Are you worried about getting older?

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On 1/13/2023 at 8:14 PM, steve25805 said:

I am 57 but I look and act and feel younger than this. People are often surprised when I tell them my real age. I feel about 30 and am as happy hanging out with the youngsters as I am with people my own age. When I do physical hard graft though my body does have a habit of reminding me I am not 30 anymore, lol.

I am a notorious practical joker and still have the sense of humour of a naughty schoolboy.

My favourite age was probably 18. Old enough to make my own choices and do my own thing but young enough to still have my whole life ahead of me and to be carefree and fun loving. And crucially, in the UK anyway, it was the age when I could legally drink in pubs and bars which was important to me at that age.

I fear getting old in several ways. The inevitable loss of loved ones who are getting older too and my own future frailties. In particular - a potential risk for diabetics like me - I fear losing my sight which would utterly destroy my life.

I try to stay young in body as well as mind by doing most of the more physical jobs in work to stay fit.

I think my pee kink will always be with me but my libido and degree of sexual interest will likely diminish. Already at 57 I have noticed that my sexual impulses are less intense and frequent than they used to be.

The obvious thing to look forward to as I get older is retirement and the ability to give up work if I choose, or perhaps continue on a part time basis only

Great answers. 😊 I think staying young is mind over matter, but wear and tear do add up over time and your impulses do change.

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On 12/31/2022 at 7:46 AM, Chrissy89 said:

1. Do you feel, act, and look your age? Can people guess your age? 
A lot of people think I’m younger than I actually am, in my 20s I was regularly ID’d for buying alcohol. Things changed when I became a mother… that’s probably aged me 🤣🤣 god I’m terrible for saying that!! 

2. What was your favourite age? 

17 the year I left school which I hated so much and went off to uni. This was the age I stated to love myself ❤️

 

3. Do you fear getting old? What scares you the most? 
I dreaded turning 30 lol. Wasn’t as bad as it sounded. I still feel like I’m 19/20 though but my body tells me otherwise. I guess now that I’m a responsible adult (ha) with mortgage, family commitments, good job I guess the fear of getting older has subsided for now. Circle back in 7 years when I’m about to turn 40 🤣

4. What do you do to stay young and healthy?. I love looking good. If there’s one thing I do have it’s a pretty good self care routine. Maybe my autism helps this I dunno but I’ll spend time moisturising, taking care of myself and generally making sure I always feel pretty happy!

5. Do you think your pee kink will remain as you age? Or do you think older people lose their kinks over time? 
i hope not… I love my wee kink. It’s my little hideaway

6. What do you look forward to getting older? Having a child free house, retirement and travelling the world. There’s a lot of places I want to see before I pop the clogs! 

Sorry for the lazy, late reply, Chrissy! Yes, being a parent does age you, it is exhausting. Everything is harder…exercise, sleep, decent food, me time, a sex life! It s survival mode! I hated High School too….learned more out in the real world. I am good at pretending to be a responsible adult. 😉 But I don’t feel like a grown up. Yes, the pee kink is a little bit of freedom, a little treat in the Mum life. Cool, hope to bump into you on your travels in the future. 

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On 12/12/2022 at 2:54 PM, Doponie said:

With each new birthday, I realize that I am getting older. I remember what happened in a year, and in a lifetime. Sometimes I notice that some memories have been forgotten, once important people are no longer part of my life, and this makes me even sadder.
1 - I feel younger, but people are surprisingly accurate at guessing my age.
2 - most of all I liked being 15-17 years old. All worries and difficulties were even pleasant
3 - I'm afraid of getting old because I don't want to be a burden on my family and poison their lives.
4 - I try to learn languages and somehow develop the brain so that I do everything in my power to delay senile diseases. Go to the gym, try to eat right
5 - Most likely, I will stop doing it, because if I really like something, then then I lose interest in it
6 - I don't even know... that I will have a lot of money and keep a clear mind

Learning languages is great for brain training. Great answers. 💚

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On 12/11/2022 at 6:56 PM, MonsterKane46 said:

1 - people guess about 5 years younger. I feel my age (46) but most of the time dont act it. 

