bungholio69 273 Posted October 1, 2022 Author Share Posted October 1, 2022 Well it’s getting cold on the count of fall where I I’m and I still kinda wish that I had a person to cuddle with. Oh well, I’m alright with just cuddling my pillow with a heating pad but still it’s nice to fantasize having a warm body to cuddle against you at night either it be platonic or romantic. 3 Quote Link to post
Peenicks 853 Posted October 1, 2022 Share Posted October 1, 2022 (edited) Fall & Winter snuggles are the best! Like @Bacardi mentioned already, my biggest hurdle with cuddling comfortably is temperature control. I usually have a fan going in my bedroom for ambient noise even in the colder seasons, so I use that to cool us off when I can but usually that means leaving the cuddle to get up and aim the fan and that's no fun. According to the Love Languages quiz I'm pm tied between "quality time" and "physical touch" for my primary love language, so you know I'm a cuddler. And personally I think platonic cuddling/snuggling should just be more commonplace in general. Like after a long day out and about I might rest my head on my friend's breasts or thighs or vice versa but I obviously don't mean anything by it and they don't take it as such. Same with a nice warm comforting hug or even a peck on the cheek Edited October 1, 2022 by Peenicks 4 Quote Link to post
Kupar 12,313 Posted October 1, 2022 Share Posted October 1, 2022 5 minutes ago, Peenicks said: According to the Love Languages quiz I'm pm tied between "quality time" and "physical touch" for my primary love language, so you know I'm a cuddler. Ooh! I just did the 5 Love Languages quiz yesterday (not seen it before - thank you @MidoriLemonade85!) and my primary language came out as 'physical touch' too (33%). It says: "This language isn't all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face – they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive. Physical touch fosters a sense of security and belonging in any relationship." 1 1 Quote Link to post
Peenicks 853 Posted October 1, 2022 Share Posted October 1, 2022 (edited) 10 minutes ago, Kupar said: Ooh! I just did the 5 Love Languages quiz yesterday (not seen it before - thank you @MidoriLemonade85!) and my primary language came out as 'physical touch' too (33%). It says: "This language isn't all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face – they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive. Physical touch fosters a sense of security and belonging in any relationship." Yeah! I'm super touchy feely myself. But by some cruel twist of fate I'm also super ticklish like... everywhere. This basically means I love giving affirmative touches to people whenever possible but I can't take em' as well as I would like to in a lot of cases 🥲. Like I just wanna be a scantily clad little spoon but I'm too easy to accidentally tickle in that position (and also I toss & turn like a motherfucker when I sleep, God cursing me yet again) so I have to be a layered-up big spoon 😭 (which also leads back to the issue of getting too hot) Edited October 1, 2022 by Peenicks 2 Quote Link to post
oliver2 3,889 Posted October 1, 2022 Share Posted October 1, 2022 25 minutes ago, Peenicks said: Yeah! I'm super touchy feely myself. But by some cruel twist of fate I'm also super ticklish like... everywhere. (Touches @Peenicks on shoulder) Hi! (… @Peenicks collapses giggling) 1 Quote Link to post
oliver2 3,889 Posted October 1, 2022 Share Posted October 1, 2022 36 minutes ago, Kupar said: "This language isn't all about the bedroom… No, you can do it on the sofa or on the kitchen table, or … oh, no, that wasn’t where this is going Smutty innuendo aside (is innuendo a love language? What about playfulness? Are body fluids a love language? 💦🥰), I’m 100% agreed with @bungholio about the value of someone to cuddle, especially on a chill autumn (fall) or winter night 1 Quote Link to post
Peenicks 853 Posted October 1, 2022 Share Posted October 1, 2022 10 minutes ago, oliver2 said: (Touches @Peenicks on shoulder) Hi! (… @Peenicks collapses giggling) I hate that you're probably right, lol 😭 I dunno why I'm so sensitive tho. Apparently ticklishness is more prominent in people with self-consciousness, shyness, or those who are just generally defensive when it comes to body image. So maybe I just need to be more confident when cuddling, idk 🤷🏽♀️ Quote Link to post
Kupar 12,313 Posted October 1, 2022 Share Posted October 1, 2022 18 minutes ago, oliver2 said: is innuendo a love language? What about playfulness? Are body fluids a love language? Maybe they are dialects of one or other of the five languages 🙂 1 1 Quote Link to post
Kupar 12,313 Posted October 1, 2022 Share Posted October 1, 2022 53 minutes ago, Peenicks said: Yeah! I'm super touchy feely myself. But by some cruel twist of fate I'm also super ticklish like... everywhere. This basically means I love giving affirmative touches to people whenever possible but I can't take em' as well as I would like to in a lot of cases 🥲. Like I just wanna be a scantily clad little spoon but I'm too easy to accidentally tickle in that position (and also I toss & turn like a motherfucker when I sleep, God cursing me yet again) so I have to be a layered-up big spoon 😭 (which also leads back to the issue of getting too hot) That's too bad! I feel for you. Not literally obviously, as that would cause more problems. 3 Quote Link to post
