Kirby23

I thought it would be fun to share my experiences of the first time I saw a new partner pee. I'll start with two stories.

When my wife and I first started dating, I was remodeling my bathroom. She was helping me paint, and we'd both had a beer or two. After a little while she announced that she had to pee. I said "Ok, go ahead." She said "Can you leave so I can go?" I said "Just go, it's not that big of a deal. We've already seen each other naked, who cares?" She said "I guess you're right." and sat on the toilet. I couldn't see her from where I was painting. But I was listening. Some time went by and I hadn't heard anything. After a little while I asked "Have you gone yet?" She said "No, I can't go with an audience." I said "If we're going to be in a relationship, we have to be comfortable around each other. I think that should include peeing." After a little while longer, she was eventually able to go, as long as she knew I was around the corner and couldn't directly see her. But I did hear it, and remember enjoying it immensely.

My ex was very open, and didn't mind peeing for an audience. One time, very early in our relationship, we took a shower together. I think it was the first time we'd showered together, the morning after the first time we slept together. In the shower, I noticed she was kind of fidgety. I thought she was maybe nervous, or uncomfortable being naked with me, or something similar. I asked her what was wrong. She said "I have to pee!" I told her she could go, I didn't care. But I said "Can I watch?"

She said "Sure, I don't care." So I knelt down to get a closer look. She was about 150 lbs., so she had a slight fatty bulge to her pubic area. She called it her "pouch". She was blonde, so had very fine, very fair pubic hair. She had been shaven previously, but I told her I liked pubic hair, so she was growing it back for me. Her inner labia folds protruded out from her pubic area. I knelt with my face about a foot from her pussy. When she started to pee, I noticed it was very yellow and fragrant (since it was her morning pee). It trickled at first, then gushed/shot out. I distinctly remember her labia flapping back and forth as the pee shot out. I also remember the hissing sound. It mostly went down, but slightly forward due to the pressure. I wanted to get right under the waterfall, but I didn't want her to think I was a freak, haha. She peed for a normal amount of time, maybe 20-30 seconds. When I got back up (from kneeling) I had a huge erection. She said "Well, you obviously enjoyed the show."

What are others' experiences with the first time seeing your partner pee?

My ex used to take long (1 hour plus) baths, often while drinking wine or beer, and when she had to pee, she would usually just go in the bathwater. It didn't bother her at all. 

It didn't really strike me as weird per se, but one time I asked her about it, and she said that when she used to get kidney stones, that trying to pee in a warm bath was the least painful way to pass one. Since then it became more "normal" for her, and was just a lot easier than getting out when she had to pee. Made sense to me.

Some time later, a close female friend of mine ("M") and I were discussing the merits of a warm bath and a glass of wine for relaxation after a long day. She said "Sometimes I'll stay in there an hour or even two - it's the only alone time I get" (she has three young kids). I asked her "What do you do when you have to pee?" and she said "You know, sometimes you have to just go with the flow."

Trying to play it cool, I asked "Don't you find that 'icky'?" She said "With three kids, every body fluid imaginable has touched my body. My own diluted pee doesn't gross me out in the least. Unless I'm ready to get out anyway, if I need to pee when I'm in the bath, I just go."

So, is this common? Do others just "go with the flow?"

My ex and I had sex in her parents' pool a handful more times befor we eventually divorced, and pretty much every time it involved pee - either her peeing before we did it, during, or directly after. Feeling that warm flood came to be the part I looked forward to most about doing it there. 

I would finish, then we'd both freeze, and she'd release the floodgates with me either still inside, or having just pulled out. 

Sometimes she would pee before too. I'd go to put it in, and she'd say "Hang on, I have to pee first." She'd then release her pale yellow cloud into the water, then I'd slip it in. Good times.

This topic also reminds me of an indirect experience, as told to me by my wife. I mentioned it in another thread ("Hot tub pee etiquette").

One time, several years ago, she was at a hot tub party with friends. It was all ladies, about 12-15 people total. It was a large hot tub, which held 8 or so. So at any given time, there would be 8 in the tub, and several others standing, milling around (in their swimsuits). 

They were all drinking heavily (beers, wine coolers, etc.). They were all outdoors near the hot tub for about 3 hours, and my wife said she didn't remember anyone going indoors to use the bathroom. The hot tub was in the way back of the backyard, a relatively long way from the house. 

I asked "so where did everyone pee?" and she said "I don't know, probably in the grass, or maybe over the edge of the hot tub." I asked "Do you think they peed in the hot tub?" and she said "No, the hostess specifically asked us not to, because it messes up the chemistry."

