much more difficult for her. Are you sure she is comfortable doing this and that you’re not ignoring her trying to avoid it without hurting you? Have you started slower such as her peeing in the same room as you, then with you watching her stream, then with you touching her while she pees, etc?

If she isn’t comfortable even peeing around other people then she’s going to have a much more difficult time doing it when there are all sorts of other types of stimulation, subconscious training to not do that during sex, and additional pressure to pee on demand. Personally, even after finishing a good fuck (or similar) I have a hard time peeing because the muscles or nerves or something are still freaking out (in a good way). 

[Kirby23 954]

1 hour ago, InsertName said:

It can be difficult to do. For me, personally, if I super gently brush my fingers against the labia minora near the urinary opening it can irritate/stimulate it enough to start. Additionally, good g-spot stimulation can help. 

If she’s not into it, it will be that much more difficult for her. Are you sure she is comfortable doing this and that you’re not ignoring her trying to avoid it without hurting you? Have you started slower such as her peeing in the same room as you, then with you watching her stream, then with you touching her while she pees, etc?

If she isn’t comfortable even peeing around other people then she’s going to have a much more difficult time doing it when there are all sorts of other types of stimulation, subconscious training to not do that during sex, and additional pressure to pee on demand. Personally, even after finishing a good fuck (or similar) I have a hard time peeing because the muscles or nerves or something are still freaking out (in a good way). 

Thanks for the help and insight. As a point of clarification, with my wife, I'm pretty sure it's a non-starter. She's not interested, I'm pretty sure that's that. I wish she wasn't so firm on not wanting to try, but she's made it pretty clear it's not going to happen. 

So the question I posed initially wasn't really "How can I get my wife to do this," but more along the lines of one of a purely academic nature, just to hear of others' experiences, who have been successful in this area.

Thanks!

[Bacardi 10,133]

I have had sex with a full bladder while my husband didn't know before. I'm telling you right now it would have been easy for me to pee on him lol. It was a circus level balancing act of holding, enjoying the sex, and not letting him know i was holding, so I dont think I'll do it again unless a miracle happens and I get the chance to have sex with someone who is into it. 

I know when I have my period and I use my cup sometimes it presses against my urethra from the inside and it both makes it difficult to pee and makes me feel like I have to pee real bad all the time. Maybe when you are inside of her you block her urethra and that's what makes it so difficult?

[InsertName 572]

7 hours ago, Kirby23 said:

Thanks for the help and insight. As a point of clarification, with my wife, I'm pretty sure it's a non-starter. She's not interested, I'm pretty sure that's that. I wish she wasn't so firm on not wanting to try, but she's made it pretty clear it's not going to happen. 

So the question I posed initially wasn't really "How can I get my wife to do this," but more along the lines of one of a purely academic nature, just to hear of others' experiences, who have been successful in this area.

Thanks!

Oh sorry! Lol I thought you were trying to gauge if she genuinely couldn’t or if she was making excuses. 

What if you do start smaller. Will she let you brush your teeth in the bathroom while she pees? It is a “normal” peeing experience for her physically and doesn’t put a ton of pressure on her if, for example, you’re casually at the sink with your back to her seemingly not really paying attention 

[janny-ammerson 66]

Oh my sweet summer child. Yes, people have done this, and in fact it’s a sexual fetish—there are tons of people who specifically enjoy doing this during sex, and you can find entire Web sites just dedicated to the practice (which even has its own vernacular and a wide range of different sub-genres all related to how you do it, when you do it, and what happens afterward).

[Kirby23 954]

16 hours ago, InsertName said:

Oh sorry! Lol I thought you were trying to gauge if she genuinely couldn’t or if she was making excuses. 

What if you do start smaller. Will she let you brush your teeth in the bathroom while she pees? It is a “normal” peeing experience for her physically and doesn’t put a ton of pressure on her if, for example, you’re casually at the sink with your back to her seemingly not really paying attention 

Yep. She's comfortable peeing in front of me in a situation like that. It's when I try to watch that she gets skeeved out, like if I ask to watch her pee in the shower, or outside while camping, for example. 

