Welcome to the Peefans Pub....

[gldenwetgoose 20,212]

Welcome to the Peefans Pub - pull up a chair by the bar.

Today the Peefans Staff have introduced a clarification on site rule #8, it's an important point around using this site as a gateway to other social media sites.  You can read the rule in detail here.

Whenever I try and explain the reason for this rule and some of the other undesirable behaviour we as Staff try to deal with, I find myself using the analogy of a cosy local pub / bar...

So, good evening and welcome to the Peefans Pub.  As a new visitor, picture yourself having just moved into the neighbourhood and visiting your new local pub for the first time.  You walk through the door and up to the bar.  As you walk in you'll see quite a few people already there, some in small groups chatting, some sitting at tables.  Maybe a few sat on their own.  Hopefully the bar tender and a few of the locals will give you a friendly welcome too.

Now at this point - can you imagine walking in and immediately hitting on a pretty girl or a nice looking guy?  You've been there less than two minutes. You've never met them before, you don't know anything about them - but you immediately assume they're just waiting for you to pick them up. Immediately assume they're going to swoon and fall at your feet or whip off their underwear as soon as you've made eye contact?

No - unlikely?  Of course it's unlikely in real life, but it does happen.  Usually of course the bar staff will have an eye out for their regulars and anyone that undesirable would be shown the door pretty quickly.  It's exactly the same here.  We do from time to time get the odd new member strutting onto the site and immediately making very much the wrong impression. Thinking this is a dating site and everyone is a piece of meat for their taking. They also get shown the exit very quickly.

Also continuing the analogy, imagine you've got your first drink and you've been looking around the bar a little. You notice a few members of the opposite sex sitting about - would you very loudly announce that you're looking for a date? Or in the case of this site, announce that you're here because you want someone to pee on you?  No - probably not.  Assuming you didn't walk into the pub on speed dating night, that person you're eying up could be married, engaged, with a partner or anything.  Of course it would make more sense to strike up a friendship and just see what happened from there.

Now - if you haven't given up reading by now - Imagine that you've been in the bar a while, in fact it's become your regular bar and you've become friends with quite a few people. You chat about all sorts of things.

Imagine though if a newcomer walks in and pretty much as soon as they've arrived starts asking people to leave the Peefans Bar to instead go to the pub down the road, can you imagine how quickly they'd get slung out of the door.  You wouldn't walk into a restaurant and ask for a table to eat your own picnic at would you?  In the same way, the bar staff aren't going to allow anyone coming into the bar solely to coax their drinkers into leaving to another bar.

But from time to time that happens here - new members join and soon, without really spending any time here, start advertising their own social media usernames..  follow me here, there, wherever it may be.  That's what Rule #8 is all about.  It's not staff being selfish, but it is about protecting our members and keeping our community safe.

Of course, when you're friends with people in the bar, you've got to know them and they know you, then there's nothing wrong with perhaps arranging to visit another bar with them from time to time.  It'd be rude to make it too obvious, staff aren't going to enjoy you talking openly about a different venue to theirs, but as long as you're not taking trade away from the Peefans Pub then probably nobody will mind.

Does that make sense?   Hopefully you can see where the Staff are at and why all the rules are written the way they are. 

So - Cheers, raise your glasses Ladies and Gentlemen, here's to good health and good company.

[Bacardi 9,032]

I love this. Ive gotten one too many random dick pics in my inbox or people pouncing on me to share pictures and stories of myself. So grateful for you guys keeping our little, beloved community safe!

[gldenwetgoose 20,212]

4 hours ago, Bacardi said:

I love this. Ive gotten one too many random dick pics in my inbox or people pouncing on me to share pictures and stories of myself. So grateful for you guys keeping our little, beloved community safe!

We try our best Ma'am....

And of course the message to everyone is if someone treats you like that - click and report it. You certainly won't get in trouble, they will in the first instance just get a friendly arm around the shoulder and some guidance.

[Eliminature 5,107]

Being a frequenter of pubs myself, I love this analogy. You are right, as usual. Thank you as always for looking out for us. 

Mine's a pint please! 🍺😉

[gldenwetgoose 20,212]

3 hours ago, Eliminature said:

Being a frequenter of pubs myself, I love this analogy. You are right, as usual. Thank you as always for looking out for us. 

Mine's a pint please! 🍺😉

 

[gldenwetgoose 20,212]

I just thought of another part to the analogy too...

When I was a youth at university, I went through a period of desperately wanting a girlfriend and at the same time was desperately shy - so if when I went into the student bars, I'd stand drinking on my own and of course spend all the evening until I left, on my own.  Now I've realised there were probably many other people in just that same situation.

