CraftyPee

7 hours ago, Alfresco said:

Hi @CraftyPee and welcome to the forums.   Firstly, I would like to say that I'm impressed by your supportive approach and the way that you have come here to try and find out more.  It is a refreshing response to discovering your husband's interests.

By all means, read some forums to see what different people are interested in and I'm sure that, as others have said, there will be many things on here that are not in your husband's interest, so don't for a minute think that just because they are here means that he will be interested in all of them.

From what you have said, your husband likes to see other ladies peeing - particularly in places that are not classed as standard places to pee (i.e. toilets).  I don't know whether he is someone who takes opportunities to actually see ladies pee or whether he enjoys pictures, stories or videos and you don't say whether these places are catching girls peeing outdoors or girls who deliberately pee in "naughty" places like store fitting rooms, hotel rooms or such like.   I can tell you that I am one who enjoys seeing ladies pee away from the toilet.   I have seen girls peeing outside after a night out on the town, by the sides of cars, whilst out walking and other outdoor activies and I love seeing all of these.  I have also enjoyed watching videos of girls peeing in hotels and fitting rooms or off boats into water for example.

It is very difficult to explain the interest, so I get why your husband says that he can't fully explain it.   For me, I am fascinated by the many different ways that ladies pee - the different types of stream, the different angles, the different ways they position themselves to squat or even stand when peeing.   I love seeing the different attitudes of ladies - some are very reserved and would only risk peeing outside when they were about to wet themselves and even then they would walk for half an hour to find somewhere totally hidden, whilst others will be in a kebab shop, pop outside the door and flood the pavement just because they feel the need to pee.  Some are discrete, some are open about it.   It is a lot about the psychology as well as actually seeing them pee.

I should also point out that it is not necessary to see the source of the pee to make it of interest.  I.e. it is not necessarily about seeing the lady's intimate parts, but is more about the action.   The vast majority of girls that I have seen manage to pee without showing off too much, but I still love to see them - even if it is more or less just a dark shape of a person squatted in a dark corner making a puddle on the tarmac of a side street.   If my wife pees in the pool or a hot tub, I can't see anything, but if she tells me that she is doing it then I'm immediately excited by it. 

Yes, if someone is more visible and pees in daylight with their bum and/or vagina on show then I enjoy that immensely as well, but the peeing is more important than the girls body.

It also (for me) even extends to knowing that a girl has peed somewhere, even if I didn't see it happen.  Seeing a puddle with a tissue in it, or seeing a couple of girls come out of a remote stairwell in a carpark and then going in to find two fresh puddles on the first landing is great.  Yes, I'd rather have caught them in the act, but just seeing the puddle is enough and seeing who left the puddle is even better.   

I don't know if that helps, but if you think my kind of pee interest matches your husbands then I'd be more than happy to answer questions - if you want to keep it a bit private then I am happy for you to private message me or feel free to tag me in here so that I see that you've asked me. (if you don't know how to tag someone, type the "@" symbol and then the name you want.

I hope that you manage to explore his interest and maybe you'll even be able to have fun together.

My wife knows about my interests, but doesn't share them to the same level.  However, she is willing to indulge me from time to time by peeing outside herself, or letting me watch her pee over the bath for example.  I don't know your own views on peeing outside of a toilet, but I bet if you were to offer to pee somewhere other than a toilet for your husband, he would be over the moon.

@Alfresco he had mentioned a time or two about me peeing outside when we had been out drinking, but I didn’t think about it. Now that I know, I know why he just casually mentioned it. I feel bad that I didn’t indulge sooner because it made him feel like something was wrong with him. I never want him to feel that way. We all have something that we like that others consider weird, so I wouldn’t make anyone feel that way intentionally.

He is more along the lines of catching and seeing women peeing outside where they wouldn’t normally pee. Doesn’t necessarily have to see the act as you said. 

Since I have been open and enjoying it with him, he enjoys hearing about the times I have peed outside in my days before him and those conversations always end delightfully! 🔥 

I have even stopped on the way home from work and FaceTimed him so he could watch. I am fully open to it with him. 

20 minutes ago, PissOnMyParade said:

For me, it's not about the humiliation side of it at all. It's more to do with how intimate it is and how it feels over my skin. I also like the way pee catches the light when done a well lit area, and it especially looks and feels erotic to me when I'm covered in it from head to toe.

I have to say though it's sad that your husband felt the need to keep his fetish hidden from you as if he thought you would react badly to you telling him about it or as if he feared that you'd no longer feel able to satisfy him. I think this maybe points to a bigger problem in your relationship which should be discussed privately between the two of you.

You deserve huge credit for looking for advice rather than getting angry. You have a very understanding attitude and that is something to be commended.

The reason he kept it to himself was because his first wife responded horribly. She told him he was weird and gross and when they divorced she held it over his head and said she was going to tell everyone so they would shame him. He didn’t know how I would respond. Once we talked about it and I told him I was open to everything, he has opened up tremendously. It has been great. 
 

I hope more husbands see this and decide to talk to their wives about it. I also hope more wives are open and decide to join. 

14 minutes ago, gldenwetgoose said:

That's good to hear.  I think the most important message for him is that you aren't going to laugh or belittle him, and that it's ok.  In time you can jointly discuss and understand what aspects of the kink appeal to him.  Sometimes just pillow talk around discussing fantasies can be as hot as actually participating in them.

Once he opened up to me and we talked about it, he realized that I am here for him no matter what. Pillow talk about it was hot and that was when he fully realized that I was open to his kink. I am a very jealous person, which he knows, but for some reason it absolutely turns me on to think about him watching another female. Physical touching someone else is another story and not allowed and he agrees to that. He is opening up more and more and I fully see us venturing more into this kink together. 

7 minutes ago, gldenwetgoose said:

Hi and welcome to the forum.   It sounds a really unique situation and I hope we can satisfy your curiosity and concerns.

The main thing to say is as has been said already, we all have very subtly (or wider) differing interests. You will see things her that may shock you - but that doesn't necessarily mean they are aspects of this fetish that your husband is into.  Obviously I can't speak for your husband - but I can genuinely understand his being truthful when he has trouble explaining his motivation.

In my case it was a gradual fascination that has grown from (I think) a childhood experience, fuelled by a few more instances and the passage of time.  I will also say, in my case I'm similar to your husband in that this is a sole outlet for me - but I am very sure that I don't let it come between my marital relationship.  I guess what I mean by that is please don't assume that your husband has this involvement with all of us because of something missing from his 'real' life.

What you will (I hope) be struck by is that we are a very caring and respectful forum - I hope you'll have seen that in your husband's interactions.  I also hope that you are able to together work through this issue - ideally sharing together and building a common basis to take your marriage forwards. I'd hate to think of anyone using the site to gather evidence leading to the failure of a relationship.

In summary I probably haven't really answered any of your questions - but we're here to try and do so.

Thank you so much! I have absolutely no intentions to gather evidence and fail our marriage. Quite the opposite in fact. I truly never knew he had this interest, but since I do, I intend to allow him to have an outlet. I can see that this forum is very respectful and I appreciate that. 

Hey everyone! I am new here and I am the wife of a pee fan on this forum. I have been in the dark about my husband's desire to see females peeing in the places that you would not expect and places that are unnatural to see females peeing. I stumbled across some chats he had from members and forced him to open up to me but he is unable to fully open up. So now that I know about this, I want to understand my husband's fascination more. What are some things that I need to know or can anyone explain it better to me?