oliver2 3,889 Posted October 1, 2022 Share Posted October 1, 2022 10 minutes ago, Peenicks said: I hate that you're probably right, lol 😭 I dunno why I'm so sensitive tho. Apparently ticklishness is more prominent in people with self-consciousness, shyness, or those who are just generally defensive when it comes to body image. So maybe I just need to be more confident when cuddling, idk 🤷🏽♀️ You could have an oversize t-shirt which says on the front “cuddle me gently, I’m ticklish” and says on the back “Fuck me within inches of my life”. But don’t wear it without underwear, you might get cum on the bedclothes* * love language: reverse psychology 1 2 Quote Link to post
Bacardi 9,010 Posted October 1, 2022 Share Posted October 1, 2022 2 hours ago, Peenicks said: According to the Love Languages quiz I'm pm tied between "quality time" and "physical touch" for my primary love language, so you know I'm a cuddler. I guess this is where our similarities differ lol. I'm not really one for physical affection, but I love to take care of people. I have always been the mom friend who makes sure people are good. Especially when it comes to cooking. I love to cook, and this is my favorite time of year because it's cooking and get together season lol. Halloween I always throw a small party for my family with lots of little snacks and fun foods (this year I'm doing mummy hot dogs!), then November is Thanksgiving where I'm gonna throw a feast like I always do, and Christmas morning we're doing ✨️brunch✨️ to be fancy lol. I always give an open invitation to anyone of my friends and family that I actually know to come and join us because it just feels really good to me. 1 2 Quote Link to post
wannawatchuwiggle 125 Posted October 1, 2022 Share Posted October 1, 2022 Thanks for bringing up that quiz, folks! Fun and insightful. 👍 1 Quote Link to post
Peenicks 853 Posted October 1, 2022 Share Posted October 1, 2022 5 hours ago, Bacardi said: I guess this is where our similarities differ lol. I'm not really one for physical affection, but I love to take care of people. I have always been the mom friend who makes sure people are good. Especially when it comes to cooking. I love to cook, and this is my favorite time of year because it's cooking and get together season lol. Halloween I always throw a small party for my family with lots of little snacks and fun foods (this year I'm doing mummy hot dogs!), then November is Thanksgiving where I'm gonna throw a feast like I always do, and Christmas morning we're doing ✨️brunch✨️ to be fancy lol. I always give an open invitation to anyone of my friends and family that I actually know to come and join us because it just feels really good to me. That sounds amazing! I could never pull off the mom friend role, too much responsibility and my actual mom friend pulls it off so much better, but I would definitely love to do more cooking. I can't make much beyond pasta, grilled cheese, and slabs of meat, lol. Sounds like your primary love language would be "acts of service" if I were to guess 😘 2 Quote Link to post
Peenicks 853 Posted October 1, 2022 Share Posted October 1, 2022 7 hours ago, oliver2 said: You could have an oversize t-shirt which says on the front “cuddle me gently, I’m ticklish” and says on the back “Fuck me within inches of my life”. But don’t wear it without underwear, you might get cum on the bedclothes* * love language: reverse psychology That's a fantastic idea! I checked the web to see if there was anything like it, alas there wasn't, but I did find an... interesting alternative. 1 Quote Link to post
bungholio69 273 Posted October 1, 2022 Author Share Posted October 1, 2022 I took the quiz and my leading love language is quality time at about 33% while my second highest love language is obviously physical touch at around 30%. so basically I love spending time with the people I care about and also giving them physical affection if they want that. 1 Quote Link to post
Peenicks 853 Posted October 1, 2022 Share Posted October 1, 2022 10 minutes ago, bungholio69 said: I took the quiz and my leading love language is quality time at about 33% while my second highest love language is obviously physical touch at around 30%. so basically I love spending time with the people I care about and also giving them physical affection if they want that. Hey, we match! I love getting to the stage in a relationship where you don't feel like you need to be impressing them or stress over keeping them interested in you. I realize that probably makes me sound selfish but I just think it's nice to have people to do nothing in particular with. Just lounge around, quietly read or work, watch TV, play games, shoot the shit, and pass the time. It just eases your mind to be around one another, it's nice! 1 Quote Link to post
bungholio69 273 Posted October 1, 2022 Author Share Posted October 1, 2022 1 hour ago, Peenicks said: Hey, we match! I love getting to the stage in a relationship where you don't feel like you need to be impressing them or stress over keeping them interested in you. I realize that probably makes me sound selfish but I just think it's nice to have people to do nothing in particular with. Just lounge around, quietly read or work, watch TV, play games, shoot the shit, and pass the time. It just eases your mind to be around one another, it's nice! I agree with that statement along with the feeling that you can say stuff to them without being judged by them and they also feel comfortable about telling you stuff that they wouldn’t really tell anyone else besides you. 1 1 Quote Link to post