Here on this community we see people post 'Hey, please chat with me' and often get zero response before getting frustrated.  The same thing is applying here, people don't know who this stranger is and are reluctant to make the first move.  So if you're one of the lonely people hoping to get into a chat - instead, be polite, be friendly, support others in their conversations, like what they post and gradually you'll make friends who are just dying to chat and br friends with you.

[Kupar 12,319]

I think you're spot on here @gldenwetgoose. I'm sure the thing to do is to comment positively on all the things one sees, in a respectful way. It's difficult to be part of any conversation by only clicking 'hot', 'like', thanks' etc. Just as in a pub you won't become part of the conversation by just smiling - though that's good too. I am a fundamentally shy person too, but irl when I have made the step to actually talk to someone - in a queue, or in a pub or shop, or even passing them on a country lane - the ice is broken much more than just exchanging a nod of the head. It makes you feel good, and it's from those initial interactions that conversations and even friendships grow.

[JMY 53]

I like this pub!I will sit in the corner nearest the Ladies(of course) and use my imagination as i see them going in but without actually annoying the girls.

[JMY 53]

On 10/25/2020 at 8:55 PM, gldenwetgoose said:

Welcome to the Peefans Pub - pull up a chair by the bar.

Today the Peefans Staff have introduced a clarification on site rule #8, it's an important point around using this site as a gateway to other social media sites.  You can read the rule in detail here.

Whenever I try and explain the reason for this rule and some of the other undesirable behaviour we as Staff try to deal with, I find myself using the analogy of a cosy local pub / bar...

So, good evening and welcome to the Peefans Pub.  As a new visitor, picture yourself having just moved into the neighbourhood and visiting your new local pub for the first time.  You walk through the door and up to the bar.  As you walk in you'll see quite a few people already there, some in small groups chatting, some sitting at tables.  Maybe a few sat on their own.  Hopefully the bar tender and a few of the locals will give you a friendly welcome too.

Now at this point - can you imagine walking in and immediately hitting on a pretty girl or a nice looking guy?  You've been there less than two minutes. You've never met them before, you don't know anything about them - but you immediately assume they're just waiting for you to pick them up. Immediately assume they're going to swoon and fall at your feet or whip off their underwear as soon as you've made eye contact?

No - unlikely?  Of course it's unlikely in real life, but it does happen.  Usually of course the bar staff will have an eye out for their regulars and anyone that undesirable would be shown the door pretty quickly.  It's exactly the same here.  We do from time to time get the odd new member strutting onto the site and immediately making very much the wrong impression. Thinking this is a dating site and everyone is a piece of meat for their taking. They also get shown the exit very quickly.

Also continuing the analogy, imagine you've got your first drink and you've been looking around the bar a little. You notice a few members of the opposite sex sitting about - would you very loudly announce that you're looking for a date? Or in the case of this site, announce that you're here because you want someone to pee on you?  No - probably not.  Assuming you didn't walk into the pub on speed dating night, that person you're eying up could be married, engaged, with a partner or anything.  Of course it would make more sense to strike up a friendship and just see what happened from there.

Now - if you haven't given up reading by now - Imagine that you've been in the bar a while, in fact it's become your regular bar and you've become friends with quite a few people. You chat about all sorts of things.

Imagine though if a newcomer walks in and pretty much as soon as they've arrived starts asking people to leave the Peefans Bar to instead go to the pub down the road, can you imagine how quickly they'd get slung out of the door.  You wouldn't walk into a restaurant and ask for a table to eat your own picnic at would you?  In the same way, the bar staff aren't going to allow anyone coming into the bar solely to coax their drinkers into leaving to another bar.

But from time to time that happens here - new members join and soon, without really spending any time here, start advertising their own social media usernames..  follow me here, there, wherever it may be.  That's what Rule #8 is all about.  It's not staff being selfish, but it is about protecting our members and keeping our community safe.

Of course, when you're friends with people in the bar, you've got to know them and they know you, then there's nothing wrong with perhaps arranging to visit another bar with them from time to time.  It'd be rude to make it too obvious, staff aren't going to enjoy you talking openly about a different venue to theirs, but as long as you're not taking trade away from the Peefans Pub then probably nobody will mind.

Does that make sense?   Hopefully you can see where the Staff are at and why all the rules are written the way they are. 

So - Cheers, raise your glasses Ladies and Gentlemen, here's to good health and good company.

Is THIS the Coach and Horses near Wakefield?

[gldenwetgoose 20,212]

On 12/27/2020 at 1:50 PM, JMY said:

Is THIS the Coach and Horses near Wakefield?

It is every good local pub, on the corner of every local street where locals meet to socialise, build friendships, share their woes, celebrate the positives in life and search out sympathy and understanding for lifes harder aspects.