2 - anything under the age of 17 as I suffered some mental issues then and attempted suicide.

3 - yes because I watched my Grandmother go through dementia and my Mother become crippled with arthritis and I dont want that.

4 - I'm writing a novel

5- I think it will last until I'm no longer capable of getting sexual pleasure 

6 - retirement 

 

Sounds like you haven’t had the easiest life. I think you would have a lot of wisdom to pour into your novel. Good luck.💚

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On 12/11/2022 at 9:58 AM, Sexismygod said:

 

All fantastic answers. 😊

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On 12/11/2022 at 7:01 AM, Remi said:

1. Do you feel, act, and look your age? Can people guess your age? 

I often 'feel' no different than i did with 18. Some worries and perspectives have changed but overall i feel the same though i sometimes think that just means i am stuck.  The acting your age thing is something i think i often fail at and will continue to fail at in the future, at least when i think back to how i imagined my own future and how it should be when i was a kidd. And this is something i get reminded of regularly when i catch me comparing myself to other people or rediscover those that i used to know from the past like classmates etc...maybe its more than just about the acting but something is off with me in my opinion. Then again, what does acting your age really mean? Who is to say how one should act at any given age? I take responsibilities when necessary, i make irrational decisions more often than not, i try to radiate positivity even when i don't feel like it and i am able to take things not so seriously...but thats just me and not my age. Sure, times are changing you and you gain experience that in the best case help you to find your path in life without too many distractions while you try to stay true to yourself as best as possible.

About the looks, some people guess that i'm younger. Highly depends if i wear a 5 o'clock shuffle or if i'm shaved. Freshly shaved and wearing the right clothes i occasionally had to show my ID when buying stuff 18+ in the recent years (i'm talking stuff like action movies).

2. What was your favourite age (mine was 12….cruising the streets on my bike in the 80s and playing Atari)

Definitely teenage years. Around 13, 14, 15. At that age you don't worry so much and are more carefree while your dreams are big and everything seems possible and limitless. Playing outside, gaming with friends, being silly, having a good time. 

One guy i once worked with said something that stuck with me 'when you are young you still have dreams and think everything is possible and that you might have keys to a Lamborghini soon. But one day you wake up, are in the end of your 30s, work HERE and drive an Astra'. I naively try to keep some of those juvenile dreams alive. 

3. Do you fear getting old? What scares you the most? (For me it is loss of independence, and my husband getting sicker)

I sometimes overthink getting old. I have too many worries clouding my mind. What i fear is everything that comes with the time passing by: losing people close to you, failing, falling into a hole and that the pessimistic outlook i witnessed so many people have will catch up on me. Or things that i can not control. But i try not to focus on those worries or it will eat me up.

4. What do you do to stay young and healthy? (I think being in love helps to keep you young)

I try to keep the inner kid alive. I try to radiate positivity to hopefully attract positivity in the long run despite me often feeling the opposite inside. I do sports. Weights, running, punching, kicking etc with an ever changing level from casual to a bit more intense depending on certain things, like mentality, so i'm very far from being the 'machine' i want myself to be, not even close. I deliberately put myself through discomfort like going out in a t-shirt when its freezing. I walk. A lot. Don't smoke and rarely ever drink (but i lose some of those 'health points' with a not so clean diet).

5. Do you think your pee kink will remain as you age? Or do you think older people lose their kinks over time?

It can remain i'm sure, for me and for everyone else. Not sure if i want that though. But i think older people can keep their kinks and are able to be passionate. But it probably highly depends on the individual and how they allow themselves to be.

6. What do you look forward to getting older (I look forward to a quiet, tidy, kid-free house where I can read, pee where I like, and make love anywhere, anytime).