bungholio69 273 Posted October 1, 2022 Author Share Posted October 1, 2022 Just now, bungholio69 said: I agree with that statement along with the feeling that you can say stuff to them without being judged by them and they also feel comfortable about telling you stuff that they wouldn’t really tell anyone else besides you. Like one time I kinda told a small story in a thread on this website how I told my best friend that I have a thing for women pissing and stuff and he was chill about it and wasn’t weirded out or anything by the fact I was sexually into this stuff. 1 1 Quote Link to post
MidoriLemonade85 1,856 Posted October 1, 2022 Share Posted October 1, 2022 13 hours ago, Kupar said: Ooh! I just did the 5 Love Languages quiz yesterday (not seen it before - thank you @MidoriLemonade85!) and my primary language came out as 'physical touch' too (33%). It says: "This language isn't all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face – they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive. Physical touch fosters a sense of security and belonging in any relationship." Doesn’t surprise me, Kupar. You come across as such a wonderfully sensory, affectionate person. Hugs are definitely your thing. Make sure K does the quiz too. 💞 Hugs are the absolute best. 4 Quote Link to post
Euro 310 Posted October 1, 2022 Share Posted October 1, 2022 Yes to OP bungholio69 and all A snuggle and cuddle is a V warm and neutral thing, sometimes sexy sometimes not, just warm and good I'm lucky enough to have that luxury mostly, and it is a really important human thing. For me the idea of having to have a sexual category assigned to the emotions I feel is rather a ??? Thing? Sooooo Yes, Yes, Yes Just do it and enjoy There is no Black & White, just shades of grey and if you are lucky Some colour too 🙂 xx 3 Quote Link to post
Kupar 12,313 Posted October 2, 2022 Share Posted October 2, 2022 9 hours ago, MidoriLemonade85 said: Make sure K does the quiz too. She did! And she also comes out with "Physical Touch" first (29%), then "Acts of Service" second (26%). My second language was "Words of Affirmation" (23%) - which didn't surprise her lol. 2 Quote Link to post
MidoriLemonade85 1,856 Posted October 2, 2022 Share Posted October 2, 2022 51 minutes ago, Kupar said: She did! And she also comes out with "Physical Touch" first (29%), then "Acts of Service" second (26%). My second language was "Words of Affirmation" (23%) - which didn't surprise her lol. Awww. What a perfect team you make. 💚💚💚 1 1 Quote Link to post
MidoriLemonade85 1,856 Posted October 3, 2022 Share Posted October 3, 2022 On 10/1/2022 at 1:23 PM, bungholio69 said: Well it’s getting cold on the count of fall where I I’m and I still kinda wish that I had a person to cuddle with. Oh well, I’m alright with just cuddling my pillow with a heating pad but still it’s nice to fantasize having a warm body to cuddle against you at night either it be platonic or romantic. We are all here for a virtual cuddle with you whenever. 😊💞 There is nothing that beats human warmth though, obviously. Many times though, if I am desperate to hug someone, I have developed my imagination enough to be able to visualise hugging anyone. I have hugged my besties here on PF many times. 1 2 Quote Link to post
MidoriLemonade85 1,856 Posted October 3, 2022 Share Posted October 3, 2022 On 10/1/2022 at 6:39 PM, Peenicks said: Fall & Winter snuggles are the best! Like @Bacardi mentioned already, my biggest hurdle with cuddling comfortably is temperature control. I usually have a fan going in my bedroom for ambient noise even in the colder seasons, so I use that to cool us off when I can but usually that means leaving the cuddle to get up and aim the fan and that's no fun. According to the Love Languages quiz I'm pm tied between "quality time" and "physical touch" for my primary love language, so you know I'm a cuddler. And personally I think platonic cuddling/snuggling should just be more commonplace in general. Like after a long day out and about I might rest my head on my friend's breasts or thighs or vice versa but I obviously don't mean anything by it and they don't take it as such. Same with a nice warm comforting hug or even a peck on the cheek Awww we would make great room mates. 💗 1 1 Quote Link to post
MidoriLemonade85 1,856 Posted October 3, 2022 Share Posted October 3, 2022 On 10/1/2022 at 7:30 PM, oliver2 said: No, you can do it on the sofa or on the kitchen table, or … oh, no, that wasn’t where this is going Smutty innuendo aside (is innuendo a love language? What about playfulness? Are body fluids a love language? 💦🥰), I’m 100% agreed with @bungholio about the value of someone to cuddle, especially on a chill autumn (fall) or winter night I am sure there are many love languages, body fluids included. I would be very happy for my partner to display their love to me with their body fluids. PF may be the only place on the web I could say that without sounding insane. But it is just the way I am. My body speaks the language….the thought of body fluids sends electricity through me so, my body speaks that language even before my brain does anything with it. And I know other people here have a similar physiological reaction. Needs more research! 1 2 Quote Link to post
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