WantonLee

I only have two languages to offer:
- German because native tongue,
and
- English because computer games.

My first English teacher was very old school; that learning should be fun was not on his agenda.
I write/type English better then I speak it, and even that only because I can always spell check. Thank you, internet! 😄


My French is practically non-existent at this point.
Apart from a few "merci", "de rien" and "merde" here and there. ^^

19 hours ago, Kupar said:

Well, sometimes you just need to let go of your problem... even if it means it will get warmer then you intended to... .
(If this is a solution to either of the problems... well... your choice. 😉)

* Continues to save some CO2 by riding a bike instead of a car *

22 hours ago, pipi slip said:

I just wanted to share my new underwear that i just bought.

 

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18 hours ago, Overlord said:

 

King of my castle - I remember this one, but only with the visuals from the "Ghost in the Shell" anime.

As for Gunship:
I grew up in the 80's, too. 😄

So I leave this here... for all to hear... and remember:

If you like this song/video, please read their description... I always get emotional when reading it - but positive - and I hope you will, too. 🙂

I am not quite sure if I can help you, but I do ride a bike, if that's what you mean.
I'll try to answer your questions as bast as I can - but most of them don't even make sense to me. ^^

What do you ride?
A bike. 😉

Tell me, how your training is coming along.
What training? o_0

Do you prefer the pain of the climb or the relaxation of the descent?
Descent! 😄

What brands do you prefer, and what are the specs on your bike.
I don't care
and
I don't know.
It's grey and got two wheels, if this helps. ^^

Do you race or just ride for fun and relaxation?
My bike is my car, so I ride to to and from work, shopping and really anything I need to get to that is not to far away.
And I cruising around on weekends for fun, if I feel like it. 🙂

I hope this helps 😉

Have a speedy recovery, Simpfan4 - or better: a profound one! 🙂

On 9/5/2023 at 8:21 AM, Gotah said:

Sometimes I do. I mainly go on hikes from time to time but unfortunately it only helps to a certain extent. I feel fine while I'm doing the activity but once I get home and rest, the dark thoughts usually come back. Not always, but most of the time.

About to hug the pillow, so I will try briefness for a change. 😉

You probably feel fine while hiking because your mind is busy doing other things and have no capacity available for ruminating...?
Just a guess, but would be in accord to what spiritual teachers call "being in the now", which is often achieved while being in a flow.

Try listening to this:

Eckhart Tolle is a spiritual teacher with German roots and I personally consider him one of the best exports of the nation I was born in.

DISCLAIMER:
If you - like me - have a problem with the word "God", be aware that spiritual people have a vastly different idea about the universe and our place in it, in contrast to religious people.
I perceive the spiritual point of view almost as an antithesis to the religious point of view, and - being an atheist - found quite a lot of common ground with them.
It is certainly way more positive and helpful then the dogmatic "OUR God is the only true one and you will burn in hell if you disagree"-fearmongering rhetoric of most religions... . ^^


Best of luck! 🙂

P.S.: Briefness did not work... ah.. maybe next time. 😛

I am not the most successful person in the dating-business, so take my advice with a grain of salt.
Hmm, come to think of it: better with a BAG of salt!

1. Figure out what your absolute no-goes and your must-haves are.
(These might turn out to be less important once you have to deal with them in reality, however.)

2. You are not going to find the perfect partner.
(You and your partner will grow over time based on your individual traits, and how you both are affected by the traits of your respective partner. Do not judge; just notice this. A good relationship is where both partners help each other grow and reach new heights, so to speak.)

3. It is not unusual to not find a suitable partner after a couple of failed relationships.
(Even then your relationship will not be perfect; you and your partner need to be aware of this and be able to talk openly - and non-accusingly - about issues you both have.)

4. If you actually fall in love, the physical appearance is the last thing you notice from your partner.
(Apart from that, the most attractive feature of any human in my opinion is their smile... when it is dedicated to you.)

My most important advice however is this:
Learn who you are - then own who you are.

Meaning:
- what are your character-traits
- what are your good and bad sides
- what do you like and dislike
- what are your strengths and weaknesses

This is who you are.
Do NOT pretend to be someone else, just in order to be liked.
Be open about it. As open as you can.
(Things like your kink are certainly things you should not openly admit; this is very private, and should only be shared when it is time.)

Share some of your weaknesses with others - preferably some things that are not as important (or offending) to others.
Watch their reaction.
People who respond by sharing some of their own weaknesses you should consider spending more time with.
People who disregard you based on your weaknesses you should spend as little time with as possible.

Side-Note in regards to fibromyalgia:
for a couple of years now I am following the channel Dr. Eric Berg DC, to get some additional medical advice.
I personally consider him to be part of the alternative medicine scene.
I use his advice not as an alternative though, but rather complimentary.
(Meaning: additionally to conservative medicine, not in place of.)