To be honest i don't have anything that i'm looking forward to. Looking forward implies that there is a good chance something will occur. But i don't know what will happen. All i can say is i want to be inspiring and positive when i'm old. There are so many great 'older' people out there that still inspire and do their thing. I hope i am able to be a tiny bit like that. I take day by day.

I think you are right, we are all unique individuals. 

I love “when you are young you still have dreams and think everything is possible and that you might have keys to a Lamborghini soon. But one day you wake up, are in the end of your 30s, work HERE and drive an Astra'.

So, so true. The idealism of youth. I try and keep my imagination alive in my 40s though. Many of my wishes have come true. 

There are a lot of inspiring older people. With age comes wisdom, confidence, skills and experience. All good things. I think you will be a very interesting older person. 

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On 12/11/2022 at 4:14 AM, gldenwetgoose said:

This post is going to come with a bit of a health warning - a few sombre notes in my answer, and a bit more direct honesty than is normally my thing.

1. Do you feel, act, and look your age? Can people guess your age?

Looking and acting my age, I hope I come across as younger than I am.  I've got plenty of grey and a definite 'thin' patch on top, but I don't tend to shy away from things normally because I think I'm too old.  A few weeks ago at a conference I was getting drunk in the evening with a bunch of younger people than me, the topic of 'how old do each of us think the other ones are' came up, and the general view seemed to be mid-forties for me which will do me very nicely.

But at the same time, the last three years have really instilled a sense of mortality into me...  Not just the pandemic, but also losing my father shortly before the outbreak.  Suddenly I found myself feeling like a 'grown up' and realising it's going to happen to me too sooner or later.  The other thing, which hasn't been wide public knowledge is that I'm waiting for some big surgery, due anytime now.  I've had enough time to adjust to the risks of the operation, and I've had to make some lifestyle changes waiting for it - mostly around the cycling I was doing which is temporarily on hold.  In some ways I've been a little juvenile about it - 'what the hell, live for the moment' and in other ways it's making me feel very fragile.   Hopefully not noticeable on the outside.

 2. What was your favourite age

Like Sophie, my early childhood was great, but then high school spiralled downwards pretty rapidly.  I'd actually say the last 15 years or so have been the best - being a father and doing stuff with my son, running my photography business which opened doors to some amazing experiences in themselves and a little namedropping potential. 

3. Do you fear getting old? What scares you the most?

I think the loss of independence, not being able to drive, having to seek help from others and as other people have said.  Dementia is a fear in my mind - although ironically if I were to suffer from it then I guess it would take away my knowledge of the thing I fear.

4. What do you do to stay young and healthy?

I was until a couple of years ago keenly cycling, although not in a racing context at all.  A couple of days a week I'd commute to work, 15 miles each way and at a weekend maybe a 50-60 mile social paced ride.  With the diagnosis I've put that on hold.  Instead I try to eat in moderation (although not too religiously) and when I walk it's fairly briskly.  I like to think I'm still capable and not too much of a couch potato.

5. Do you think your pee kink will remain as you age? Or do you think older people lose their kinks over time?

I know that my sexual energy is declining slightly - those spontaneous embarrassing erections for example, but I'm a wholehearted believer that making love isn't about a wham, bam ram-raid of a rock hard penis into a hole.  I'm just as happy delivering pleasure and then enjoying my moment after.  My pee kink is a hidden pleasure though, so more based on on-line material and private imagined fantasy.  I can't see that declining, although I already am a little more picky about the imagery I enjoy.  I think that's more just over-exposure to some content and hence finding the novelty in others.  I do find my interests swing about and hopefully that will continue.  I'm also more confident as time goes on, more willing to reply to a comment for example and less inclined to be shy - so that can't be a bad thing can it.