I asked her where did she pee, and she said she peed once or twice discreetly while walking to or from the cooler, and once while sitting on the edge of the tub ("to cool off"). She said a lot of the guests sat on the edge to cool off from time to time, and she guessed that they were probably peeing (like she did). I said "Could you tell? Could you see anything?" and she said, "No, it was dark."

My wife definitely isn't into pee, and wouldn't have taken much notice anyway, especially since it was all women. So she couldn't provide much additional detail.

But I bet inhibitions were lowered after it got dark, and as they drank more. I bet the sightings would've been pretty obvious to anyone who was looking.

I love this topic - to me this is one of the hottest aspects of the pee kink - the nonchalant pee out of convenience. 

My ex-wife was not "into" pee the way we are, but would often pee whenever/wherever simply out of convenience. I've made several posts about this, so won't repeat myself. But she was a drinker, and often had several beers, so always needed to pee. She peed in hot tubs, pools, outdoors, etc. She occasionally even peed during sex out of comfort/convenience (which I've posted about previously).

She kept a plastic tub (a dish tub) under her side of the bed, and would occasionally pee into it during the night or in the morning if she didn't feel like walking to the bathroom. She didn't bring it into the bed (like a bed pan), rather she would put her feet on the floor, sit on the edge of the bed, spread her legs, and hold it up to her crotch and pee into it. She didn't do it all the time, only if she'd had a few beers before bed. She said it was a lot easier for her to do it that way so she could easily fall back to sleep (rather than walking to the bathroom). Occasionally I'd even wake up to the sound of her peeing and the sound of the pee hitting the plastic. Now that i think back on it, I'm not 100% sure she wiped. She might've, she probably just used kleenex and threw it away. 

I even remember a few times she was sick (or probably really drunk) that she wouldn't even scooch to the edge of the bed - she'd just hold a towel up to / under her crotch and pee into it. She kept 2-3 "pee towels" under the bed too. I didn't like her doing that though, because it almost always soaked through and/or leaked. 

I eventually came to realize that a lot of what she did wasn't normal. I didn't know much different at the time because I was young and she was really the first partner I lived with. 

Several years ago I was in a co-habitation situation for nearly a year with my (then current) wife when we were going through a divorce. She had no desire to move out until she was forced to do so by the court.

I set up an "apartment" of sorts for her in the semi-finished basement. There was a bed, microwave, fridge, food, etc., but no bathroom. I expected that she would use the bathroom (and shower, etc.) on the main floor of the house. 

I later found out that she was using the bathroom for showering and #2s, but that she was actually doing all of her peeing in the basement. The weird part is that I only found this out after we'd been in this living situation for a few months!

She was an alcoholic, and drank a lot of beer. One time we'd been home together all day, and it occurred to me that she hadn't been upstairs (to the main floor of the house) all day. I would have seen her, because to get to the bathroom, she'd have to walk right past the living room where I was. This struck me as unusual, because she usually peed all the time (due to the amount of beer she usually drank).

So, I went downstairs and confronted her about it, and asked "Um, where have you been peeing?!"

The short answer was pretty much anywhere she felt like. In the corner, on the rug, on the basement floor, behind the furnace, etc. 

She knew she would be moving out and I was going to be selling the house (and we were getting divorced) so she super didn't care. She didn't even try to lie about it or hide it, she was unapologetic. She said it was my fault because I hadn't supplied her with a suitable bathroom facility in her living space. 

At the beginning of our arrangement she'd been peeing in a bucket and dumping it in the sump. Later, she got lazier and bolder, and would pee wherever she felt like, out of laziness, convenience, and sheer spite. Apparently the most common place she would pee was off of her bed, onto the rug.

The simple fact was that there was really nothing I could do about it. What could I do, call the police? My lawyer? What were they going to do?

So in the end, we reached an uneasy agreement. I asked her not to pee anywhere that would cause permanant damage and/or lower the sale value of the house, and she agreed. 

After she moved out, I obviously threw that rug away (and her bed too), and deep cleaned everything else as best I could. When cleaning I found lots of evidence of places she'd been peeing that I hadn't previously found out about. 

My ex (same person as in my original post) drank a lot of alcohol. As I mentioned above, unfortunately her alcoholism eventually led to our divorce. Although she drank some liquor, she generally preferred beer (cheap stuff, like Coors and Miller High Life). She never had fewer than 5 or 6 beers at a time. And because of that, she was ALWAYS peeing. 

I didn't like her drinking, but the silver lining is that she always had a full bladder, and was very open about peeing anywhere and everywhere, including occasionally during sex, as I mentioned above. Sometimes it was by accident, and sometimes she did it out of laziness / convenience.

