Arousing or disgusting

[OldPottyGent 13]

Bear with me 'cos I'm still fairly new and shy on here.  For over 60 years now, I've had dreams of finding a pee-partner to bed-wet with me,  but been too shy and reserved to actually find one,  so much to my regret, I've never actually felt the warmth and wet of someone else's pee.  I was brought up as a toddler to think of pee as a taboo topic;  it supposedly being something too dirty and disgusting to discuss.  So even when I reached puberty, I still had no idea what there was under females' dresses or up their skirts,  because it was all too naughty for young boys.

However my always-curious nature eventually led me in my later teens to an unfulfilled fascination about females' equipment and everything about the way they peed;  a fascination I still have 60 years later.    So although I've occasionally indulged in a bit of water-sporting on my own, I've never ever realised my dream of feeling the warmth and wet of a girl's pee on me.  

The question that haunts me slightly is whether when I first feel pee coming from another body,  it will be the same arousing experience I've always been dreaming of,  or might the reality of it with a different flow and smell from an unfamiliar body suddenly revolt and disgust me the way I was originally brainwashed as a toddler to think of it? 

I look on bed-wetting as being an activity rather like sex that I'd only feel comfortable about when  doing it with a partner I'd already got to know well.  A one-night bed-wetting stand with someone unknown wouldn't really qualify as a test to check if it was going to be arousing or disgusting with a better-prepared pee-partner.

Has anyone here experienced the difference between long-term dreaming of bed-wetting, and actually doing it with a real partner for the first time?  

 

[gldenwetgoose 21,487]

I may be wrong, but I think that in our minds, our absolute fascination with pee have created the situation where the attractiveness of a pee experience is directly related to the attractiveness of the person delivering it.

Let me give a few examples:  I'm hugely attracted (obsessed even) with female pee.  That said there have been experiences and cases where I've witnessed or overheard events which have done absolutely nothing for me.  Seeing a lady with learning difficulties wet herself in a park whilst her carer tried to get her to a toilet - total turnoff. A supermarket cashier desperately calling for a supervisor and making no secret of her absolute desperation - I didn't find her attractive and also the event didn't do much for me.

But on the other hand, seeing a slim blonde apprentice who used to work with my wife standing in our kitchen with legs crossed admitting she needed a wee, or knowing that a friend's wife was just behind a stone wall having a pee... Much lesser experiences visually but knowing that I had an attraction to those people made it such a trouser-bulging experience.

So, in your case - if you found yourself in the circumstances of the right lady, someone you could enjoy the company of, in the right context of building up to it - I suspect your toddler conditioning would be the furthest thing from your mind.  Hoping that's the case anyway, and hoping you get to put the theory to the test.

[OldPottyGent 13]

Thanks for that.   Your two turn-off examples do help to put a slightly different useful light on the scene,  but I suspect initial physical attraction, although significant,  doesn't  necessarily have to be the only decider.   I'd tend to put it nearer 50-50% where for example a pee partner's known enthusiasm for water-sporting could make up for her not being quite so attractive,  or on the other hand not every good-looker will be happy participating in golden showers and some might need to be dragged into it rather reluctantly at first.      My idealistic dream pee-partner is a girl who shares a good part of both her mind and body with me.

[Alfresco 11,631]

On 5/20/2021 at 1:52 PM, OldPottyGent said:

The question that haunts me slightly is whether when I first feel pee coming from another body,  it will be the same arousing experience I've always been dreaming of,  or might the reality of it with a different flow and smell from an unfamiliar body suddenly revolt and disgust me the way I was originally brainwashed as a toddler to think of it? 

I think that because you will be planning it and building up to it, you will be excited and will love the experience.   I know that when my wife pees for me, or even mentions the possibility of peeing for me, it is something that turns me on like nothing else.   When I first felt her pee I was fascinated and felt honoured that she was sharing with me and definitely not at all disgusted. 

On 5/20/2021 at 5:36 PM, gldenwetgoose said:

I may be wrong, but I think that in our minds, our absolute fascination with pee have created the situation where the attractiveness of a pee experience is directly related to the attractiveness of the person delivering it.

For me, that is definitely a factor and I'd be excited much more by a drunk young lady peeing in a side street than an old lady who was not able to make it to a toilet.   I think for me it is not just about the person though - it is about the situation.   Similar to your mentioned situations, a person who is seriously struggling and is effectively forced to wet herself and then gets embarrassed is not a turn on - instead I feel sorry for them.   However, someone who is having a great time partying and is uninhibited enough to pee in public is great.  Same with someone who is out walking and accepts that peeing outside is part of the day.   

Then of course an intimate relationship where peeing is part of the fun takes it to a whole next level as both people are willing participants and potentially one is doing it to please the other.   That is the best situation.

On 5/20/2021 at 1:52 PM, OldPottyGent said:

I look on bed-wetting as being an activity rather like sex that I'd only feel comfortable about when  doing it with a partner I'd already got to know well. 

That fits with my last paragraph above.   I would agree - something intimate like this would be something I'd only want to do with someone I was very close to - in fact, in my situation, only my wife.   Although I'd happily watch another girl pee the bed, I wouldn't ever be in the situation where I would be participating with other girls.

[Kupar 13,339]

On 5/20/2021 at 1:52 PM, OldPottyGent said:

The question that haunts me slightly is whether when I first feel pee coming from another body,  it will be the same arousing experience I've always been dreaming of,  or might the reality of it with a different flow and smell from an unfamiliar body suddenly revolt and disgust me the way I was originally brainwashed as a toddler to think of it? 

To answer this very specific point, I can only speak from my very limited experience of having a wife who relatively recently (in the last couple of years) has been happy to indulge my desire for pee play with her. I can say that the experience was as erotic as I had hoped it would be, and more, and there was absolutely no disgust about her flow and smell. In part, perhaps, that's because we've been very open with peeing in each other's presence (not for erotic stimulation or amusement) for some 30 years before turning it into something that on occasion is sexual (let's face it, peeing isn't sexy every time).

However, my enjoyment is very highly modulated by my wife's pleasure: if she's not enjoying it, then I can't either. That has resulted in some aspects of pee play - such as her wetting - being parked (possibly to be returned to, possibly not) and others being explored and developed further (e.g., golden showers, shared peeing into a bucket, watching her pee standing up etc). When she's having fun, then I 'm having fun and getting aroused, even if she doesn't get aroused. Fun is the key between us. Does that help?

[shonpen22 1]

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