6. What do you look forward to getting older

I'm seeing some of those things now to be honest - son is at university, and life can be more spontaneous.  Weekend breaks away and days out without too much planning or coordination.  Paying off our mortgage is in sight - or was until I bought a newer car last week.  That would open doors to a number of things, including earlier retirement and the extra income to support travel, a slightly more lavish lifestyle and the like.

My apologies, Goose for not responding to your deep, thoughtful post for months.

Getting drunk is something that has changed as I age. It used to be I would drink to dance all night. Now I drink to talk all night and sleep in the next day.😆

Yes, the Covid times made me think of the possibility of death for me and my family. Weird times. 

I am so sorry you lost your Dad. It really does bring you kicking and screaming into reality. As you know my Dad has been in hospital there was talk of “end of life plans” for him. But he has been sent home, though they might need to put handrails and ramps in the house. He was a fit man in his youth….running, windsurfing, canoeing, renovating houses. He drank way too much alcohol, which has wrecked his body though….we reap what we sow. 

Surgery…even just the word is scary. For grown ups, for kids, everyone is keen to avoid it if they can. It takes an enormous amount of bravery. But we are lucky that modern medicine can fix up most of the issues humans are dealt. 

I agree, High School was terrible. I loved the freedom of being in the real world. You have more control over your own happiness. 

Being a parent is definitely a different life to the single life. It is hard work, and does give you grey hairs, but so much joy too! 

Walking and cycling seem to be popular in the UK. It is good that you have land that is easy to walk and cycle on. Our terrain can be a little brutal….though I have heard about your potholes! 

I think imagination is the best thing ever. It means I can have wet fun with any PeeFan who’ll put up with me, and there are no consequences! The imagery, feelings and sexual energy is absolutely real and shared and special though. PeeFans is a magic place. 

Travel is definitely a worthwhile goal to aim for. See you down under soon! 

Thank you so much for your reply. 💚

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On 12/11/2022 at 1:38 AM, Sophie said:

1. Do you feel, act, and look your age? Can people guess your age? 

Physically, I feel my age. I'm starting to notice small aches here and there, or I seem to get injuries easier. Only very minor, but they are noticable. I'm still very fit and healthy but I don't bounce as well as I did ten years ago. Mentally? I switch between feeling older and younger depending on what I am doing. At work I tend to feel older than I am and I put that down to stress. I always have a lot going on and it wears me down, I have even found a few grey hairs. But at home I feel younger, I still feel like I am in my early twenties. I still have my sense of humour and I love just letting go and being myself, not caring who sees or what I do. I still find farts funny! I would say I look my age and people could guess it. Besides the odd grey hair I haven't changed a whole lot, and I still occasionally get asked for ID when buying restricted products.

2. What was your favourite age (mine was 12….cruising the streets on my bike in the 80s and playing Atari)

My favourite age was when I was 13/14, I had just started having some independance and feeling like a grown up. I didn't have much to worry about with school and exams and I had a great group of friends. I was happy. Life was good. I have fond memories of just relaxing on the school field with friends, or hanging out in town on our own for the first time in our lives. Things went downhill rather quickly after that and I still haven't fully bounced back. If I had to choose a different age it would be when I was 9. Playing with the other kids on my street, spending every day together during the summer holidays. I don't think I have ever been so happy. I remember those days like it was yesterday. Climbing trees and making dens out of discarded furniture, playing in the farmers field even though our parents said we shouldn't, playing football. The bonfire at my friends house every November, the water fights every summer. Oh to go back to those days...

3. Do you fear getting old? What scares you the most? (For me it is loss of independence, and my husband getting sicker)

I don't fear getting older, it is inevitable and there's nothing I can do about it. I figure I have a long while to go yet so why worry about it? When I do get old my biggest fear is not being able to look after myself and becoming a burden to my family. I don't want them to have to spend their free time looking after me when they should be enjoying themselves instead. I fear not being able to do the things I enjoy because I am physically unable.