I think other exes of hers were disgusted by it, so she never did it at first. But toward the end of our relationship, after the "jacuzzi incident", once she found out that I didn't mind and even liked it, she had no reservations about peeing during sex if she had been drinking. 

One time we were in her parents' pool. I don't think they were home. I think maybe we were house sitting? It was evening, about 9:00, getting dark. She'd been drinking all day, and even when we were in the pool. She kept 2-3 beers on the pool deck, ready to go. I remember, we'd been in the pool a while, because she wanted to have sex, and I was shy - I wanted to wait until it was dark. Her parents lived in a development, and it wasn't very secluded. The pool was well within view of the neighbors. 

So once it was dark, I said ok, and we started having sex in the pool. We kept our swimsuits on, she just pulled hers aside, and I slid in. We were only about a minute in, when I started to feel something warm down there, much warmer than the cool poolwater. I was trying to be quiet, so no one heard. But I said to her in a loud whisper "Are you peeing right now?!" She said "Yep!", very proud of herself. 

She later told me the position we were in was pushing on her bladder, so rather than being uncomfortable, she just peed. I couldn't argue with her logic!

One time my female friend "S" and I were discussing rock / music festivals, and strategies for easy peeing. Like many women, she hates port-a-johns, and avoids them if she can. 

Her go-to strategy is that she wears a long (ankle-length) skirt and no underwear, and flip-flops. Then, when she needs to pee, she just pees while standing, and no one's the wiser. 

I asked her "don't you get wet?" And she said not really. Her legs and feet get a little wet, but they dry quickly. And even if her skirt gets a little wet, it doesn't show, and dries quickly. 

She can do it while standing, even while walking. She said it's actually easiest while in a crowd because people are especially unlikely to notice. They'd have to be looking right at her feet the moment she lets it go. She said she's been doing it for years and no one's ever noticed yet (that she's aware of).

She said that many of her female friends do this at outdoor concerts, that it's a fairly commonly known thing among festival- and concert-going women. 

This blew my mind. It kind of makes perfect sense. 

So, who else does this? Is this as common as she makes it sound?

I'm curious to hear others' experiences with witnessing or hearing about discreet / nonchalant pees in real life among regular / real people (who aren't into our kink). 

In another thread I told a story about my wife and her friends at a hot tub party, where she peed discreetly through her swimsuit into the grass while walking to the cooler. She mentioned that a few times the women would sit on the edge of the hot tub with their butts over the edge, to "cool off". But she suspected that they were peeing. 

Another situation came second-hand. In my early 20s I had hosted a party at my house. We had all been drinking. My (hot) female friend ("S") was leaving. My male friend ("D") happened to be going to his car to get something. When he came back in, he told me "S" had stood on the road near her driver's door, and took a massive leak from under her skirt onto the road before she got in the car. He said it like "ha, isn't she stupid", but all I could think was "man, that's so hot, I wish I had witnessed that". "S" was pretty free about peeing, and I'd seen her pee at parties before. She was the type who would just pop a squat in the yard rather than going inside because it was easier. 

Another female friend of mine ("M") is very open about discussing sex and related topics. During "normal" discussions she's admitted to peeing in the shower, pool, etc. One time we were talking about squirting. She said one of her ex-boyfriends was obsessed with trying to make her squirt. She told me after some failed attempts, one time she peed during sex to appease him (to make him think she squirted). I was going crazy. But I tried to play it cool. I asked for details, but she wouldn't divulge anymore, and I didn't want to push too hard.

Another "M" story - she told me about a time when her twins were babies, and she was very pregnant (with her third). She was clothes shopping, and was trying on clothes in the fitting room. Probably maternity clothes? She had her baby twins with her. All of a sudden she had one of those "I need to pee NOW" moments. She knew there was no way she would make it to a restroom in time - babies, stroller, etc. in tow. So she thought quick and got a diaper out of the diaper bag, pulled her pants down, held it up to her crotch, and peed into it. But the problem was that the diaper was so small that it couldn't hold all of it! So she had to switch to a second diaper mid-stream! She told me she remembered telling the twins "Never speak of this!"

One of my favorite pee-related situations is when two people are engaged in a sex act, one partner announces "I have to pee" (or similar), and the other says "Just go."

I have been in this situation a few times, and they were always fun, naughty, and hot. The first that I remember was with my ex. We were on vacation, at a hotel, and there was a jacuzzi in the room. We'd been relaxing in the jacuzzi drinking beers, and it eventually led to sex in the jacuzzi. Before long I could tell she was getting uncomfortable. I assumed it was due to sex in the water (which can wash away the body's natural lubrication), but when I asked her what was wrong, she said "I have to pee!"

