I am sure there are ladies who secretly pee, then tell their partner they squirted, but i do agree it is not something you should impose on someone who is not into it. 

Very wisely put. 

thanks 😘

That’s all for making this map so successful! we have so many great markers on here so far, let’s keep going!

I believe my favorite story ever is Ellie by LeoDaVinci, and I'd consider it full of elements of cheating. In a way that doesn't make me feel bad. Do I find cheating hot? Not really. Not in itself. But in stories, I like strong women who do what they feel like and cheating can be an element to push the point and make it clear she's out for having fun without second thoughts. So I like some stories where cheating is part of the plot, and I even have some of it in my own stories (e.g. my in Tribute series, the husband and employer and stepfather does get involved with his wife's daughter's tutor, falling for her scheming despite being married). In real life, it's like @Remi and @MidoriLemonade85 said: 1) What is cheating? Everyone have their own definition, and it is important for couples to get clear about it. In my eyes, I must respect my partner's definition, it is part of the contract. I get to live with her under those conditions she set out. And she gets to be with me under the conditions I define. If both agree, that is the common ground for long happy years together. If not, it might be better to look for someone else. 2) Most societies have established life-long matrimony as a standard. That is long. Living together this long means being honest. Honest also that there are more people that are sexy, attractive or otherwise interesting. Sharing one's preferences. Accepting the partner's kinks and allowing them a way to manage them. Every couple will find their own mechanism to cope (or not). To me, monogamy is a necessity of societal peace. It is like democracy: the least bad choice among forms of living together. It permits (nearly) everyone to find a partner, it allows us to relax once we have one without being permanently chasing off rivals, it gives us peace of mind for our long-term future and for raising our kids. But it also limits our panoply of sexual choices and experiences. It is a bit like eating the same (favorite) meal every day. Some might wish for variation after a while of indulging. It's normal. And depending on the couple, it might be deemed ok in certain circumstances. Others might prefer not to. Personnally, I don't think I'm immune to cheating. I might not resist temptation. But I'm willing to respect a partner's desire for monopoly upon my body and try my best not to deceive this trust. And I'd never live with the secret - if it happened, I'd tell her. She's a right to know and decide what consequences arise from it. After all, there are also risks involved, STDs and so on.