4. What do you do to stay young and healthy? (I think being in love helps to keep you young)

I am a vegetarian, I do lots of exercise, I have never smoked and I haven't drank alcohol since 2008. Unfortunately I do not get nearly as much sleep as I should. I think if you look after yourself you will keep young. But I also think you need to be young at heart. Don't change your personality just because you are older and that's how society says you should act. Laugh at the same silly jokes you did 20 years ago, be a big kid again. Growing old is mandatory, growing up is optional!

5. Do you think your pee kink will remain as you age? Or do you think older people lose their kinks over time? 

I think my pee kink will remain as I age but I might act on it less as I get older. I will still enjoy watching the videos and looking at photos but I think I will go out and indulge a little less as I get older. Or it could go the other way, I might act on it more as I stop caring what people think about me and I start taking more risks.

6. What do you look forward to getting older (I look forward to a quiet, tidy, kid-free house where I can read, pee where I like, and make love anywhere, anytime). 

I look forward to retiring and enjoying a quiet life, not having to worry about work anymore, and my kids being old enough to look after themselves. I look forward to being able to relax and not worry about anything, having all the time in the world to enjoy the things I want to do, having time to be me.

Living in a house full of blokes, farts are a major form of comedy in our place.

Yes, there is nothing like the freedom of being a kid. Some of my favourite memories are camping and exploring bushland and the coast with my cousins and playing cards and board games. And yes, swimming and water fights! And riding my bike everywhere and climbing trees. 

I am a veggie too. I do think it helps you stay young. I don’t smoke, only drink occasionally because I have expensive tastes. I find family life robs me of sleep! Thank you so much for your reply. 💚

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On 4/1/2023 at 11:40 AM, MidoriLemonade85 said:

You do give off a very youthful vibe. I definitely agree with no. 3. I don’t want to be unable to enjoy life, and would not want to use up resources, so I would prefer the peace of death than the anguish of a drawn out terminal illness. No. 6 is so true…I look forward to the kids moving out and having some time to relax and travel. Even things that I just don’t get time to do, like the beach and library sound great. All I do is work! 

Well I try to stay as young as I can and do as much as I can.   Unfortunately retirement is still more than a decade away and the way the government keep moving the goal posts it could be longer especially as I still have a large mortgage!!   My daughter left home for university 3 years ago but I still end up being too busy to do many of the things that I'd like to do although my wife and I do get to do things together.   I'd still like to have more time to do some of the things that I've not done but would like to do such as going to festivals and I wish I was young enough to fit in better and have a group of friends that would like to go to places like nightclubs.   My wife is not interested in doing any of those things and she would find it odd for me to want to go and do them on my own - although I might try and do a festival this year.    THe other problem is that I'm always very busy with other commitments on the weekends.

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In fact, it's normal. Not so long ago my mid-life crisis ended and I've moved on. Of course I am afraid of old age and death, but in general I have coped with this thought

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On 12/9/2022 at 11:11 AM, MidoriLemonade85 said:

, I have some questions for you….

1. Do you feel, act, and look your age? Can people guess your age?

I'm 64,  and definitely feel like it,  but don't always act like a typical old person.   I've never asked anyone to guess my age,  but I think my looks are fairly typical for age.

On 12/9/2022 at 11:11 AM, MidoriLemonade85 said:

2. What was your favourite age (mine was 12….cruising the streets on my bike in the 80s and playing Atari)

My favorite age was from 29 to 35.  At 29 I had surgery to fix a disability that had made life very difficult since I was 15.   That made it possible for me to learn to fly and qualify to fly small planes before I turned 30.  For the next few years my life revolved around a flying club.  I met some good friends in those years.

On 12/9/2022 at 11:11 AM, MidoriLemonade85 said:

3. Do you fear getting old? What scares you the most? (For me it is loss of independence, and my husband getting sicker)

Definitely loss of independence for me too.  I also fear the possibility of dementia,  and I dread the thought of ending up in our Dickensian aged care system.