This video of him is rather old, and also half click-bait, half outdated:
-> What is Fibromyalgia – Surprising Finding Explained by Dr. Berg

However, the comment-section might give you some ideas what you could do.
Most advice given is from persons also affected; their suggestions are fairly inexpensive and should not interfere with any conventional treatment.
I hope you find something of worth to you there. 🙂

Side-Note in regards to Autism:
I was diagnosed with ADHD last year, and I am about twice your age, so... I am wired as well.
I can not give any advice with autism, however, as it is quite different from ADHD.
But the internet should be full of self help groups, and there a certainly a lot of YouTube-Channels out there with solid advice.
The comment section can be valuable here, too.

I hope this helps.
Do not worry.
25 is still fairly young... you are about half my age and already know about your neurodiversity.
And knowing about a problem is half the problem solve already! 😉

Good luck! 😄

19 hours ago, steve25805 said:

Just letting you all know that my router is fucked and am awaiting a new one. My laptop will not connect with the internet at all, but an ancient kindle tablet still seems to work _ sort of. But it is hard work. So no pics or much. posting until I am fully back in action.  The bad news is I am waiting on Virgin whose service is often poor and unreliable. I am regretting being one of those Neanderthals without a smart phone right now.

We're not going anywhere, don't worry, Steve. 😉

In regards to smarties... err.. smawt-foams... SMART-PHONES, darn it!... :
I had to get one once I started GeoCaching, currently the main function I use it for is as a WalkMan (that statement dates me, hu? 😉 Could have said "iPod", but I am WAY older :P)
Mostly for podcasts, interviews, audio-plays or -books, but also music of course.

Other then that: I browse news during lunch break or in the tram... and sometimes WhatsApp.
Thats it.

The only social media I partake in is You Tube, and I do that from home.


For me the phone is just another tool.

If you really wanna get one, make sure to not get it from your phone company.
I had a colleague once how lost ALL communication because something went wrong with the billing... so they cut him of.
He had no phone, no internet, no mobile phone - nothing.

Lesson learned - don't put all of your eggs in one basket. 🙂

And think twice about getting Apple; watch Louis Rossmann (aka Rossmann repair group) if you wanna know more!
(I know their products are not bad per se, but the company itself is a different story... see above.)


I keep the fingers crossed for you getting a new router. 😉

13 hours ago, likesToLick said:

It actually got me wondering if the name "Space Shuttle" is a direct derivation from the flying shuttles on a power loom.  I suspect it is,  given that we have intermediate examples like "shuttle bus" and also the "shuttlecock" used in the game of Badminton,   all being things that go back and forth.

P.S. Are you saying that English is not your birth language?   I would never have guessed that.  If so,  you speak it very well indeed.    I have tried to learn three other languages,  and I am terrible at all of them.  I'd certainly be hopeless at trying to understand subtle humour and puns.

I have heard the same about the Shuttle, too.

As for my English:
I am learning it for... more then 35 years by now; I learned most of it from Video games and some TV-Series I watched first in German, and then in English (often at the same evening).
And without Firefox's autocorrect my written English would be far worse. ^^

But SOME pun's I do get:

15 hours ago, likesToLick said:

Yes,  I wouldn't have much confidence in anything that that customer was building/making. 

Glad to see 5 people got the joke.   The "warp and weft" pun above it was not so successful.

Have to admit I did not got that one either and was to lazy to ask and/or google.
Seems like my English is not quite as good as I make myself believe it is. ^^

Mostly clear because more healthy for "every day use".

When it comes to the fetish, yellow... because this is what pee is "supposed" to look like. 😉

12 hours ago, Gotah said:

The voice is definetly there I have however no idea where it could come from. I never had anybody in my life who talked like this to me. I guess this all just me, if that makes sense.

I've been thinking about trying it for years now, maybe this could be a good opportunity to do so 🙂

Well, you can always try and confront the voice and "ask" it, what it wants. 😉

Just use it like you would us any kind of critique:
If it is helpful - by for instance showing me something I am normally not aware of - I usually consider it a friend.
If it is just nagging I literally confront it and ask it if it has a point; it usually disappears then (although it might return later ^^).

As for meditation:
I have no idea what would work for you.

Here is a playlist from Eckhart Tolle:

And this is some interview of a monk Indian-English monk:

(mind the click-bait title; I found it helpful nevertheless.)

Good luck! 😄

On 8/15/2023 at 4:07 PM, Gotah said:

I must admit guys I haven't been in harmony with myself throughout these weeks of summer, and lately I've started to hate myself a little to much to the point where the weight in my chest becomes unbearable.

No one's died, no one's been mean to me, in fact nothing traumatic has happened, life hasn't been unkind to me. I "simply" just don't like who I am right now.

Can you relate to that somehow? Any advice on how I could handle this crisis?

Thank you!

Can you identify the voice in your head?
The one that is hating you.. I assume it talks negative about certain things you do/think/don't do/whatever?

By identifying I mean: where does this voice come from?
Can you remember anyone in your life who talked to you in the same way?
Usually someone in your childhood...?
For me it is often my father talking bad about me.

