I can relate where you're coming from Pete; slightly different reason for me though. Sadly, I lost my wife to ovarian cancer three years ago. Although she wasn't "really" into it, she would indulge me and we'd play so as to keep the spice going between us until she got very sick.
I'm finally getting the want to be with someone again after mourning her these many years. So when I do eventually get to meet & be with someone again, THIS WILL NOT BE the deciding factor for me. I want to get to genuinely know her on a personal level; find out what makes her laugh, what makes her sad, wha