On 12/9/2022 at 11:11 AM, MidoriLemonade85 said:

4. What do you do to stay young and healthy? (I think being in love helps to keep you young)

I don't think being in love is something I can realistically expect from life any more.  (Forgive me if I don't develop this point,  it would only sound like a whine.)

To stay healthy I am trying to undo the damage of 40 years behind a desk in a high-stress profession.   In retirement I cook more of my own fresh healthy food,  work on reducing my weight,  and do some mild exercise each day.  I'm  hoping to get some improved physical fitness so that I can do more things.   Fighting back against the early signs of arthritis,  heart disease and so on,  and hopefully keeping them under control.

On 12/9/2022 at 11:11 AM, MidoriLemonade85 said:

5. Do you think your pee kink will remain as you age? Or do you think older people lose their kinks over time? 

Mine has stayed with me for 56 years so far.  I expect it will continue for as long as I have sexual feelings at all.

On 12/9/2022 at 11:11 AM, MidoriLemonade85 said:

6. What do you look forward to getting older (I look forward to a quiet, tidy, kid-free house where I can read, pee where I like, and make love anywhere, anytime). 

I look forward to (perhaps hope for is a better expression) doing more travel.   I like visiting Thailand,  and hope to tour some of the countries in Europe one day.   It would be nice to find a congenial travel companion for the Europe trip.  

 

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14 hours ago, Xanthous Gaze said:

1. I act my age in my opinion. Most people don't know what to think of me. They either guess to old or too young. 

 

2. Favorite age was 31, did have kids at the time, and I still had a visible 8 pack. After the first one Dad bod kicked in. Nothing I did to get the 8 pack seems as effective. 😭 Damn sympathy and empathy weight, damnit to hell😬.

 

3. Only thing I dread about getting older is having less energy for everything. And the day I can't walk up a regular flight of stairs. 

 

4. Eat lots of fresh veggies and avoid eating large amounts of sugar. 

5. My kink is a part of my sexual identity, I will take it to my grave. ⚰️🪦

 

6. Possibly having more money than I know what to do with if my investments turn out to be good. Kid or kids will be grown up, I will be able to strut about in my birthday suit again, and people won't say nothing, at least until they start treating me like a child again... some people do that to the elderly. 🙄

Yep family changes everything, doesn’t it? Very cool answers. 💚

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7 hours ago, likesToLick said:

I'm 64,  and definitely feel like it,  but don't always act like a typical old person.   I've never asked anyone to guess my age,  but I think my looks are fairly typical for age.

My favorite age was from 29 to 35.  At 29 I had surgery to fix a disability that had made life very difficult since I was 15.   That made it possible for me to learn to fly and qualify to fly small planes before I turned 30.  For the next few years my life revolved around a flying club.  I met some good friends in those years.

Definitely loss of independence for me too.  I also fear the possibility of dementia,  and I dread the thought of ending up in our Dickensian aged care system.

I don't think being in love is something I can realistically expect from life any more.  (Forgive me if I don't develop this point,  it would only sound like a whine.)

To stay healthy I am trying to undo the damage of 40 years behind a desk in a high-stress profession.   In retirement I cook more of my own fresh healthy food,  work on reducing my weight,  and do some mild exercise each day.  I'm  hoping to get some improved physical fitness so that I can do more things.   Fighting back against the early signs of arthritis,  heart disease and so on,  and hopefully keeping them under control.

Mine has stayed with me for 56 years so far.  I expect it will continue for as long as I have sexual feelings at all.

I look forward to (perhaps hope for is a better expression) doing more travel.   I like visiting Thailand,  and hope to tour some of the countries in Europe one day.   It would be nice to find a congenial travel companion for the Europe trip.  

 

Sounds like you have had an incredible life thus far. 56 years?! Wow! Thailand is amazing and beautiful, isn’t it? Thank you. 💚