[Carb0nBased 647]

12 hours ago, Kirby23 said:

Yep. She's comfortable peeing in front of me in a situation like that. It's when I try to watch that she gets skeeved out, like if I ask to watch her pee in the shower, or outside while camping, for example. 

Does she even have an issue if you ask her to open her legs so you can see her go in the toilet? or only when she's peeing in less conventional places?

More on the original topic, there have been threads on here before both on this topic, where men and women described women peeing during sex, and also about the other way around, where either men described peeing inside their girlfriends/wives, or else where women described getting peed in. On both sides it can be possible or not, depending on the physiology and anatomy of the pee-er--some women can pee with a penis inside and some guys can pee while inside, and others can't. 

Edited August 31, 2022 by Carb0nBased

[Kirby23 954]

10 hours ago, Carb0nBased said:

Does she even have an issue if you ask her to open her legs so you can see her go in the toilet? or only when she's peeing in less conventional places?

Yes, I don't think she'd let me watch her closely when she's going in the toilet. It creeps her out. I probably asked once or twice at the beginning of our relationship, but have since given up trying. It's just not something she's into and/or would allow. If I really pushed she might let me, but she'd be extremely uncomfortable, and that would ruin any pleasure/satisfaction I might get out of it.

Edited August 31, 2022 by Kirby23

[Kirby23 954]

I want to resurrect this topic to try and get the discussion going again because it sort of got off track.

How easy/difficult is it for a woman to pee during sex with a penis (or toy) inside her? I'd be interested in hearing from women directly, or from men (e.g "my wife/gf peed during sex, and here's how it went").

What was the situation? Was it planned or unplanned? Where did it take place? How full was the bladder? (etc.)

[Kirby23 954]

On 8/29/2022 at 3:41 PM, Bacardi said:

I have had sex with a full bladder while my husband didn't know before. I'm telling you right now it would have been easy for me to pee on him lol. It was a circus level balancing act of holding, enjoying the sex, and not letting him know i was holding, so I dont think I'll do it again unless a miracle happens and I get the chance to have sex with someone who is into it. 

@Bacardi - Awesome answer. A few follow-up questions. 

1.) Have you ever explored this option with your husband? I know from your past comments he doesn't know about your kink.

Why is it important that he not know that you were holding?

What if you reframed it, saying something like "Sometimes I have trouble finishing because I'm afraid I'm going to pee." And see how he reacts? I know a lot of husbands (even if not into pee) would want their wives to enjoy themselves fully and not let a little mess get in the way of that.

2.) Have you ever explored your kink with anyone other than your husband (e.g. before you got together)?

3.) Have you ever tried holding (and releasing) during masturbation? With a toy inside, fingers, etc.? How did it go? Was it enjoyable? 

[Bacardi 10,133]

Just now, Kirby23 said:

1.) Have you ever explored this option with your husband? I know from your past comments he doesn't know about your kink.

Why is it important that he not know that you were holding?

No I haven't. As far as I know he still doesn't know. I don't want him to know because when i told my ex boyfriend he shamed me so hard I refused to do anything with the kink for years after that. It wasn't until I joined here in 2018 that I really opened up to the kink, and even tho I am more relaxed and accepting about this part of myself I just can't bring myself to ask him. I just get humiliated every time thinking about it 😔 I know my husband probably wouldn't shame and laugh at me like my ex did, but I still don't want to tell him.

3 minutes ago, Kirby23 said:

2.) Have you ever explored your kink with anyone other than your husband (e.g. before you got together)?

No I haven't. That same ex I spoke previously about was as close as I got, but even that was just him laughing at me when I asked him to pee a little on the floor. He would ask if peeing my pants when I was a baby is what started it. Again, humiliating. I would cry.