Not wanting to stop what we were doing, I said "Just go." She tried for a little while, to pee when I was inside her, but I think she found it too difficult. A few brief spurts was all she could manage. I couldn't actually really tell, because her pee was about the same temperature as the water, and it didn't really feel like anything to me. She just said "I'm trying, but it's not really working."

She said "You're going to have to pull out if you want me to go." I pulled out (and looked down). It actually took her a little concentration, but eventually she was able to go. She started giggling, and a pale yellow cloud began to emerge from her into the jacuzzi bath water. A silly smile and look of relief crossed her face. We resumed sex, and both came almost immediately.

That was about 15 years ago, and I still remember it like it was yesterday. We had definitely never done anything watersports-related to that point, but we were both just drunk enough that our inhibitions were lowered enough for it to happen. It didn't really feel like a "watersports" act at the time, just a silly occurrance that happened while we had drunk sex.

That situation sort of "opened the floodgates" (pun intended), and we had several other "Just go" moments as our relationship continued. I think it lowered her pee-related inhibitions from then forward. She drank a lot of alcohol (unfortunately that led to the downfall of our relationship), but because she drank, she always had to pee, and occasionally did so during sex if she needed to. It was usually in water (shower, pool, etc.), or outdoors. Once she even did it on the concrete garage floor (but that's another story).

Usually she would mention it, but not always. She might say something like "Do you care if I pee?" or "I'm gonna pee." That usually meant that I should pull out, so she could go. Then I'd put it back in, and enjoy her warm wetness. Eventually she figured out how to go while I was still inside, and would occasionally catch me by surprise by just releasing while we were doing it. That only happened toward the end of our relationship though, so it only happened a few times. Ironically, she wasn't into watersports, it was just a matter of convenience/laziness for her. 

Who else has enjoyed a "Just go" moment during sex?

Those who watch the show 'Naked and Afraid' are occasionnally treated to pee-related content. For anyone unfamiliar with the show, it's an American TV series that airs on Discovery channel. The premise is that two survivalists, a man and a woman, are dropped off in a remote area, naked, and must find water, food, shelter, etc. to survive. 

I don't recall the specific season or episode, but the best example I can think of occurred when the male contestant woke up in the night and announced "I have to pee." The female said "Me too," so they both exited their makeshift shelter, and stood next to each other, and peed standing. The female had slightly bent legs, so was in a sort of hybrid standing / high squat position. Her private area was blurred, but (if I recall correctly) you could see her pee stream. She remarked "That's the shit right there" (commenting on the convenience of peeing standing in the middle of the night).

Another situation I recall from the show was when a woman was fishing, and was attracting a lot of small fish to the area of the water she was wading/squatting in. The male contestant asked her "How did you attract so many fish?" She said "This is kind of gross... I peed in the water." The voiceover / narrator then went on to explain that urinating in water can attract fish. 

One more was on the spinoff "Naked and Afraid XL." An attractive blonde contestant had skinned an animal, and intended to tan the hide. She explained how urine is used to tan hides. She laid the hide out on a large rock and proceeded to unleash a healthy stream/puddle onto the hide.

For those who have watched the show - are there other instances that you recall? 

Great replies so far! These pretty much confirm some of what I'd suspected. 

Does anyone's real life experiences confirm (or refute) any of these scenarios?

For example, have you been in a hot tub in mixed company when someone said "I have to pee!"? And if so, how did they do it?

How about when you and your spouse / significant other are the only ones in the tub? Does that change the etiquette?

My wife and I have a small (inflatable) hot tub that we use about once/week. A few times when I've had to pee, I just stand up, pee out of the hot tub (into the grass/mulch beside the tub), and sit back down in the tub. My wife hasn't peed (that I know of) when we've been using the tub. If she had to, I suspect she would get out, pee in the grass (through her swimsuit) and get back in.

My wife goes to hot tub parties with her female friends/co-workers once in a while. Wine and drinks flow freely. I have asked her how the women pee, and she said she doesn't really know. The hot tub at the host's house is a bit of a distance from the house, and she hasn't noticed anyone leaving the hot tub to go inside. She suspects they're either peeing in the water, or peeing in the grass (through their swimsuits) when they exit the tub to get a drink. 

That's how she has done it (she admitted) - just pee down her legs while she's walking to the cooler to get a drink. I asked her "Might someone notice?" And she said "No, it was dark out, no one would notice."