Well, not literally of course, but... lets say:
my ego - while it was "under construction" during childhood - was to some extend formed by the experiences I had.. by the persons I interacted with... the more present or important that person, the more influential it was in regards to shaping my ego.

I think this is true for most of us.
But we tend to forget that the ego - the voice in our head that constantly comments on everything or talks about something - is not what we are.

It is _part_ of us, but it is not _us_... our consciousness is what we are, and if you have problems understanding this, just realize the your consciousness is what is (or can be) aware of said voice... your thoughts.

I know this sounds all a bit... aloof.
The past months - after being diagnosed with and thus far successfully treated for ADHD - a lot has changed for me.
Amongst other things I appear to have become somewhat more spiritual (don't worry, I am not going to venture into religion, as to me this is almost the opposite of spirituality).

As a closing thought:
do you think meditation is something you would consider helpful?

Anyway, best of luck, 🙂

3 hours ago, toseepee said:

Which philosophy do you follow?

Nietzsche, Diogenes, Kant... in this order, maybe... 😉

On 6/27/2023 at 5:33 AM, Ms. Tito said:

Idk if that says "pee" or "poo" 

Hmm, looks like it was censored after I posted it.

I remember hearing it uncensored, and it was pee. 😉

The first one he reads.... I do not quite get why he says "NO!" ... twice.... 🙂

2 minutes ago, Sophie said:

2003 🙂

TWENTY!

F*CKING!

YEARS!

TWENTY!!!!!!1!!!1!!111!!!one!!eleven!!!!!

It feels like it was just 3 or 4 years ago.... thanks for reminding me.... now here is something for you to feel old as well... even if you are younger 😛

Play this at my funeral.... for me this is the song to end all songs.

o7

4 hours ago, Sophie said:

 

God, I'm old.... I remember when this was new.... on MTV.... o_o

Saltatio Mortis - Alive now (Official Music Video)

21 hours ago, MasterDarcy said:

Meh. You'll have to pay a charge to rephrase me as I've already patented it. 😛

Oh. It's definitely not a hard yes or no question. As with all things, it's nuanced.

Over the years it's been painted as this mythical and magical portal that transcends earthy orgasmic pleasure and turns it into something other-worldly.

Though, there may be pressure points and such, it's highly dubious that women have been born with a hidden nuclear orgasm button. 😛

The clit has double the amount of nerve endings as does a penis. I suggest we focus on the clit instead of getting all "Indiana Jones and the hunt for the G-Spot". 😛

I almost lost it at "hidden nuclear orgasm button" 😉

Anyway, apart from my thinking that "Indiana Jones and the hunt for the G-Spot" would really have been a better 4th iteration of that beloved franchise, all I have left to say is that what I am going to focus on or hunt for, should be up to what ever floats the boat of the lady in question. 🙂

(Considering that I am currently single, make of my take on this issue what ever you want. 😛 )

Cheers! 😄

On 1/28/2023 at 6:51 AM, MasterDarcy said:

No. The G-Spot is a myth.

https://nwhn.org/is-the-g-spot-real/

I find myself on a slight disagreement with your black/white - yes/no-argument.

The article you linked seems to be of the same opinion as I, if I am not mistaken; at least I do not interpret it as a hard "no".

While not in the possession of the necessary... "hardware", I did read quite a lot about this topic.

I think the most problematic aspect of the g-spot is, that Mr. Gräfenberg (who first described this area) did not call it a spot, but rather a zone.

This of course explains a lot of the resulting confusion. 😄

Furthermore, whether or not a lady is getting pleasure from a manipulation of that zone (or area) depends on the individual.

Psychology plays a really big role when it comes to sexuality - as this forum is good proof of - which helps explain why some ladies get pleasure from a stimulation of the g-zone, while others don't.

To give a harsh example: when someone manipulates one of your erogenous zones, you do not necessarily will be aroused.

If that someone - as a person - really turns you off, their attempts will most likely not fall on fertile ground. 😉

Sooo... would you mind if I rephrase your statement of "The G-Spot is a myth." to "The G-Spot is mysterious." ?  😉

(Btw,. the opposite can be true as well. Arousal from stimulating an area which in this case is definitely NOT the g-spot:

https://www.discovermagazine.com/health/tooth-brushing-induced-orgasms-look-ma-no-cavities

I really like the part where it says that she could not reproduce the effect when brushing here teeth, but without tooth-paste.... and the brand of tooth paste did not play a role either.

So.. yeah.... make of that what you want. ^^

In any case, I think it's up to the ladies to decide this question! 😄

Cheers! 🙂

I'm of to bed now... but first.... errr... I will report back if something strange happens in the bathroom. 😉

For all the Furries out there (and those who want to become ones themself):

It's from https://foxes-in-love.tumblr.com/ if soneone wants to know. 🙂

No.

But then again, I am not that much into football to begin with, so I am not the kind of person who's oppinion about the world cup matters.

Then again, again, considering that the main source of the Quatari legislation is the Sharia law... well.. let's say that my view of the world is not ... compatible enough to consider their justice system just.