There is one person from the forum that, if the stars aligned one day and I got to meet him, I'd risk it all to have pee sex with him. Just to say I have tried it. This, however, is not likely to happen any time soon because he lives in an entirely different country.

8 minutes ago, Kirby23 said:

3.) Have you ever tried holding (and releasing) during masturbation? With a toy inside, fingers, etc.? How did it go? Was it enjoyable?

Yes I have lol. And actually since I've made that original post I've tried lots of things when it comes to pee and masturbation. For that same friend I mentioned previously I masturbated on the toilet, and when I came I peed on my own hand 😬 I also notice that when my bladder is full and I end up masturbating I get a little wetter than usual. If all the stimulus is right I can end up making a huge mess. Just the other night I came in my pajama pants and there was a wet spot. I assumed it was pee since my bladder was so full to begin with, but honestly I couldn't tell. It didn't smell like anything but at the same time all I had drank that day was water. I am inclined to believe it was pee.

[Kirby23 954]

@Bacardi Thank you so much for your candid responses. I hope my questions didn't bring up painful memories for you - I'm so sorry you were kink shamed. My wife used to do this too, saying things like I was "sick" for asking to watch her pee in the shower. But we've been together a long time (15+ years), and she has mellowed out a lot about it, especially recently.

I'm sure I'm not telling you anything you haven't already thought about, but I wonder what would happen if you tried to "ease into" the topic with your husband. Perhaps it could start with an innocent conversation on kinks in general, and just see where it goes from there. I understand the reluctance though. While on one hand you have the possibility of opening up a new world of exploration with your partner, on the other hand it could backfire horribly if it goes wrong. 

It's an interesting topic you bring up - the question of "would you cheat on your spouse to engage in a kink you otherwise wouldn't be able to explore?

I've thought about this a lot. I'm sure there are a lot of people who would. I'm not sure what I would do. For me I don't think it would be worth the risk. I love my wife immensely and would never want to hurt her. I have a great life and wouldn't want to risk throwing it away to explore a kink. 

But I'm so impressed with your courage and honesty to admit to a willingness to explore. If we can't be honest here, where can we be? I hope someday the stars do align for you. 

Finally, regarding masturbation, I'm so glad that's going well for you! That's exciting to learn more about your body and discover new feelings and ways of experiencing pleasure.

Thanks again for engaging in the conversation and for sharing!

 

[Guest Wetling]

9 hours ago, Bacardi said:

because when i told my ex boyfriend he shamed me so hard I refused to do anything with the kink for years after that.

He didn't deserve you. And he didn't love you, because if he did, he wouldn't have made you feel bad. 🤗 It's a shame some people think they have a right to destroy others like that. And then those guys wonder, why women don't trust. Why women are ashamed to show their sexuality. 😠

9 hours ago, Bacardi said:

There is one person from the forum that, if the stars aligned one day and I got to meet him, I'd risk it all to have pee sex with him. Just to say I have tried it. This, however, is not likely to happen any time soon because he lives in an entirely different country.

And maybe that's good, because your husband didn't even have a chance to accept you in all that you are, and I'm almost sure you would feel bad about it later. I'm not much for morals, but I know the feeling of having hurt someone I love.

Edited April 19, 2023 by Wetling

[PissDude 479]

It’s something I’ve always wanted to experience, but probably never will. One night more than a year ago, my wife made a comment about “men who like watching women pee” in a negative context. I shut the bedroom door and gave her a full discourse on my entire philosophy of the subject and experiences, including the time I’d had a lot of coffee and she grabbed my dick to indicate she wanted attention and I went through with it even though I didn’t think I’d last and how hot it was. I jumped off her as soon as I’d finished and pissed in the shower.

 

Her memory isn’t very good and she has no recollection of the conversation, which is probably for the best. I confessed to my ex wife and she held things against me, so I’m in no rush to repeat that.